I'd agree with the thing about not having any suggestions unless someone has lived through it. Even then, people and situations are just different. I know a couple mothers who had it happen with their teen daughter. As others as have said, when mothers love their child they work it out. It's not easy, and it's not always "pretty"; but people get through stuff stuff. The babies are born, and most of the time they're super-loved by their own mommies and grandmothers/grandparents.
A pretty common thing is that when teens have a baby that young (and the pregnancy is a high risk, so that's kind of the biggest worry until the baby's all here and safe), the young woman raised the baby with the support of her loving family (if she has one), sometimes works on getting some education when the child is little, and eventually ends up marrying a more grown-up guy when the child's a little older, and building a future and family from there.
When families are solid, strong, and loving; they have shake-ups and detours and worries - but loving families do have a way to get through shake-ups and detours and come out OK.
Not having experienced that situation myself, I know that what someone thinks she'd do, and what she'd actually do, sometimes don't turn out to be at all the same things. The one thing I think could possibly be helpful to you, Gina, might be if you knew another mother (or more) who have been through what you're now going through. They wouldn't be able to solve your problem (of course), but moms in your situation have their own kind of burden and worries (separate from their daughter or the baby). Husbands don't always even know what the mothers of teens may go through. So, I just wonder if, maybe, making sure you have a little emotional support from someone who truly may understand what you're going through might be a good idea for you.
Something that does come to mind for me, though, is that I'd want to know "what the deal was" with whether or not the story about it was true or something an uncomfortable kid "just said". I mean.. I wouldn't want to just let that ride. I think, maybe, I'd want my teen to go to a counselor "so that she could talk honestly and freely and get some solid advice about what to do/not do about the father. Maybe I'd use the angle (with my teen) that I didn't need to know details, but she needed some adult, solid, guidance about things like whether or not to aim to include the father, or keep him away, from her and/or the baby's life. Maybe I'd tell her that I'd support her whatever she did, or however she chose to deal with the father; but, because she's so young, I'd want her to have that solid guidance/"objective opinion" from a mature adult (with training and experience). I'd emphasize it wasn't to get her "help" for something like coping and "pouring her heart out". It would be to get that simple, nitty-gritty, solid guidance for her without having her feel as if she can't be completely honest about any number of the things she may not be honest about with her mother. I suppose I'd go with the angle that now there's a baby on the way there will be any number of outside professionals and other adults involved for awhile, so getting a good all-purpose counselor for the reasons mentioned might be a good place to start. She wouldn't have to go "forever" - just for enough times that would make the girl's mother feel confident that a crime hadn't been committed or else if it had been, that it would be dealt with. It wouldn't have to be a matter of "OMG, you're such a troubled kid. You need counseling." It could be the "information/solid advice for any young woman in her situation" angle.
Even if the teen said, "It wasn't a crime," I still don't think I'd be comfortable with that. I still think I'd probably want someone who wasn't me to see if s/he could get a more in-depth picture of what seemed true and what didn't. I think I'd know that I may never know (or have a right to know) a whole lot about the details/circumstances. All I think I'd care about was that I knew my daughter had some responsible adult who was trying to get a reading on whatever help, support, courses of actions, etc. should go on. (A kid shouldn't have to deal with a crime by herself; and if there was no crime, I don't think that kind of lie/suspicion should just be left to stand for any number of reasons.) BUT, having offered those thoughts... Maybe I wouldn't do those things if I were actually faced with a specific, real, situation.
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