Would you date a man who is over 40 years old who's still living at home with

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  1. Darknlovely3436 profile image71
    Darknlovely3436posted 13 years ago

    Would you date a man who is over 40 years old
    who's still living  at home with his mother.?

    1. Fancy Poet Girl profile image80
      Fancy Poet Girlposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      HECK NO!

  2. Tony DeLorger profile image64
    Tony DeLorgerposted 13 years ago

    Probably a woman over forty years old who lives with her mother would. The problem is usually that in what possible circumstances could they meet. They would probably have little confidence and wouldn't have an active social life. There is a partner out there for everyone. Whether you meet that person or not depends on your thinking and what you're prepared to do to find that person. It's a cruel world out there, but if you really want something, the only thing that stands in your way is you. Go out there and make life happen. Sitting back and wishing won't do it. One has to be proactive in life. In conclusion, most people would not date this 40 year old, but that has nothing to do with their value as a human being. LIke I said there is a partner for everyone; we're all different.

  3. 2besure profile image78
    2besureposted 13 years ago

    Scary as heck!  No I would not date a man with apron strings so tightly around his mommy that he has no left home.

    1. profile image52
      brwnshirlposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I agree, it is very scary. To me, its like raising another kid. I think most guys are afraid of being out on their own. They find it easier to just lounge off others.

      1. Fancy Poet Girl profile image80
        Fancy Poet Girlposted 3 years agoin reply to this


  4. Darknlovely3436 profile image71
    Darknlovely3436posted 13 years ago

    I totally agree with your answered, he is no man , he is a big kid...

  5. profile image0
    Dandraposted 13 years ago

    Uhh noooo.                                                                                       .

    1. nightwork4 profile image61
      nightwork4posted 13 years ago

      i wouldn't date any man but just say it was a woman you were asking about then it would depend on why she lived with her mom.

    2. junkseller profile image79
      junksellerposted 13 years ago

      Well, I definitely wouldn't date a woman who makes superficial judgements about someone without knowing anything about them.

      There are lots of reasons to live with parents. Maybe he takes care of her for instance, which would in fact make him a man and not a "big kid".

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        CalebSparksposted 10 years agoin reply to this


    3. wychic profile image79
      wychicposted 13 years ago

      It all depends -- is he there because he just hasn't had the gumption to move out? Lost his job and financially didn't have any other choice? Mother needed daily supervision?

      If he's still at home because he still likes having his mom take care of him then that would be a definite problem, and I most certainly would not date him because he's obviously not a good maturity match for me, and would likely expect me to take over mom's job in taking care of him. On the other hand, if it's a matter of him taking care of her, financial issues beyond his control, or because he's simply not home much so all he needs is a bed to crash in (depending on the reason), then there may be nothing wrong with it.

    4. profile image51
      too flyposted 13 years ago

      depends. oops i meant depends? is he in adult diapers or still the infant ones? joking .really. in fact sorry i couldnt pass on it. seriously, circumstances especially now days have to be considered(economy)    i say get the whole story,background, leading up to,then make an informed decision. sorry so long. b-easy

    5. RealHousewife profile image67
      RealHousewifeposted 13 years ago

      No! No! No!  If a man cant learn to live on his own and take care of himself by the time he is 40 - he could never take care of a wife or family of his own.

      1. profile image52
        brwnshirlposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        You are so right. 40 or older is a huge red flag. Something is not right.

    6. akuigla profile image60
      akuiglaposted 13 years ago

      A friend of mine,doctor,specialist in internal medicine, is taking care of his mother and they live together.
      He is divorced and he doesnt want to send his mother to  the old people home.He is paying a nurse to help him.
      I know that in the USA, and many other counties, it is common to send old parents to Home for retired people.And work and work and work...Where the money is most important,parents,children and other people are behind the money.
      People are different.
      So are the priorities.
      He is over 40,very kind,sensitive person.
      He respects his mom.And takes care of her.
      I believe that a woman who doesnt want to be with him just because of his mom is a vary bad woman.In every sense.

