Bullying in schools, colleges and workplaces, by Pamela.

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   ChitrangadaSharanposted 2 years ago

   Please take some time to read this important article by Pamela.
   https://hubpages.com/education/Bullying … -Workplace

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   ChitrangadaSharanposted 2 years ago

   Hi Pamela!
   This is an important article, on an important social issue. Bullying has been there since long, but I believe now it’s all the more predominant, in the form of cyber bullying.
   Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this very important social problem.

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   surovi99posted 2 years ago

   Pamela, this is a very important problem around the world. I had never been through bullying in schools and universities. I was scared of my growing nephew and niece in the US. But fortunately their journey in school was safe and protected. My niece will soon enter university this year. I hope her new journey is also safe and cautious.
   
   I am glad you brought up this issue as it is a global one. We must tame the bullies in masses. We must make the bullies understand there is always something much better to do than simply bullying. And the lessons should start when they are young at school.
   
   Thank you, Chitrangada, for highlighting Pamela's work.

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   Pamela99posted 2 years ago

   Thank you so much for posting my article Chitrangada. This is such an important topic. I feel so bad for children that are bullied. I think cyber bullying is the latest way to torment people. I appreciate and agree with all your comments.
   
   Rosina, We do have to be concerned about all our relatives now, unfortunately. I agree that we need to teach bullies a better way of behaving. The first video talked of a program used in some schools to teach children. I'm glad your niece and nephew have been okay so far. We need to deal with this problem around the world.
   
   I hope both of you ladies have a good weekend.

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   RozlinMohsinposted 2 years ago

   Important and informative article on an important issue worldwide, Pamela. I have never experienced this issue at my school and college. But now worried for my daughter, she will be going to school from next year march. Hope she has a safe journey. Thank you for sharing.
   
   Thank you, Chitra di for sharing Pamela's hub.

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   Gianella Labradorposted 2 years ago

   Hi Pamela, Chitrangada, Rosina, and everyone.
   
   I think a huge factor (or one of the factors) of conflicts in defending yourself and being accused a bully itself are genders and being sexist. No matter what we do there will always be judgment because of our sexual and gender identity, Ladies would be reprimanded of wearing revealing clothes on very hot weather or get harassed because of what they felt comfortable wearing. But I believe in ancient times rape happens even when ladies wear the longest and thick clothing ever. Ladies would also be told they liked it anyway. Same goes with gentlemen, who get harassed by women. Like if a woman is being harrassed or bullied by a man people will sympathize and empathize with the woman. But if a man is battered and bullied by a woman it seems questionable and it will always seem the woman is still the victim.
   
   Another is of course being bullied by your race or color. I guess it happens all across the world. For obvious reasons.
   
   Then there is this thing called being manipulative. Manipulative in various ways. Psychologically, emotionally, mentally, physically, or even all of the above. I've encountered some people who likes to manipulate. Worst manipulative person you could ever meet or encounter are the ones that's almost psychotic and abusive. Abusive in a way where domestic violence happens and verbal abuse. Their tactics, some of them are easy to recognize, when you catch them early, it's best you cut your ties with them. Their behavior is repetitive. Once they have shown you their beast self, it will keep happening,
   
   Note: ONE THING TO REMEMBER, YOU CAN NEVER HELP OR CHANGE THEM. REFER THEM TO PROFESSIONALS.
   
   because they are stronger to make you or transform you to be as psychotic as them than you trying to help them to be better and help their state of mind which you can't. It will definitely break you, worst kill you.
   
   Since I was 4 or 5 up until the last time I attended university I have always been a victim of bullying at school and even online.
   
   I remember back in the day; when you report bullies to the authorities and fight back to what you know defines bullying, they'll regard it as being 'kill joy' or being a bummer to what seem to them as just 'having fun' and just throwing jokes at you. But those 'jokes' were really sensitive. They call you weak, if you keep seeking help for an authority or a professional to deal with their bullying. And will continue to put you to hell if you fight back for what you think is right.
   
   It was pretty devastating, and has affected greatly with how I socialize with people even up to this day. I'd always feel intimidated and scared talking to a crowd or meeting with someone new. It would always take a lot of deep breaths before I have courage to speak and initiate a conversation. It's also still hard to be vocal on what I want and what I truly feel.
   
   But... I'm working on it bit by bit. Hopefully no one crashes it, again.
   
   
   I may have said a lot already. I hope it wasn't that long.
   
   Bullying, Harassment, abuse. It happens anywhere, anytime, and some cases its hard to notice because these 'bullies' played it so well that will put the victims no choice but to be quiet and just play along.
   
   Like invisible diseases, sufferings of others are hard to see when you don't look at it deeply. They may seem fine but maybe they really aren't.
   
   I don't know but that's how the world is.
   
   Thank you Chitrangada for sharing Pamela's hub in the forums.
   
   Sending love to everyone.

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   Pamela99posted 2 years ago

   Rozlin, I understand why you would be worried for your daughter. I am glad you found this article to be informative. Bullying is so much more common now, and I hope governments start training young children to not bully. I appreciate your comments.
   
