Starting Conversation With Attractive Women

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   Nickny79posted 15 years ago

   I am curious:  how do you guys start a conversation with women you do not know and are strongly attracted to?   What words, manipulation, strategy etc. do you employ in order to "take things to the next level?"

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      Paragliderposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Not claiming to be any kind of expert, but I'd suggest - Never ask questions. Just comment on whatever's there, be it the sun, a tree, the bar, the coffee. Take time. And don't think about 'manipulation, strategy, etc' or it will show in your eyes. Relax

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         compu-smartposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Well said

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         VioletSunposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Came back to read this thread, and this is by far the best answer. It shows depth and intelligence, qualities many of us ladies like in men.   A relationship that starts with manipulation, be it from a man or woman, is not a good idea as it sabotages the potential of a genuine friendship from developing-it will simply become an entanglement that fulfills no one. So guys, if you want to meet women, listen to Paraglider. 

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         panah100posted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Somewhat agree here. While there are men who can use manipulation effectively, I don't really recommend it. And it's harder than it looks anyway. Self confidence is the No. 1 solution to all this.

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   Shalini Kagalposted 15 years ago

   So speaketh the voice of experience??
   Another hub coming?

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      Paragliderposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      No chance - you saw my disclaimer? 'not claiming to be any kind of expert'. But Nickny clearly has the answers. Makes you wonder why he asked the question

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   Nickny79posted 15 years ago

   The above method is applicable to meeting women in urban settings.

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   Shivaanposted 15 years ago

   Its simple,jus don show her u r intrested in her.Jus talk to her normal.For a start a normal smile will do.See what reactions u get from her.from ter u will know how to commence.its simple ya.

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      VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Mr.Shivaan @ Surya, let that "women's thread to women".  Please come out and look for some valuable threads, affecting our country, our culture..etc.

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   Shalini Kagalposted 15 years ago

   Nickny - thanks for that I-ask-the-question and I-give-you-the-answer session - wow - what a 'strategem!!!
   
   Paraglider - hope springs eternal - here was I hoping for yet another great 'How To' hub from you

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      dingdongposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Looks like smart spamming(or self-promotion)

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         Nickny79posted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Heaven forbide we self promote!  But publishing 50 hubs a day on NONESENSE is ok and not self-promotion....
         
         My hub has substance and, incidentally, you'd fall for my pickup strategem!

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            weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            Is that the take things to the next level?
            
            

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         juggalo 4 evaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Hey DingDong youre hot!

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            dingdongposted 15 years agoin reply to this

            Thanks

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         Poppa Bluesposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Speaking of self promotion...would any of you ladies here like to meet for a drink?

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            Nickny79posted 15 years agoin reply to this

            haha

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   Nickny79posted 15 years ago

   It's the New York lawyer in me.   

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   Leta Sposted 15 years ago

   Um, didn't that Paul Janka guy in New York already corner the market on the Casanova bit?
   
   Read Gawker?  Naw, lawyer...

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   dingdongposted 15 years ago

   Lolz
   
   Have you ever noticed this before posting in HP forums?
   
   
   
   I was talking about promotional/spammy forum posts and it was NOT about hubs.
   
   By the way, what is nonesense?

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      Mishaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I am dying to know this, too
      As well as to learn at last who exactly is alphabetically challenged?

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      juggalo 4 evaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I agree what  is nonesense?

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   Leta Sposted 15 years ago

   We have TROLLS among us, oh! my!

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      weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Care to say what made you think so?

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    Not you! 
    
    Lulz.  One example.

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       weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I don't see any trolling(in this thread), but kind of self-promotion

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    It is harmless--kinda funny--I agree...

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    Nickny79posted 15 years ago

    Yes, I'm unabashedly self-promotional.

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       dingdongposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Your post with link to your hub is not there now, did you see?
       
