what is the most important thing that an adopted child should know his or her bi

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    Levuposted 13 years ago

    what is the most important thing that an adopted child should know his or her biological parent?

  2. HannahRiley profile image60
    HannahRileyposted 13 years ago

    That they loved them, and realized that they couldn't provide what they knew their child deserved at that time. Whether it be time to spend with them, financial stability, or a safe home, food...ect. It is important to explain that although children are sometimes unexpected, no one is a mistake.

    I think it takes a strong person to be selfless and give up their child to be adopted when they realize that they can't provide what their children need. Too often people keep their children although they don't have the means to support them at all. Children will be in unsafe situations, or create a viscious cycle. This is a touchy subject, but good question!

  3. Just lip service profile image61
    Just lip serviceposted 13 years ago

    That they will always be a part of thier lives...and being adopted is nothing to be ashamed of.  There is such a stigma on adopted children that should not be there....They should know that they are loved above all...

  4. Lisa HW profile image62
    Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

    I'm not sure (particularly as someone who was raised by parents who were biological parents) that I can come up with one specific "most important thing" in reply to this question.  I think, so often, it may depend on the individual birth parents and individual child and circumstances and history of all involved. 

    As someone who knows close to nothing about a lot of details of my own grandparents' lives/histories, I don't happen to believe that a lot of details about family background (particularly past the birth parents) are something we can't live happily enough without.

    I think all adopted children need to know that if their birth mother had been able and/or ready to take on the responsibilities/role of being "the kind of mother a child needs" she would not have chosen to place her child for adoption (or else had him/her removed from her care by the state).  I think, even in the case of a girl or woman getting pregnant by mistake and saying, "I just don't want this baby," an adopted child needs to know his/her birth mother was (by virtue of risking an accidental pregnancy to take place at all) not mature enough (no matter how old she was) to be good and sure she didn't have a pregnancy if she knew she wouldn't want the baby.  Then, too, there are girls/women who are the victims of rape and/or incest and either can't or shouldn't be expected to raise a child after herself being emotionally harmed to the point beyond her ability to do a good job of it, or love the child.

    I guess what I think all adopted people need to know is that birth mothers aren't monsters who didn't want their baby just because they didn't want him/her.  The most careless or indifferent of them have been, in one way or another, damaged to the point of being careless of indifferent. Many are victims themselves in one way or another, and the choice to place a child for adoption is pretty much always a choice aimed at at least trying to offer the child the kind of parent(s) every child deserves and needs.

    Other than that, I think they need to understand that no matter who/what their birth parents were; when babies are adopted in infancy their personality, health, and so many other things about them is formed as a result of how they're nurtured by their adoptive parents; so sometimes it doesn't really matter much who or what the birth parents were nearly as much as many people believe (and lead adoptive children to believe).

  5. Jayheart profile image59
    Jayheartposted 13 years ago

    Adopted children need to know that their birth parents loved them, but chose to give them up because they were not able to care for them for whatever reason. Also, the adopted child should have medical information on the bio parents.

  6. romari profile image56
    romariposted 13 years ago

    the reasons why the adoptee was given away.

  7. angela_michelle profile image93
    angela_michelleposted 13 years ago

    That they were loved and wanted by bio parents.

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    MistyKnappposted 7 years ago

    I'm adopted and the most important thing that I learned about my birth parents is that my birth mother had a hard time raising 4 children. But something that might be an important thing for an adopted child to know is the WHY. I have read that almost all adoptees want to know why they were placed for adoption, often wondering what they did wrong.


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