   Gianellla, I agree with the reasons you listed for bullying, including being manipulative. I do think professional counselors are very important. I am sorry to hear you have been a victim of bullying. I wonder if you could get. counseling for your horrible experiences.
   
   That just didn't;t happen when I was young, but it sure does now. Bullying, harassment and abuse are all horrible and it surely affects your self esteem. I appreciate all of your comments, and I hope you start recovering. Sending love back to you.

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   Brenda Arledgeposted 2 years ago

   Pamela...
   This is a great article.
   Many children are bullied.
   
   My niece was a victim of cybervbullying and it spreads like wildfire in an instant.
   With just one tap of a finger it goes to millions of children.
   
   It's sad...but it's also sad that many adults bully other adults.
   
   We're not creating very good role models for the children to follow.
   
   This needs to be addressed to help save our children from more harrassment & shootings.
   
   Thanks for sharing.

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   Pamela99posted 2 years ago

   I am glad you like this article Brenda. This is such an important topic.
   
   I am sorry to hear about your niece. I agree with all your sentiments, and I appreciate all of your comments.  We sure do need to address this problem.

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    Misbah786posted 2 years ago

    Excellent and well-written article, Pamela. My brothers had been bullied at school in Spain many times, but I completed my schooling in Pakistan and was never bullied or harassed by anyone at school or university. This is an important issue, and I appreciate you writing about it.
    
    Thank you so much Di for sharing Pamela’s hub.
    Take care and enjoy your day! Blessings and Lots of Love!

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    Carb Divaposted 2 years ago

    Pamela, how sad that this problem is so prevalent it even merits discussion. I was bullied in school and my older daughter who is disabled had an extremely difficult time not only in school but at the workplace. I wonder why this is not a problem in India?

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    Pamela99posted 2 years ago

    Misbah, I read that India and I thought Pakistan probably has less bullying. I am sorry to hear about your brothers. I am glad you found this article to be so good. This is a very important issue, and I hope the world finds some solutions.Thank you for your comments. Blessing and much love to you too.
    
    Linda, It is sad that this issue merits a lot of discussion. I am sorry to hear you and your daughter were bullied. Bill sent me an email that talked about how he was bullied too. I wonder about India also. I wish we could resolve this problem for our young people. I appreciate your comments.
    
    I hope both you ladies have a good week.

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       ChitrangadaSharanposted 2 years agoin reply to this

       Hi Linda and Pamela!
       Yes, bullying is not a problem in Indian schools. There are rules for this and disciplinary action can be taken, if someone is found doing that, which is quite rare. The teachers and parents are vigilant, and mobile phones are not allowed in the schools. The main concern of the parents and the teachers is studies, career, discipline, acceptance and coexistence with others.
       Even after finishing schools, the students are too preoccupied in building their career, appearing in competitive examinations etc., and therefore all the focus is on that.
       I hope and wish that no child, anywhere in the World, has to suffer from bullying, as it adversely affects their self esteem, and it’s very difficult to recover from that.
       Thank you and thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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    AliciaCposted 2 years ago

    Pamela has written an important article. Bullying is never acceptable. It's especially sad when a child is bullied. Thank you for raising awareness of the problem, Pamela.

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    Gianella Labradorposted 2 years ago

    Hi Chitrangada!
    
    Still recovering here after almost 17 years of bullying and it really does affect our self esteem to the very core.
    
    Some bullies happens because its there one way of coping. They seek attention that they dont get from their families. Or trying to mask up away what they are truly going through. But in anyway bullies needs to seek professional help too. And perpetrators of abuse and harassment too.
    
    

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       ChitrangadaSharanposted 2 years agoin reply to this

       I am sorry to know about your disturbing experiences, Gianella.
       Please try to move on. Life is a beautiful gift.
       I wish you all the best. Take care!

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    Pamela99posted 2 years ago

    Chitrangada, As a teacher you are quite aware of the guidelines in Indian schools. I think no cell phones in schools is an important factor. I wish all schools worldwide would adhere to those policies, but the children must be raised to focus on studies by their parents also. I wish no child was the subject of bullying. Thank you so much for your comments.
    
    Linda, I appreciate all of your comments. I agree that bullying is not acceptable under any circumstances.
    
    Gianella, I think you are right about some bullies seeking attention. I am sorry that you had to endure bullying, and I hope you can fully recover. I agree that bullies need professional help.
    
    I hope all you ladies have a good week!

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       ChitrangadaSharanposted 2 years agoin reply to this

       Hi Pamela!
       Thank you for your observations and valuable thoughts.
       Yes, I also pray that no child has to face such negativity.
       Have a good day.

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    ravirajan01posted 2 years ago

    Thanks, Pamela for this eye-opening article. Bullying is evil and should never be tolerated in any form whether in school or at the workplace. I hope your article reaches the intended audience and conveys the right message.
    
    Thanks Chitrangada for sharing Pamela's article,

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    MsDoraposted 2 years ago

    Thanks,  Pamela for highlighting this horrible crime. Yes, it changes some victims' live for ever. Your article is a reminder for us to speak up and deal with it, rather than be silent and pretend that it does not affect all of us, on some level. Thanks also to Chitrangada for sharing.

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