       

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    Shalini Kagalposted 15 years ago

    Nickny - you're honest!
    And I don't suppose I could think of Central Park again without thinking 'strategem'

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    Nickny79posted 15 years ago

    I don't care.  That hub--which actually has substance--gets enough traffic on its own merits.  So far it's gotten 300 hits in scarcely 24 hours.  Strategem for Meeting Attractive Women is a success.
    
    God bless the USA.

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       dingdongposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I think that is how you can twist it now. You got disturbed, you turned defensive when I was pointing to your forum post that was self-promotional, you are not ready to accept it despite the fact that it's been deleted for the same reason.
       
       I was not talking about your content or it's quality or traffic

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    dingdongposted 15 years ago

    
    
    Congrats

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    Milla Mahnoposted 15 years ago

    Some "smart" people never learn

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    Yeah!  nick's techniques for impressing women must be better in person than on internet forums!    But, hey, look at his score after only a couple weeks.  He must be driving some traffic.

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    Milla Mahnoposted 15 years ago

    I think a few unique hubs will do it. But I am not sure, I am still a newbie here. I guess I'll ask Misha on this

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       weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       There are so many things about hubscore and author score.

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    Nickny79posted 15 years ago

    My hub is specifically targeted to men who want to attract women under the age of 30.
    
    

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       weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Anyway, spamming the forum with promotional posts is never a wise idea.

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    Yeah, ALL girls go for mop-heads when under the age of 30.  It's a strategem for us to practice on them before we go on to real men.  Lol.  Sorry! 

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       dingdongposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       hehe

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    waynetposted 15 years ago

    When around the woman I pull down pants and do a dance, there is no need for words only action as I am an action man when it comes to this type of thing. I always get the woman...then I wake up and er go to work!

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       weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Funny

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    Nickny79posted 15 years ago

    I recently published a hub critiquing other hubs that treat of dating and seduction topics.  However, I do advise those who are easily offended--there appears to be many such ones on the forum--to ignore my offer. 

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       weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       You are just fine as you haven't posted the link once again

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    Nickny79posted 15 years ago

    Here is an excellent pub (not written by me for a change) about body langauge.  The content is quite good.   
    
    http://hubpages.com/_RVW/hub/Understand … y_Language

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    Haha, Poppa!
    
    Web-  Actually, a hubber is rewarded a little monetarily for referring others to another hubber's article... so! 
    
    And 'dating' is all about psychology and interaction, so it wouldn't surprise me that reading 'the other side's' take would be beneficial (it IS a good overview of body language in general).  Thing is, this female hub author has a girlfriend, lol!  So! 
    
    Anyway, 'dating' sucks--I haven't done it since I found out it doesn't work--and I only go after guys with wide-open grins......   I'm just being amused here--time to get back to work writing!

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       Poppa Bluesposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I take that as a No then?

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          dingdongposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          
          
          I think so

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             Poppa Bluesposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             I think so??? Soooo...is that a yes for you?

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       weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I know about referrals, but did not know that this time Nickny was referring to other hubber's article

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    Benson Yeungposted 15 years ago

    Concentrate on her beauty.
    Stay away from too much booze.
    Be yourself but act like Paul Newman.
    The rest will be history.

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       henrytomposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I think a woman's physical beauty is not enough. What about her inner beauty?

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    Poppa-
    You're funny!  Yeah, I gotta guy with a great grin.
    
    Benson-
    Good advice!  Especially the Paul Newman 'cool' part,

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    knolyourselfposted 15 years ago

    "Mr.Shivaan @ Surya, let that "women's thread to women".  Please come out and look for some valuable threads, affecting our country, our culture..etc."
    Mr. VENUGOPAL SIVAGNA, why don't you let people have something to say, without always demanding everything conform to your pariclar interests.

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       VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       It was my request only.  It is upto them to decide.

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          fun2hubposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          LOL

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    VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 15 years ago

    The title of the hub itself is depicting women in bad light.  Why not we consider history making women like Indira Gandhi, Golda Meir, Chandrika Kumaratunga, Hillary Clinton and the present German President?  Many women have contributed enormously for humanity.   Only a few made history on their charming personality like Mumtaj (Taj Mahal, India).  In ancient history also, there were Cleopatra of Egypt, Razia Begum of India, Queen Victoria of England, and so many who made history by serving humanity.  Why not we see the better side of women?

