I've got a son to whom my only purpose is a "means to an end." I've got greedy/self-centered in-laws, who after 2 years of doing nothing for their mother with dementia, are now coming up north to evaluate the situation, because we've decided to use what they see as "Their Inheritance" to put mom in "Assisted Living!" And I have 2 days to go to reach my 5 year sobriety anniversary....I say "Bring it On!"
Congrats on the 5 year anniversary! That is quite an accomplishment!
Good luck with the family! It must be a nightmare
Just remember your real family often does not share the same blood line as you
It is often the case that the care of an elderly relation is left to one family member, and that others only become involved when money is an issue.
And that is exactly what happened in this instance. My husband has been communicating with all 4 of his sibling since the very beginning, and up until this point, they didn't care. Now that the money is going to be used, they care....Can't imagine why???
..that's so sad isn't it Wendi...people, people, people...
..i have 'friends' who are fighting within the legal system over care for their father ...i figure now they are really fighting about money...and i don't care to listen to their 'woes' anymore...and their dad has become lost in the shuffle because it is really not about his care....
Hey, congrats on the 5 years!
Congrats on your anniversary. I don't want this to sound "condescending", but I'm very proud of you.
As for the manipulative relatives? Almost all family members worry about themselves(if they have ego problems) before they worry about others. The fact that money is a factor, should show you the greed in their nature.
If I were in your shoes...I would ask them why?
They didn't care when money wasn't an issue, so why start now? Maybe, just maybe, you can humble them. I doubt it, but at least it's a starting place to help them self-realize their own actions.
Good luck going forward.
Thank you Cags! And I appreciate being "proud of," it's something I didn't often hear in my past.
As far as the in-laws, my husband already told them to stay down south, unless they are prepared to help us move her into her new home. He stated, very clearly, that there was nothing to be evaluated and it was mom's money...not theirs.
We'll get through this...just a little frustrating!
I just hope they listen.
What is in her best interests is what matters, not of the family members. And, yes it is a little frustrating. My mother has many issues wrong with her and I don't expect that she will be with me much longer(1 or 2 years tops). My sister is obviously going to be a problem, which I already informed my mother about and she agreed. So, her will has specific instructions.
As for putting her into a nursing home or retirement place, it isn't happening. I refuse to do so and it isn't in her best interests, because it's against her own wishes.
Good luck getting through it.
Good on him, and hang in there Wendi.
Your son reminds me of my sister, who lives with me. She's borderline. Her current dope smoking buddy is a 21 yr old girl (sister is 47). She can't grasp why I don't like having this friend at my house, and why I have no interest in getting to know her.
Hi RM, haven't chatted with you in a while. Aside for your sister living with you, how have you been?
My son has a lot of issues, and somehow has it in his head that moving to FL is the answer to his addiction problems...and that it's ok to burn bridges back home. He's got a lot of growing up to do.
I'm okay. I've been doing Peds Home Health, and have recently given up my caseload to do only supervision of OT assistants. This to give me time to prepare for the fall. I'm going to be teaching Kinesiology lecture and lab for the OT Assistant program at one of the community colleges here. I taught the labs last year. Teaching lecture will be a lot more work. I'll also be busy preparing for two sessions I will be presenting in Nov at the TX OT state conference.
How have you been? And your folks here in SA?
Good luck with your son. My sister moved from SC to Maine many years ago, but in short order all the substance abuse issues followed. She has never grown up. Especially lately, she reminds me of her 17-22 year old self.
I am doing fantastic. Today is my 5 year sobriety anniversary, and 1 year of marriage anniversary also.
My parents are still loving it in Medina, but they're actually in route to New England to spend the summer. They should be arriving today.
I hope to get back down to San Antonio sometime this fall, it would be nice to finally meet you when I do.
Congratulations on your huge accomplishment!
I am sorry to hear about the family situation as it is an unfortunate one. You are doing the right thing by making sure that she is going to be well cared for. That is most definitely the most important thing as that is what is happening in the here in now (rather than what may or may not happen sometime in the future). Unless someone genuinely wants to help, I agree that they do not need to make this worse by serving their own self-interests (greed). Take care!
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