    7. Pagelift profile image60
      Pageliftposted 13 years ago

      Probably not. No, I wouldn't. My old instructor was around 40 and lives with his mom, and has never moved out; scary dude.

      1. jacobjanice profile image36
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    8. Jengyp profile image71
      Jengypposted 13 years ago

      Yes I would, in this economy we all have to make sacrifiices, plus she probably apprecated the company and care you are able to give her,.

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    9. luckycharmz profile image61
      luckycharmzposted 13 years ago

      It's probably his vocation/calling to take care of his mother.  If not, well...unless the woman really loves him and wants to "mother" him, then she should date him.   :-)

    10. Ashantina profile image60
      Ashantinaposted 13 years ago

      Personally, no.
      And especially if he'd never left home...

    11. cheapsk8chick profile image46
      cheapsk8chickposted 13 years ago

      I already do.  Well, I'm not technically his mother, but sometimes I might as well be smile  As far as hypothetically, I guess it would depend on how strong the connection is between us (or how cute he is... hehe).

    12. Harlan Colt profile image79
      Harlan Coltposted 13 years ago

      The traditional family dynamic has been shattered for several generations. My mother is in her mid 70's. If she needed me, I would move her in with me without a blink of an eye. Remember the old rule, "Do not judge someone until you have walked a mile or so in their shoes..."

      You might be missing out on the most unselfish, most giving man you ever met.
      - Harlan

    13. angel115707 profile image61
      angel115707posted 13 years ago

      Nope, no no...
      I always thought I would be happy, like "Lady and the Tramp" came from a good family and dated tramps...umm you know, that do nothings are just as mean as men who accomplish things in life, and after the honeymoon phase wears off, a woman needs a guy who challenges himself, and others, who has goals and dreams, not some one who is content with Family Guy and beer every night till he dies...I've been there....NEVA AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!

    14. Austin Yordy profile image59
      Austin Yordyposted 13 years ago

      no, but that is because I am straight smile

    15. Jarn profile image61
      Jarnposted 13 years ago

      Depends on his reasons for doing so. He might be unemployed, in which case he's a loser. The living with his mother is just incidental. However, he might be living with his mother because she is ill or otherwise unable to care for herself. In this case, he's sacrificing his own wants to ensure for the wellbeing of the woman who raised him, displaying the utmost in compassion. This should be recognized.

    16. micahjoy profile image59
      micahjoyposted 13 years ago

      It depends why he is living there. Does he take care of his mother?  Does he have a job? Has he ever lived on his own but then due to circumstances had to move home?  Does he have his own space or is the house too small for him to comfortably have his own life?

      If he has no job, has never left home, and lives with his mother at 40, naturally this would be concerning.

      However, there are numerous circumstances including being the caretaker for his mother, loss of a job, etc. that makes this question difficult to answer without knowing the situation, or the person.

    17. profile image0
      Longhunterposted 13 years ago

      I moved into the basement apartment of my parent's house at the age of 40 when I got divorced. This was to stay close to my son who was 11 at the time. A year after he graduated from high school and was off to college, I bought a house in another town and got remarried.

      I did what I did to be close to my son and was lucky to have had the opportunity. Perhaps you would do well to find out with this man lives where he lives before passing judgment.

      1. profile image52
        brwnshirlposted 9 years agoin reply to this

        Longhunter  your situation is different, it was temporary, some guys NEVER leave, it becomes a comfort zone. Mom doing the cooking, laundry, why leave? This guy i dated has never lived on his own, not working, and he has a six year old son living.

    18. GALAXY 59 profile image90
      GALAXY 59posted 13 years ago

      I don't know, I guess if he was still at home because he was looking after a sick or disabled mother then that would mean he was a wonderful man. If he was still living at home because he was too cheap or lazy to move out then that would be another matter.

    19. LuisEGonzalez profile image78
      LuisEGonzalezposted 12 years ago

      I am living with my parents; I went through a divorce, I rather give my money towards my kids, I help my parents, they asked me to move in with them. So why does a man live with his parents could be because of a plethora of reasons.

      I guess the saying "Don't judge a book by its cover...just read it" applies.

