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Which of the these do you think is more important in a relationship: love or re

  1. leroy64 profile image82
    leroy64posted 4 years ago

    Which of the these do you think is more important in a relationship:  love or respect?


  2. Thief12 profile image92
    Thief12posted 4 years ago

    First, you don't choose who you love, but you can choose who to respect. And if you truly love someone, you'll respect him/her, so both are necessary in the relationship. Love without respect won't work. On the other hand, if you respect your partner, but don't love him/her, then what's the point of the relationship?

    1. lupine profile image74
      lupineposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Well said...only common sense, right?

  3. Lisa HW profile image73
    Lisa HWposted 4 years ago

    I've read that a whole, healthy, love can't exist without respect (and that's not just with romantic love, but with the other types of relationships we have as well) and admiration (and I believe that).

    If anyone really thinks about a number of different types of relationships/love, he'll probably notice that there's "fierce caring" or "very attached" and/or there's definitely SOME kind of love felt for the other person; but in so many relationships there's also some degree of lack of respect that amounts to one person feeling he's just a little (or a lot) more superior/important than the other, as a human being in one's own right.

  4. shwetha123 profile image73
    shwetha123posted 4 years ago

    If some one in a relationship then definitely love comes first. And where there is love respect comes automatically. Love and respect is like the two face of a same coin. If you are in love then respect is there.

  5. edhan profile image61
    edhanposted 4 years ago

    Personally, both are important. But if I am to choose then it will be love.

    When you love a person, you kinda have respect in a way. Whereas when a person respects you, it does not mean he loves you.

  6. erorantes profile image53
    erorantesposted 4 years ago

    Both are good. Love first and then respect.You respect every individual. Love is unique. You have to respect the love the someone is giving you. It can be your mother"s love. or your children 's love. Your wife's love, or your friend's love. Love is not a disrespectful feeling. In some culture. You most respect to get love. In some countries love is part of the culture.Like, one night stand.Can lead you to a great relationship , to Just good memories and bad menories. you could have disrespected another person's  thought. Not when one person agree with the other person  on the out come. It is good to respect first.

  7. maddot profile image80
    maddotposted 4 years ago

    Like tea and toast..they go together. Love all mankind = respect all mankind.
    You may love someone but not respect how they behave sometimes but basically you respect and love the person; it's just the behaviour you may not always respect.

    1. leroy64 profile image82
      leroy64posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting point about not respecting the behavior.  (Tea and toast?  I will have to try that.  If I understand the spirit of the phrase, I offer beer and brisket as an equivalent phrase.)

  8. lupine profile image74
    lupineposted 4 years ago

    It depends on the type of relationship. In a loving relationship, love and respect go hand-in-hand. If you love someone, you give them respect automatically, and they should do the same for you. For example, if you love your wife or girlfriend, your mother, father, sister, or any type of loving relationship, then you should also respect them. If you claim to love someone and don't respect them, then you really don't love them. If you respect someone, it doesn't necessarily mean you love them. For example you may respect your boss, or your teacher, but that doesn't mean you love them.

  9. Alecia Murphy profile image78
    Alecia Murphyposted 4 years ago

    I feel like in many ways love grows from having a healthy respect of another person.

  10. Savio Dawson profile image91
    Savio Dawsonposted 4 years ago

    Hi Leroy64,

    The answer is quite simple – Love is the most important thing in a relationship. If you have genuine Love then respect, admiration, appreciation and all good things follow. Genuine respect in fact, comes out of Love. If you love what an athlete has achieved, or you love what your boss or Dad can do then you have genuine respect for them.

    So, the bottom line is Love from your heart and all good things should follow.

  11. WalterPoon profile image80
    WalterPoonposted 4 years ago

    I always thought the two goes hand in hand. Is it possible to have one without the other?

    1. leroy64 profile image82
      leroy64posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      It is possible to have respect for people you don't care for.  I am not convinced that respect automatically follows love, or the other way around.  However,, both appear to be present in marriages and friendships that last a long time.

