what can I do to stop the hurt? I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years and he cheated on...
me? I feel so hurt that I am having difficulty to move on. What can I do to ease the pain? help me please
What is gone is gone for ever. Consider that he has died. Find a new partner , who cares you and is worth trusting
There is no 'easing' of pain. You can only replace it with something better. Time helps but you need to use that time the right way...which means not blaming yourself, reliving what you could have done different or any other self destructive themes. Move on and look forward.
When I went through a break up a few years back and he did the same thing to me. I used the hurt and anger into bettering myself and gaining my self respect again because you loss so much of yourself in these situations and you need to have time to heal yourself. Try to get involved in things which keep your mind going and not thinking of the lost but learn new ways of loving yourself and with time things get easier... Reading, writing, anything you enjoy doing to keep your mind off what is hurting you. Also sit and write down personal goals which you can work towards and make them reasonable to reach in a short time. Hang out with good friends you trust and if you need to cry then so be it but you deserve more then being with someone who is going to cheat on you.....There are so many others who would be happy to be with just you!!!
First of all, don't let yourself take the blame for what HE did. Don't get caught up in why it happened, or why it happened to you.
One thing you can do is write it out. Write about how it made you feel, why it hurt you so much and what you think of him. At the end of your "letter" find a way to forgive yourself, even though it isn't your fault, you will eventually blame yourself, if you haven't already.
After you have written these things, find a safe place like a fireplace or BBQ and light that paper up! watch it burn and then blow the ashes away.
Like everything, it takes time to heal the hurt that has been created. It didn't just appear by magic and won't disappear that way either. If you pray, then ask God to take your pain, because he is better equipped to carry it than you are. And He and the angels are always happy to help.
I wish peace for you.
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