How can I help my daughter have confidence and come out of her shell.

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   mrsRRoblesposted 12 years ago

   How can I help my daughter have confidence and come out of her shell.
   
   I'm really concerned because she's been picked on for being so quiet and not speaking up. I'm considering karate classes but not sure. I can't always protect her. When she tells me someone has picked on her I go to the school and talk to the teacher but the teacher makes her feel like she did something wrong. I know she has to be fair but this particular little girl was angry because she wasn't invited to my daughters birthday party. I was shy as a child it took me 17 years to come out of my shell I don't want it to take her that long.

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   mrsRRoblesposted 12 years ago

   she is 7 years old by the way and very sweet.

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   ACR21posted 12 years ago

   Tell her that she is beautiful everday, let her know that you love and respect he. Seeing that she's only seven give her time to be a child all children go through a phase this may just be her shy phase. If she is being oicked on make sure you justify her. What I mean by this is reassure her everyday that she is not waht people say she is but what she thinks she is

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   AmyRainbowposted 12 years ago

   I know it's easier said than done, but tell her not to listen, if someone says something mean and she pretends to just agree with them, they will soon give up, she's not any fun to bully if they don't get a good reaction from her.
   Get her doing something creative, writing or drawing, I know she's only young, but sometimes this is a great release for someone too shy to say what they want to say out loud, I know it was for me!
   Help her feel comfortable in her own skin, as long as she knows who she is, how beautiful she is, how great she is, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks about her, only when she feels good about herself will other people feel the same way towards her.
   It's not about self defense, it shouldn't have to be, she just needs a confidence boost, she just needs to be praised in everything she does, so she knows that she is above anyone who thinks it's right to bully.
   I hope this helps!

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   duffsmomposted 12 years ago

   My daughter was terribly shy in school and wanted to take Tae Kwon Do lessons and we let her.  She developed such confidence and discipline.  She went two nights a week and stayed with it through high school and became a black belt. 
   
   Also find out what she really really likes, baking, sports, drawing and encourage her to do that and praise her when she does it well.  Seriously though, is she is picked on now at 7, it may be setting the stage for a life time of abuse.  If you have to move her to another school.
   
   One of the greatest lessons we can teach our children is to never ever ever allow themselves to be abused in any way.

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