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       Leta Sposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       You know...as I said to someone else earlier, if you write it in a hub, they will come to read it.
       
       I don't think this thread puts women in a bad light.  It puts men in a bad light...  But if you really want to look at it in depth, loneliness and dissatisfaction and the inability of people to connect with each other is part of the human condition.
       
       But mainly, this is just people having fun...

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          Nicholas Mocciaposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Ditto, I agree. 

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          VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Three months before, I entered HP and tried to post new hubs.  But domestic compulsions made me stay away for a month; meanwhile, my hubs were flagged substandard...
          When enquired, it was stated that my English was not understandable...  I never wrote anything in my hubs.. how can it be?  So, I lost patience and gave up the idea of creating a new topic.   
          I did not enter this HP with financial expectations.  I wanted to share ideas with others.  Many have misunderstandings about my India... that I wanted to set right. 
          Madam, really this thread puts men in bad light...
          Having fun is only a small part of one's life.  There are greater things in life.  Why not we spend time on those things?

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             Leta Sposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             I understand.  I guess I didn't know that information about how your hubs were flagged.  (No organization is perfect, , they flagged one of mine for not being original-and I had written it.)
             
             And this thread was simply a silly thread to begin with--most were not taking it seriously.
             
             There are definitely broader, deeper and greater things in life.  Maybe you should phrase a question on the forum?  It seems like the writers from India do indeed want to have a dialogue with you. 

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             Marisa Wrightposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             Venugopal, if you did not write anything in your Hubs, of course they were flagged as substandard.   HubPages is about writing informative articles.  If you create a Hub with only a few words, it will automatically be flagged as substandard.  Does that help you understand?

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                VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                Does 'not writing anything' mean substandard?  I would have been satisfied if they were flagged as "discontinued".   I think substandard means poor in language, contents, grammar, etc.  Barring human errors, I never fail to present a good English.  My colleagues used to call me "dictionary" when I was in service. 
                I had to go offline for over a month due to failure of my computer and participation of a North Indian tour. So, I had to discontinue the hubs... but did not expect that they will be flagged for another reason!  Everything is for good.!..

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                   weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                   Please read:
                   
                   http://hubpages.com/faq/

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                      VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                      I have already read these things when I joined HP. I had to take a break for a month for reasons I explained somewhere.  But I did not expect what it would mean by taking a break before adding something to the hubs.  But I treat HP as a forum for sharing views only.

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                         weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                         I didn't know that you already have read, but I gave the link to faq section as you seemed to have no clear idea about what-is-substandard here. Well, it's all upto you now

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                            VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                            The word substandard certainly does not mean discontinuance.  It is below the standard.
                            However, I do not take it seriously.  My mistake of not providing stuff within a reasonable time cannot be denied.  I regret it. 
                            
                            A request to HP:  Create another reason for flagging hubs: Discontinued;  Not providing enough stuff.

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                               weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                               When a hub is flagged for sub-standard it only gets unpublished, not deleted. You can still manage to add some content and submit for re-publication. Adding some pictures between paragraphs can help in lenghtening the hub, if your text is not enough. Give it a try, if you wish

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                                  VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 15 years agoin reply to this

                                  Miss weblog, I have 2 daughters like you.  And I am following world events for the last 50 years. No one will have so much stuff.. but I need more stuff.. reading news every minute, every hour... and reading books is my pastime.  If all my stuff are published, it will need another HP.  But I wonder how could a new forum like HP flag my hubs as substandard. I would have been thankful if they waited for some more time.   I will keep wondering who is substandard... myself or HP ?

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       weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Mr.Venu -
       
       See how people are encouraging you to write a hub, and you may remember I wanted the same. So, think about it

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          VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 15 years agoin reply to this

          Ms.web, please suggest a few topics.

