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Do you believe that parents of a child should be married?

  1. Sandi Kroeger profile image80
    Sandi Kroegerposted 23 months ago

    Do you believe that parents of a child should be married?

    Or do you believe that it no longer makes much difference as long as both attempt to be the best parent they can be?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 23 months ago


    Providing a nurturing loving environment for a child to grow up in is far more important than the (marital status) of his or her parents.
    My parents were married and let me just say:
    You'll have to wait to see the movie of my life story to see how that worked out.smile

    1. Sandi Kroeger profile image80
      Sandi Kroegerposted 23 months agoin reply to this

      I may not have been clear in my question. I was asking if the parents of a child should be married to each other? Or...if a couple is NOT married (but parents to a child) should they get married...or simply focus on having a happy family?

  3. lisavollrath profile image95
    lisavollrathposted 23 months ago

    No. I think it's more important that a child is raised in a happy, healthy home, by people who love him or her.

  4. roselinsojan profile image50
    roselinsojanposted 23 months ago

    I think parents must sacrifice themselves for their children.some times there will be fights with father&mother .after all the fights, children must know their parents are loving their children& loving each other themselves.you can fight but after some time you must love too.

    1. Sandi Kroeger profile image80
      Sandi Kroegerposted 23 months agoin reply to this

      If the parents of a child have never been married to each other, should they get married just for the sake of being "legal"? I guess that is more of the question I'm asking. Or does being "legal" mean nothing these days anyway?

  5. peachpurple profile image83
    peachpurpleposted 23 months ago

    if both parents are married, then the child should be happy.

    Unless they are divorced, then what is the point to remarry again ?
    Instead, focus on the child happiness .

  6. Annsalo profile image83
    Annsaloposted 23 months ago

    Being married does not, and never has implied a safe, caring, loving environment. Actually marriage has nothing to do with providing any of those things.
    Marriage is a piece of paper. It does not make a person become good. It doesn't make a person a better parent.
    So no. As someone who came from some seriously screwed up married people, no I don't think the parents should HAVE to be married. It is far more important that the parents love and respect each other before becoming parents, and carry that love and respect over to the child.
    In an ideal world though, the child would have two parents in the home. Just provides some balance.

  7. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 15 months ago


    Parents of a child should either be MARRIED or in a VERY STRONG, LASTING COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP.  There are no two ways about this.  In addition to these components, parents of a child must be at least solidly middle class socioeconomically & have at the minimum a college education.  It is preferable for parents to be upper middle to upper class so that children can have myriad intellectual, cultural, educational, & socioeconomic opportunities. 

    Poor & less educated parents(married) should NEVER think of having children.  Such parents have absolutely nothing to offer their children & these children will be condemned to a childhood of struggle, want, poverty, & diminished opportunities which will adversely affect them in adulthood.  I would like to add that there should be psychological tests & licensing before any couple want to be parents.  Not everyone is parent material.  Parenthood should be a privilege, not a right.  Too many unqualified people are parents-look at the detrimental & deleterious effects of such parents on our society & culture.

    My rules regarding being a parent:
    (1) Married or in a strong committal relationship.
    (2) Be at least solidly middle class.  It is preferable to be upper middle & upper class. Children who are poor have diminished chances & opportunities.  There is also more stress in poor households.
    (3) Have a college &/or advanced education.  Educated parents have more to offer intellectually & academically to their children, giving them a head start.  Children of educated parents have more advantages & are academically advanced as opposed to children of less educated parents.(4) Be emotionally, intellectually, & psychologically mature.
    (5) Don't have children before they are at least 31.  Parents should be established educationally & socioeconomically before having children.  They should explore relationship options(sowing wild oats) so they have no regrets when married or in committal relationships. Better to have children when one is in the mid-30s. Parents in their 30s have explored their youth & life options so they are more patient w/their children than parents in their 20s who haven't lived yet & have resentments towards their children because of lost youth.