    20. Indiandatingrahul profile image60
      Indiandatingrahulposted 12 years ago

      I think it happens due to his family circumstances. I normally do online dating here http://india.proximeety.com/ and come with this type of questions many times it may happened.

    21. loneparentgiggles profile image60
      loneparentgigglesposted 12 years ago

      Ah, you've met my ex... only this time he's lying about his age! He got older though! Lol... No way... Avoid all men who are over 25 and still living at home with mummy... Any support you need you will not receive... my ex had no concept of bills, of running a house, of shopping properly, or of raising a child.

    22. jLou03 profile image58
      jLou03posted 12 years ago

      no, definitely not.

    23. LittlePayday profile image60
      LittlePaydayposted 12 years ago

      Does he look like Johnny Depp? If so, that's a definite - Yes.

    24. profile image0
      happy mummsyposted 12 years ago

      no .. period .. sorry for being too honest but not unless the house is owned by him and his mom is the one living with him and he is helping to support her due to old age and illness, there is no way i will be interested in a grown man who still depends on his folks. ~ m

    25. profile image49
      lucymcbeesposted 12 years ago

      no, definitely not? It all depends from personality and the person. Maybe both are rich.

    26. drspaniel profile image85
      drspanielposted 12 years ago


      1. Because I'm a man myself and I'm not interested in the same sex. (In that way.)
      2. He should get out there and get a job, or get at least a house of his own! Imagine how embarrassing it would be to have the mother walk in on you two!

      1. Paula Rodriguez profile image61
        Paula Rodriguezposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I'm a woman who is dating a 28 years old man who is a online date scams to women. He thinks women are to stupid because they believe all his lies he tells them.

    27. delaneyworld profile image71
      delaneyworldposted 12 years ago

      It would depend on the content of his character.  I am 40 years old living with my mother.  She is my best friend.  I am disabled and don't know what I would do without her.  We take care of each other and are always there.  If a man lived with his mom - providing he is a good man - it would not be an issue.

    28. erorantes profile image46
      erorantesposted 10 years ago

      Yes it is the best thing that can happen to someone. Later , if things work out for good. He will move in with you. For sure , you are not taking him from someone else. Or you can move with him and his mother too. If you like him a lot.

    29. profile image52
      brwnshirlposted 9 years ago

      I dated a guy 42 who live at home with his mom. I didn't know at first. He told me his grandmother had died and left him the house, and he was living there with his son. I found out later he had told all his lady friends this. The home is his mom's. He's been living there with her since grade school, he never lived on his own. He lied about working, he don't. His mom works everyday, but he stays home with his son playing on FB, and his ipad cheering women online about how beautiful they are. The guy was a loser and I'm so glad I got away. He has no shame letting his mom walk out that door everyday and he just sits there. He never had money, he was just a man who wanted everyone to feel sorry for him. I would still date a guy who lives at home, ONLY if he's working and maintaining, or caring for a sick relative. This guy was just a lazy bum.

    30. elenagarcia profile image65
      elenagarciaposted 9 years ago

      depends on the circumstance.  why is he still living at home?  there is nothing wrong with still living at home.  admittedly there are some perks to it.  the question is, though, why is he stil living at home when most venture out to establish their own home and life.  so depending on the circumstances, yes i would date a man who is over 40 and still living at home with his mother.

      1. zyztematic profile image61
        zyztematicposted 7 years agoin reply to this

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    31. profile image0
      ShujinkoDegusposted 9 years ago

      If he cares about his parents, yes. Look at a person's values.

      1. profile image57
        Nuelchesbyposted 6 years agoin reply to this

        You said exactly my mind..
        Living at your parents house isn't the problem.. If he doesn't romantic things then there is a problem.

    32. profile image0
      Nyc1996posted 8 years ago

      It depends upon the situation. If the man was living on his mother's home to be with his mother, which means to help her, there would be a chance that I would date him. But if the man is living there because he has no job and keeps on being dependent to his mother, I definitely won't. It just shows that he has no goals of his own.

