Is it possible to get two important people in your life to like eat other?

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   sangreposted 12 years ago

   Is it possible to get two important people in your life to like eat other?

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   epigrammanposted 12 years ago

   ...yes my mum and dad ....and they really loved each other ..... lake erie time ontario canada 8:20am and they had a 15 year honeymoon before I came along - lol

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   nemanjaboskovposted 12 years ago

   Assuming that these two people really do not like each other, I'd say it is possible but not always doable... In my opinion, these two people will have to realize that they both mean a lot to you, and start liking each other because of this, and in spite of their own differences. However, this is in many cases simply not possible, so it all depends on the actual people involved in these triangle

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   NiaLeeposted 12 years ago

   you can try to clear the misunderstandings an/or offer a better perspective to one and the other. he only thing is, if somebody is really not loving, respectful or honest, the other one may not feel like take the chance or another chance.
   Like a husband between his mother and his wife sometimes, they should be no idea of competition and confrontation but some people really follow the archetype and battle it out all their lives.
   The one thing you make sure of: don't get used as a weapon against any of them, don't get involve in their war. You may need to let go or reduce your relationship with one of them to avoid problems in your daily life.
   I have tried to get my half brother and my other brothers and sisters to talk: I have been cast out by everybody...and the one I was trying to help don't even talk to me either now. Apparently that was the purpose.

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   reeltaulkposted 12 years ago

   This is a sad question as I was having a conversation with someone about something similiarly related.  Your best bet is to concentrate on liking yourself and maintaining the relationships that having meaning to your life.  The tongue is sharper than a sword and that's what makes it so lethal.  People will say and act as much as they want but it is their actions that will show and prove.  if whomever is important to you let it remain that way.  There is no need to put an effort into trying to make anyone try to like someone else.  They either do or don't, I'm quite sure they have their own reason for not having an interest in each other

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   LisaKoskiposted 12 years ago

   I've been in a similar situation for over two years now and so far I haven't managed to get the two people to even sit down to dinner with me and them to try to work things out. I don't think it's possible but I still try.

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   Seeker7posted 12 years ago

   It's not always possible to do this. If it's one specific aspect, such as beliefs, opinions etc., then you can try and get them to call a truce or compromise with each other. Then get them to concentrate one the good points of each person. You might then get them to a level of mutual respect. But to get two people to like each other when they don't can be tricky. Often if people pretend to like each other for the sake of a third, it doesn't take much for this to backfire and the relationship being on worse terms than it was before.
   
   I think as well that as human beings we do have a side to us that can take a dislike to someone for no just cause. I know this has happened to me on a couple of occasions during my life. Bascially they were very nice people and well liked, but for some reason I just couldn't take to them at all. I can't explain it and I can't find a logical cause for it. So what I'm saying is, is that it might be the chemistry between these two people that just doesn't mix and there's very little you would be able to do about that I think.

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   smzclarkposted 12 years ago

   I think; all you can do really is talk them into tolerating EACH other and the rest is up to them. If you can talk to them both, tell them how important it is to you to have them both in your lives. Ask them both to spend some time with you together and to start again with an open mind. I don't know who these people are, but often in this situation the dislike is down to jealousy of one or both parties. One will feel like the other is 'taking you away from them'. These things take time more than anything else. As soon as they realise that they are both going to be in YOUR life regardless and the fact that they can't get along is only putting a gap between you and themselves, they will hopefully eventually make more of an effort. You will never be able to MAKE them like each other, but you could maybe talk them into getting along for your sake and eventually they may grow to like one another by themselves...hope that makes sense?!
   
   My sister in law for example; I don't think that she will ever like me and there is nothing that either I or my husband can do about that. She cannot deal with the fact that I am now the main woman in his life! It's a sad shame, but it's in her hands. (It really depends on who you're dealing with)
   
   Good luck :-)

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