Is feeling jealous of your best friend normal?

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   kiaraxxwriterxxposted 13 years ago

   Is feeling jealous of your best friend normal?
   
   I have a beautiful best friend who everyone says is just as pretty as me, we do everything together but she just seems to get more attention. Is it normal to feel jealousy or am I being a baby?

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   Dr. Amiliaposted 13 years ago

   If she is your best friend, you should be happy for her instead of being jealous.
   
   In friendships, jealousy is like termites.

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   TheOneWhoKnowsposted 13 years ago

   Yes it's normal. But that doesn't need to bother you. Because everyone feels so about our close friends, that doesn't mean that it's bad. I'm in a same situation and I talked to him and he said that he feels same as me (he said he was a little jealous of me)
   So. It's normal ;-)

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   Daffy Duckposted 13 years ago

   Yes.  We all want to improve our lives.  Jealousy is a part of life.  It doesn't mean that you feel negatively towards them.  You just want something similar to what they have.

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   dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

   No it's normal to be "jealous" of a "best friend".
   In order to be "best friends" you both must be special in each other's eyes. It's not like you're competeing as "rivals".
   This the person you can share your inner most feelings with.
   The is the person who has your back and you have their back. If anything the two of you should feel like a duo or team when you hit the town. (Maybe she seems more "approachable" than you.) Use this as an opportunity to learn.
   Never let feelings of jealousy destroy a "best friendship". They are very hard to come by.

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   TheBlondieposted 13 years ago

   Its definitely normal. Jealousy isn't necessarily a horrible thing (like everyone acts like it is), because it is so natural and common. The good thing is jealousy is pretty easy to get over, so don't stress about it

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   BritaniaDposted 13 years ago

   It's normal to be jealous of a best friend, and close friends.  I've always dealt with that jealousy.  But I've come to realize, that we can be jealous, but we have to realize that we all excel in different things whether it be looks, family life, relationships, intelligence - and i'm sure there's someone who is jealous of what you have.

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   seriousnutsposted 13 years ago

   It is normal. You'll feel that way especially if you're always together. Why not try to separate a little bit more? That way, you get to meet other friends. You'll tend to see yourself as a separate entity. Someone unique who shouldn't be compared with your best friend.

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   Coach Julieposted 13 years ago

   "Normal" is a relative term.  What is normal to one person is not normal to another.  Feeling jealous of someone for whatever reason is a sign that something else is going on.  Jealousy tends to point to an insecurity.  Is your friend getting more attention because she is prettier than you or does she seem more confident than you? 
   
   You see your friend's beauty but do you see your own beauty?  If she is "just as pretty" as you, then you must be just as pretty as her.  Take a step back and look at how comfortable she is with other people.  Are you just as comfortable as she is?  My guess is probably not. 
   
   Instead of comparing yourself to her, start focusing on all the wonderful things you have to offer this world.  You have beauty and talent and a special gift that is all your own.  It's up to you to find that and focus on that and start appreciating yourself.  Once you are able to appreciate who you are, you will no longer feel jealous of your friend.  Or of anyone else.

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