    33. profile image0
      LoliHeyposted 8 years ago

      If I had a crush on the guy, I would date him no matter what.  You never know the entire story.  Was he laid off from his job and trying to get back on his feet?  Did his wife cheat on him and he had no where else to go?  Does his mother need someone around?  Perhaps she has no money or job and can't get one for some reason, and he is taking care of her and paying the bills.

    34. gmmurgirl profile image83
      gmmurgirlposted 7 years ago

      If he is worth it, I'll try to find out why he does.

    35. Deborah Demander profile image91
      Deborah Demanderposted 7 years ago

      I went on a date with a man who is in his early 40's. I discovered, during the course of our date, that he lives at home. At first, I figured it was to take care of his mom and help her. It turned out that he is the one being taken care of. I have three children living at home, and he acted like one of them. He had never been married or had children, or responsibilities. It was too hard for us to relate to each other's problems.
      After only one date, he was ready to get serious and move forward. I definitely wouldn't do that again.

      1. Darknlovely3436 profile image71
        Darknlovely3436posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        you did the right thing.... thank you for replying

    36. HLKeeley profile image81
      HLKeeleyposted 6 years ago

      I would not date someone with that much information. I would need to know more about him. What are his interests? What is his mother like? Do I have an emotional connection to him?

      There are some red flags as a female because I want to be with someone that can support me. If mom is supporting him, do I have to support him? The logistics will work themselves out, but there is just not enough information for a definite answer.

    37. realtalk247 profile image77
      realtalk247posted 6 years ago

      What's the situation?  Is he financially dependent on his mother? Is he helping his mother?  Is he helping his family and banking his money? Is he staying at home rather than spending money renting to make others rich?
      So, it depends on his situation.
      That being said, broke and at home not self-sufficient - NO!

    38. peachpurple profile image82
      peachpurpleposted 6 years ago

      If that chap is extremely rich, has property, cash and and inheritance to lands or companny, yes, why not? Just pacify the old lady and put my name into old the cash

    39. Rosana Modugno profile image73
      Rosana Modugnoposted 6 years ago

      I married a man who was 40 years old and lived with his mother, ignored all the warnings from friends, red flags he and his mother gave me.  I made excuses for him living there, even though he had a steady job and could well afford being in his own place.  Eventually it became clear he was the stereotypical mama's boy; spoiled, immature, pathological little rich kid who never grew up, never had kids, was forever his mother's son above all else.  Needless to say we divorced soon after.  The only difference between he and Norman Bates was he never owned a hotel.

    40. A Secret Fanfare profile image72
      A Secret Fanfareposted 6 years ago

      In our culture, that would be no problem. As long as he takes care of her and he has his own job and is not a bum. With that kind of man, you could tell he's family-oriented and respects women.

      But actually, there are a lot of reasons. So if you think that he's just a "big kid" living with his mom maybe you should look beyond the surface before you judge.

    41. jmoboy1 profile image76
      jmoboy1posted 2 years ago

      I am a 42 year old guy who's living at home with his parents. I could make excuses for it and will try. Firstly, why do most people first move out? Because they go to uni, co-habit with friends, or get a job elsewhere. I never went to uni or had friends who were in a position I could've moved in with. I struggled with anxiety until my 30s and never even dated until then. In my late 30s, I eventually made a move to live on my own in the area (renting). Its not a cheap area and with no partner, I got very lonely, and soon came back home. I then tried a house share elsewhere, but didn't get on with my house mate. I'm now home again and have figured that for me, it's not worth spending money on an expensive rent to be alone, so unless I meet someone, I'll be staying put. I don't like it, but it's better than the alternative. If a woman can't understand that and judges every aspect of me based entirely on that, then that's up to her, but I think it also doesn't reflect that well on her if she does.

    42. Ann Michaels1 profile image70
      Ann Michaels1posted 2 years ago

      I think every person should judge a each scenario based on what and why. Not generalize the statement. Sometimes there are reasons to be with family. Learn a person. Find out what a person is all about. Once you know why a person is making a decision or choice then you can know if they are someone that you can date. I am most certain knowing myself I am far from perfect, so judging before not knowing, might be my loss.


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