Should "Puppy Love" Be Taken Seriously?

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   Saleeln18posted 12 years ago

   
   In many romantic relationships between young people (teenagers: 14 and up) the word "love" is used quite often.
   
   Of course a lot of times with these youngsters the true essence and concept of the word love is not always known to those who use it. But on the other hand, in many cases it is. I myself fell in love at 16 and I am only 18 now but I can confidently and wholeheartedly say that I am in love.
   
   So my question is this: Can young people be taken seriously when they say "I Love You" to their boyfriends and/or girlfriends? Why? and why not?

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      Deborah Sextonposted 12 years agoin reply to this

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      Yes
      Adults have always said that puppy love is not real love.
      I think puppy love is real love even though it's usually short term.
      I got married when I was 18 and I love him even more today.

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         Saleeln18posted 12 years agoin reply to this

         That's a good point. And I don't mean a quick and fleeting love but more so the kind of love that can last a lifetime. For example:
         
         Can you see a teenager experiencing love on the level that you do now?
         
         I think that it is definitely possible because I was in love with my girlfriend since we were 16 and like with you our feelings have only gotten deeper and more potent since then.
         
         I do think it is possible but at the same time I think it is also very rare.

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            Deborah Sextonposted 12 years agoin reply to this

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            I think their love can be deeper than adult love, because it's based on feelings.
            
            The reason I said short term is because the parents may forbid it, or move away etc?

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               Saleeln18posted 12 years agoin reply to this

               Another good point.
               
               And yes that's true as well about the short term side of it, but many of those youths can simply move on from the relationships after the breakup and/or not fight for the parents approval. Does that imply a lesser love? Or something different?
               
               I only ask this because I know firsthand about it, me and my girlfriend dated for 11 months dealing with her CONTROLLING parents until eventually we broke up and stopped talking.
               
               But in all the time we were broken up we never saw anyone else, we eventually got back in contact and tried hanging out as "just friends" but that didn't last long at all: through a series of events we ended up talking and getting closure about the old days and then getting back together.
               
               So, do couples who wouldn't go to those lengths as youths not share feelings of the same intensity?

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