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             weblogposted 15 years agoin reply to this

             It's upto you, anyway if suggestion is needed - I'd like to see you write a hub about India, whatever you like to

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    Shake The Treeposted 15 years ago

    A womans beauty and boobs can be quite a distraction for men.
    
    The more testotorone a man as - then the more attracted he his to her, and whilst he's looking at her he can feel an erection arousal and he can listen to the conversation he's having with himself about her which goes ooooh, I'd love to bed her,  so because of this he feel uncomfortable in her presence and squirms with inner embarrassment.
    
    So, keep your thoughts under control, look at her forehead - not her boobs, and create [make up] "a phony story along the lines of , "I must go somewhere else in ten minutes time to keep a prior appoinment, pity, because I was so enjoying this conversation, but duty calls". Then 30 minutes later you can conveniantly forget the appointment, shut out the world outside, turn off the lights, and let nature takes it course.  And smile, damn you smile, you've snared another one, and so as she?

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       JYOTI KOTHARIposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         Not necessarily.

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    Leta Sposted 15 years ago

    VENUGOPAL-
    
    They probably mixed you up with someone else--or they have a check list of items to flag hubs with and that just seemed the easiest thing.
    
    Like I told you--my article was flagged for not being original in content & I am a professional writer (wouldn't dream of spamming or copying content)--I contacted Maddie Ruud and she took care of the problem.
    
    It's not perfect here at hubpages, but if you wish to write and have those discussions, it is possible.

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       VENUGOPAL SIVAGNAposted 15 years agoin reply to this

       Thank you madam. Your comments are convincing.

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    Guptanposted 15 years ago

    Self Confidence - If you don't believe in your own inner worth (inspite of what you may think are areas that need improvement) then chances are that message will be relayed on to the 'attractive' women
    
    Activities-Watch TV and play video games all week and use the weekend to go club hopping to find attractive women? Clubs are the worst places to 'pick up' women, because they are in 'self defense' mode and you are in 'I need to hook up' mode. They get hit on by numerous guys and already have developed a self defense mechanism. Chances are you're going to get shot down.
    
    Exercise, Eat healthy and Groom yourself: these words speak for themselves
    
    Go out! Do some activities that fulfill you such as community service, exercise,Yoga and meditation classes etc, chances are you will meet women there in a relaxed state who are more open to talking to you. Don't forget to focus on the activity and not on the hot women surrounding you, becoming good and competent in an activity where other people are around is a sure fire way to rouse attraction in women.
    
    To summarize surround yourself or take part in an activity where there are attractive women around, talk to them naturally, and be good or make an impact and you will find the required chemistry almost naturally.

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    TravelMonkeyposted 15 years ago

    Each conversation will be different with different women. I'd prefer to 'play it by ear' when it comes to initiating conversation with attractive women, make them laugh and its in the bag.

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    Adam Bposted 15 years ago

    Whenever I wanted to talk to an attractice girl I just kept it honest and didn't try to do anything out of the normal.  Always try to make them laugh and be non threatening.  Do NOT try anything you have seen in movies...I have seen so many people crash and burn doing that.
    
    If you are yourself and honest and they blow you off and don't pay you much attention, then you don't need to bother with that individual.

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       Nickny79posted 15 years agoin reply to this

       I agree to an extent; however, I always cringe when I hear people say:  "Be yourself."  I like to qualify this statement and say, "Be your BEST self."  Also being "honest" doesn't mean being an absolute open book or always being straightforward--attractive women get bored with this, especially when you are the 10 guy to talk to them that night.
       
       I wrote a nice hub on this called "The Player's Manual".  It's one of my most popular hubs with several thousand hits.

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    purefitnessposted 15 years ago

    It has to do with eye contact and smiling.  If a guy looks friendly and approachable then women are usually drawn to them on one level or another.  Less is more, it is better to say less which makes sense then to stand before the woman of your dreams talking gibberish.

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