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Living with family members

  1. Paul Edmondson profile image
    Paul Edmondsonposted 10 years ago

    Is it a good idea to live with your brothers, sisters or parents?

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      luvnlyfposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Gosh, why would you even think about it:)  If money is tight and it's a TEMPORARY situation and everyone has that same understanding, then yes. I found that once my sister, brother, and I got married, it was better to go out on our own and establish our own set of rules/traditions within our own families.  You can't do that with the same type of freedom when you're living with others.....

      I've had to live with family temporarily after we were all married and while I loved having the family close by, it was definitely a relief for all of us to go back to our own homes.  Good luck with that!

    2. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Nah ah, once one becomes an adult, it is good to live alone.   When you live with family as an adult, there is NO privacy.   There are noses always in your affairs.   Unless one is mentally or physically incapicitated, no adult should live with a family member.

    3. gmwilliams profile image86
      gmwilliamsposted 2 months agoin reply to this

      NO, adults should have their own autonomy.  The only way to have this autonomy is to live alone.

  2. jimmythejock profile image87
    jimmythejockposted 10 years ago

    Financialy it has it's benefits, but living with your parents you lose some of your independence and your behavior is restricted lol, there are some things that you would never dare do or say with your parents present that you would quite happily do in the comfort of your own home.
    living with your parents highlights your inner child, they can't just stop themselves from being your parents telling you how to live, admonishing your table manners, spitting on a cloth and wiping your face if you have a smudge on it lol, you become a child again even if you are 60 years old......jimmy

  3. Misha profile image73
    Mishaposted 10 years ago

    I did not live with siblings since I left my parents house, but I have an experience of living with parents lately, both mine and my wife's. Our parents do babysitting, and they "work in shifts". We bring them in for about half a year, then get a short break, and then bring in other parents. It costs about the same as nanny would cost us, but it has a great benefit of grandma and grandpa interacting with kids all the time.

    Half a year is bearable psychologically, but this is probably as long as it gets. By the end of this period tension mounts up usually, and everybody is happy to stay away for some time smile But we think it's worth it that our kids have grandma and grandpa right here all the time, not some long-distance relations with gatherings once a year...

  4. relache profile image88
    relacheposted 10 years ago

    After twenty years of living fairly far away from the rest of my family, I am now housemates with my younger sister, living in the same city as our parents, who are our landlords.

  5. ripplemaker profile image86
    ripplemakerposted 10 years ago

    In our Filipino/Chinese culture, it is not unusual for families to be living together.  It has its advantages as well its disadvantages. :-)  But I wouldn't mind if I have a place of my own.

  6. Stacie Naczelnik profile image72
    Stacie Naczelnikposted 10 years ago

    When I was 19, I moved in with my aunt and uncle, and their three young children.  I lived with them for four years.  People always thought it was weird, encouraging me to move out and be more independent.  But, I loved living with them.  It was fabulous.  I got to grow closer to their family, learn how a family dynamic works (I come from a very dysfunctional, weird family unit), and had a normal, stable home while going through my wild times.  I definitely had more freedoms and securities living with them than I did before moving in with them, when I was on my own.
    My husband's family live in Poland.  His uncle still lives with his father's parents.  His aunt, her husband, and their children live his mother's parents.  We often talk about his mother living with us someday.  It will definitely be an adjustment for me, but I think close families are a good thing.
    Misha: I love what your family does.  What a wonderful situation for your children.

  7. waynet profile image74
    waynetposted 10 years ago

    I myself could never live with family again as it always caused restrictions and odd moments of stupidity and insanity that drinking sessions always remained the highlight of the year but the embarrassment of the town, my brother lived with us for awhile but he didn't get on with the mrs, so he had to go!

    So no this is simply a no no!

  8. belief713 profile image78
    belief713posted 10 years ago

    I have to agree with jimmythejock. It does have it's benefits financially but it also has it's setbacks as parents will be parents. There are 6 1/2 of us in the house now! Myself (pregnant, which is the 1/2), my husband, our son, my mom, my brother, and his fiance. And oddly enough, I love it (most times).

    We usually all get a long and keep our own spaces - but it's also nice to know there's others there to share in the household maintenance (both financially and physically). We take turns cooking, cleaning, paying bills, etc. I don't know, like I said, I enjoy it.

    There are some days where there's just no peace because of all the different schedules. And there are times when I daydream about what it would be like to be on our own. My brother and his fiancee will be leaving when they get married this summer, but my mom will always be around (she has a lot of health issues and needs someone around).

    I know we're not the norm, at least in this country...but I think it's great that I can have my family members so close (most of the time).

  9. Misha profile image73
    Mishaposted 10 years ago

    Thanks Stacie, we are trying to be the conscious parents smile

  10. Stacie Naczelnik profile image72
    Stacie Naczelnikposted 10 years ago

    belief, I think that is awesome!  I would love to have a close family like that.  I hope to be able to offer to my cousins what my aunt and uncle offered to me.

    Misha, it really is awesome.  I'm hoping to have family around for my kids, when we have them.  Who knows?  We might end up in Poland, where my husband's family is.  My family is kind of spread out.  I want my children to experience both heritages: American and Polish.

    1. belief713 profile image78
      belief713posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks! That's funny, my mom is Polish! My husband is Panamanian, my dad African American, so we are a very diverse family!

      We're thinking of moving to Panama in the next few years.

      That's on of the best parts I think - is having the family around for the little guys. Our son, Cristian, loves having so many people around and there's always someone to play with! smile

  11. Raleigh profile image46
    Raleighposted 10 years ago

    When my maternal grandfather passed away, my grandmother didn't want to continue living on her own.  She asked if she might be able to move in with my family. I was thrilled.  Luckily, my husband was receptive to the idea. We were getting ready to move out of our starter house, so we found something with an inlaw-suite.
    It was the perfect solution for our growing family, and a decision I will never regret. I will cherish those last 10 years of my grandmothers life forever.  She was an incredible person and a blessing to me, my husband and to my 4 children (now 5 children!). She loved living with us and having her family close to her.  It's what she wanted.
    I do have to admit that the last 10 months were tough.....my grandmother was sick, wheelchairs, 24-hr care-givers,long hrs,family members that weren't so easy to be around......but I would do it all again.  It's what we do for family....for those we love.