    2. WalterPoon profile image80
      WalterPoonposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, I agree with you. Can I change my answer? LOL. There are people whom we respect for their guts, but they are not lovable at all, e.g. Mao Zedong, Adolf Hitler, etc. etc.

  12. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    People have died for the person they (love). I've never heard of anyone willing to die for someone they (respected).
    Love also elicits (loyalty). It's not uncommon to dislike a person one respects based upon their position and power. Oftentimes given an opportunity to unseat them or replace them they would.
    With regard to personal relationships (love and respect) tend to go hand in hand. When you are "in love" with someone you treat them with respect as well as kindness.
    Their happiness is important to you.

  13. stanwshura profile image75
    stanwshuraposted 4 years ago

    Love is more important because it *includes* respect.

  14. connorj profile image77
    connorjposted 4 years ago


    It has to be love. Love is the precursor of respect. "all you need is love;" yet it is difficult to obtain because it is indeed so comprehensive of many other traits (i.e. respect)...

  15. SidKemp profile image95
    SidKempposted 4 years ago

    I see respect as the first ingredient of love.

    If respect is lost, love will quickly collapse.

    If we want to rebuild love, then start by respecting the other. From there, we can regrow love, trust, and the other essentials of relationship. Read my hubs on making relationships work with love langauges, apology, and gratitude for more.

    Also, many relationships, such as friendships, are based on friendship and may not include love.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      I agree respect and love go hand in hand in relationships. It's not likely someone would be "in love" with someone they did not respect! However it is possible to respect someone and not be "in love" with them! :-)

    2. SidKemp profile image95
      SidKempposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Actually, I have remained in love with my wife for over 30 years, and she with me, but there were times that we lost respect for one another. It is perhaps the most painful moment in a marriage. We chose to repair respect when others would divorce.

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    Rayne123posted 4 years ago

    If one has love in their hearts then everything else falls in place.
    Love is the most important quality in a human being.
    If you do not love someone how can you really feel respect.
    You can respect people and not "be in love", but then you obviously like this person.

    If you dont love/respect yourself then you will never love/respect anyone else.

  17. Aadom23 profile image61
    Aadom23posted 4 years ago

    This is very hard to distinguish but i believe that you must have respect first for a person in order to love them. Without respect it is very hard to fully love a person; if there is no respect the love will not be genuine.

  18. d.william profile image77
    d.williamposted 4 years ago

    Thief12 said it all.  We don't "choose" who we love, but if we choose to not respect that person, the love won't last very long.
    If we respect someone for who they are we may eventually fall in love with them.  So they sort of go hand in hand.
    Unless, of course you fall in love with someone who does not respect you, or love you back,  then there is nothing worse than unrequited love.

  19. DexisView profile image74
    DexisViewposted 4 years ago

    You can respect someone and not love them, but you can't love someone and not respect them. 
    I would say that love is the more powerful emotion and; therefore, more important. 
    It's amazing how quickly respect can go when a once loving relationship goes bad and harsh words are spoken.

    1. lupine profile image74
      lupineposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, as soon as the love is gone...the respect goes right along with it. That's why I said they go "hand-in-hand" in my comment...for good or bad.

  20. TKirTigs profile image79
    TKirTigsposted 4 years ago

    Respect and love for yourself.

    If there is respect and love for yourself then you respect and love others and you do not allow them to disrespect you.

    Feelings come from both sides of the relationship as well as respect. To earn and or keep someone's respect is a hard road. Everyone has different values and definition of the two words love and respect, so first learn your partners definition and value of the words.

    By simply being humble and caring, a lesson will be learned. Respect and love are but a heartbeat away from each other.

  21. Coolh profile image61
    Coolhposted 4 years ago

    Both are important I have always thought the two goes hand in hand. If you don't have respect for the other person you certainly can't look up to them or want to make them your partner.

  22. Kevin Peter profile image72
    Kevin Peterposted 4 years ago

    I think both love and respect are to be given equal importance. Only when both love and respect comes in a relationship, it would turn into a successful one.

  23. ketage profile image81
    ketageposted 4 years ago

    Love is the most important thing in a relationship, respect will either follow the path of love or both will be lost, and the relationship ends.