I am an adoptee and I discovered my real family (parents and siblings) on the Facebook. They searched for me.
I know my parents get jealous because I knew the reality and they are afraid if I turn my back to them.
romari, if the "jealous" parents you're referring to are your adoptive parents, there's at least the chance you're incorrect in thinking they "get jealous" if they don't seem "all happy" at the idea you're in touch with your birth family. I'm a mom of 3 kids, and one is adopted from infancy. I know it's different when kids are adopted older than infancy.
In any case, my concern with my son's meeting his birth family (and I was the one who encouraged him to respond when his birth mother contacted an agency to try to meet him) was that the family who hurt him as an infant would hurt him again (in one way or another, not physically but emotionally; mostly because they obviously weren't the most nurturing people in the world, and I didn't think they'd necessarily know the best way to share whatever had to be shared with him, without causing him to "go through some kind of thing" associated with having to digest whatever they did, said, or shared.
I don't know you or your parents, but I'd hope (for the sake of your relationship with the parents who probably love you more than you can know) that you leave room for the possibility that your parents aren't jealous of your birth family at all. Maybe they're just worried about how that family will impact you and your emotions. Most adoptive parents know their child will meet and talk with the birth parents/family one day. It's just part of the deal. Sometimes the reunion is a happy one that adds great things to the life of the adoptee. Sometimes, even if it starts out seeming great, things go bad; and it is the adoptive parents who will be there, trying to help their child deal with having been hurt by the birth family yet again. Maybe none of this applies in your situation, but it definitely is how things can work sometimes.
My foster parents got dibs where importance is concerned. They show love and affection beyond all measure. The love they show, if all parents were like that, this world would be a better place. Love and appreciation to all foster parents.
As a grown up person, romari, you can establish healthy relationship with all your parents, it's up to you to set up boundaries and make it pleasant and useful experience for all of you. Easy said than done though.
I was adopted as well and met my biological mother years ago. But the one who was there for me (adopted mom) was the one who got my love.
by waterbottle 2 years ago
i feel as if they need another chance, because most of the time it is not their fault for the position that they are in. so tell me how you all think about this topic... and also would You ever become a foster parent?
by rikabothra 3 years ago
Which is more important family or friends?Except your parents, do you think you can count more on close friends than your family?
by Leaderofmany 6 years ago
Are Foster Parents using the payments they receive to benefit the child or they using it to benefit themselves?
by maria sial 3 years ago
What is more important for you time or money and Why?If you were offered the choice between money and time for your family, which would you sacrifice and why?
by Shwetha Shetty 6 years ago
Which is more important for you family or friend? And why??
by Stacy Harris 6 years ago
Can you report families to the state to have kids put in foster care for negative situations?I know a family where both parents are fighting hard... won't get into too many details. Yet, I feel that one parent is being withheld from the children and the other parent is bad mouthing the other parent...
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