Do you as a Parent show favoritism towards your child?

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   clivewilliamsposted 7 years ago

   Do you as a Parent show favoritism towards your child?
   
   for parents with more than one child, do you show noticeable favoritism. If so, how does it affect the other kids?

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   Ann810posted 7 years ago

   I have four children, and each one is my favorite for their own unique ways. Each one of them are special for their own individual character. Each child differs in kindness or strength in ways than other child.

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      clivewilliamsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      but do you have a favorite

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      Ann810posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      That's like someone wanting to know if the Most High God has favorites among humans, which He calls His children. Maybe God has a favorite of His children, and He mentions it in the Bible.

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   Ericdierkerposted 7 years ago

   This is a tough one with four great children. I definitely show favoritism to the one who has treated me best lately.

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      Ann810posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Well Eric, I would have to write a book for each 4 of them, explaining why each one is my favorite in their own way. Only a mother could understand I guess.

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   gmwilliamsposted 7 years ago

   
   
   The majority of parents w/few exceptions show favoritism toward a child or children in the multichild families.  That is normative behavior.   Parents are human beings w/ particular likes & dislikes. Parents have preferences like other human beings.  In multichild families, there is always going to be a child or children that parents are going to treat more preferentially than other children in the family. 
   
   There are many reasons why one child or some children will be favored over others in the family.  The child or children may have personality, beliefs, & interests which are similar to the parents.  The child or children may have a prodigious talent that stands out from other children.  The child or children may be the manageable, compliant child that the parents adores.    Parents usually favor the child or children who conform to the particular familial/parental paradigm.   
   
   Even though parents proclaim that they don't practice favoritism, children know that it is a lie.  Children KNOW when favoritism is practiced.  There are positive & negative aspects of favoritism.  Favorite children may be treated preferentially but they have undue debt to their parents.  They oftentimes have to subvert their true selves in order to be in their parents' favor.  They also incur jealousy from the other children in the family.  Favorite children are often targets of abuse from other children, especially the less favored ones.

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      clivewilliamsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      very true

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   peachpurpleposted 7 years ago

   hubby says i favor my son more than my daughter. I say, he favors my daughter than my son, What gives?

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