Ok, do you have family like my Mom, she calls me and I can't get certain things into her head, she doesn't seem to understand LOGIC
Then after , like 10 mins later, my sister calls and asks me all about what Mom and I talked about, "swearing" when I ask her if she talked to Mom, that she has not and was calling to say HI.........
I feel like my Mom, sister, etc are like Detectives!
And this has happened many times.
There's a lot of twisted behavior and keeping my distance is often necessary for my sanity!!!!!
Well, just like I described in my "Nesting Angry Chicks" hub, I'm the mother of three angry daughters. Oh we have a lovely time together - as long as we're laughing and joking and shooting the breeze. But underneath the smiles and laughing, there's snide remarks, verbal disrespect, and always an argument waiting to explode - AT ME.
It's exhausting .... frustrating ..... and distance seems best for us most times. Not my plan when I gave birth though.
My family isn't twisted. About 80%-90% have no clue what the word "family" means. So, that makes them just ignorant beyond belief.
Not to mention, each of them are self-centered to the point of disgust.
like two serpents going at it, no, make that 60 garter snakes going at it simultaneously
My father was 60 when I was born. I have a half-brother that was my mother's age and his son is two years older than me. And I copied the way he addressed our relatives. He called my father's wife "Grandma" and so did I, even though she was my stepmom. She didn't like this one bit. Then, he calls his stepmom "Aunt Liza" even though she's not his aunt. So I also call her "Aunt Liza" although she is in fact my sister-in-law. My brother, who is now in his 70's calls me his cousin and our cousin calls me her niece. It's very confusing in my family!!! I don't even know who I am!
oh, mine too - I'm my own grandma! forget how that all happened - it was long ago... or maybe I'm my own granddaughter? as I say, it was long ago.
oh, nurse! nurse? NURSE!
Wow! And I thought I had issues being an adopted kid whose biological left me in the hospital and whose adoptive mother smiled for the cameras and kicked holes in my self-esteem. Keep it moving klarawieck!
And that's only on my dad's side of the family! Mom's side is worse!
The best way to handle this would be never to discuss one with another. Be civil to all, listen but continue doing what you think best..
That way you can keep your sanity and your family.
I have replaced the word "Family" with "Dumbo's Circus"
and that is being nice.
My immediate family is pretty normal really.
My extended family is very complicated, and there are some unsavoury people within that family.
I am not sure that I would be willing to use the word 'twisted' to describe my family as a whole, although I could perhaps consider that word to describe certain individuals.
I do have a large family though. Maybe I would be willing to express more if I didn't use my real name
I can only describe my family one way: the poster-family for dysfunctional families. And that's nuff said.
I only know my mother's side. The lot of them (8 aunts and uncles and 40 some cousins) are fundamentalist baptists to the extreme. I can't talk about anything at all around them. Not only for this, but because they're all hypocrites. Most of their time is spent on the phone with each other talking about what other people do, and judging them for it. God - I can hear them now. They have no idea what it means to be a good christian. I was ostracized at a young age because I started questioning what our pastor was teaching us as kids and was looking for more information than just 'because that's the way it is'. Everything I do falls under a microscope for scrutiny and judgement.
My mother and I are trying to have a relationship and learn to accept one another and all they do is screw with it. Every thing I do they accost my mother demanding answers as to why I do whatever it is they don't approve of. They literally make something up, and turn it from a flame into an inferno, and I have no idea why. I could give an example but this is getting long enough. Talk about a rant!
I'm one of 7. I found out about the other 6 as a teenager around the same time I met my father. I am the only one of my mother's, the rest of them are from other women. My oldest sister is 10 years younger than my mother, and I have a niece who is 5 years older than I. My youngest sibling is 23. The oldest is 47.
My mother's side is ... out there.
My own mother nearly succeeded in killing me as a small child.
My sister was born with hydrocephalus - meaning she was a vegetable.
I have an aunt and uncle with bipolar. The aunt goes off the deep end regularly, as does my mother.
The rest of the siblings have at least mild depression from being in that family.
My dad's side is relatively normal!
sorry to hear, I've noticed you mentioned it in one of your hubs.
I just want to let you know I have bipolar and I never tried to kill anyone!! although w/ the way my parents are now....well I just wish it was over.
I have 3 uncles from different sides of my family that collect crazy checks, a mother who used to collect crazy checks until she righted the ship so to speak and became a well functioning member of society,a father who suffers from delusions from 3 tours in Nam and gets a check for being 100% disabled for that and many health issues stemming from it.
Also a host of cousins who are nuts and throughout my life drug and alcohol use has run rampant through my family tree, and oh yeah I could easily qualify for a crazy check myself but do not agree with using that as a crutch for not being able to work or do something productive with myself.
Family functions are rare and when they do occur in large scale usually end in large fights.
Truthfully, my family isn't at all twisted. Naturally, everyone has made his mistakes at one time or another, and there have been a couple of big misunderstandings here or there; but everyone pretty much works it out as a family, stays whole, pulls together, etc. We all like each other and get along. It's nice - doesn't make a very interesting story, but it's nice. It doesn't mean everything is perfect, of course. It more means that we all do pretty well at getting through all the imperfection in life, understanding the others, or else at least trying to understand the others.
Well, technically, they're not my family.....but, then again, there is this one person...who used to be a part of my family, but, I'll never speak to her again....So...at this point, I'd have to say my family is pretty normal - Or, as normal as ADHD/Asperger's will allow!
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