Have you ever felt lonely in a heavily populated social event?

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   Anjiliposted 11 years ago

   Have you ever felt lonely in a heavily populated social event?

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   Angela Brummerposted 11 years ago

   I have but, It was because I was convinced to attend something that I did not want to be at.  I wasn't in the mood to be around people and should have said "NO".  It was because my frame of mind was bad to begin with!

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      Anjiliposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Good response.

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   JThomp42posted 11 years ago

   Yes I have. Due to depression. If the most important person has gone out of your life you can be lonely in a 1000 room full of people.

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   yoginijoyposted 11 years ago

   Yes, this has happened to me a couple of times in my life. Mainly, the reason is because I didn't want to be there and I was thinking about being somewhere else with someone else too. It was during a time when my significant other was traveling and I was just plain missing him.

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   I do most of the time. I am a loner and always feel like an outside in any group other than my family.  Or as JThomp42 says, it could be depression.  Nevertheless, the answer is yes I have.

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   arbposted 11 years ago

   Sometimes being alone is when you are least lonely and sometimes, being with everyone, is when you are the most lonely. Loneliness follows you regardless of the size of the crowd, because it resides in you, not outside you. If you aren't your favorite person to be with your in trouble because you can't get away from you. The crowd simply reveals who you came with.

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   Lisa HWposted 11 years ago

   I'm a pretty reserved person, but I can't say I've ever felt lonely at such a social event.  To me, the whole mood of heavily populated social events tends to be lively and happy, so I'm OK with not necessarily being in the thick of the "life-of-the-party" type stuff.  If find it pleasant, whether I'm with just a couple of/few people or alone at the event.
   
   Come to think of it, I've never felt lonely in any busy, crowded, public place.  To me, it's just kind of "part of the deal" to be one individual who feels kind of separate from "everyone else" in a crowd of strangers.
   
   Also (and not that anyone asked), I've never really felt particularly lonely when I'm alone either.   lol   
   
   The only place I've noticed feeling lonely has been when I'm with someone who should know me better than they do, but don't; and as a result, talks to me as if I'm someone that I'm not.  That happens to me a lot, so maybe that's why I'm content and happy either among a bunch of strangers, a crowd of people at a big social event (whether I know them or not), or alone.  I most often really enjoy being with a person or two that I'm close to, but in some cases I do find I have to then have some time alone to replenish my "mental energy" and get back to feeling like I'm on solid, non-lonely, ground.
   
   Why the thing with a person or two happens a lot is, ironically, because I'm so good with relating to people I know how to find the things we have in common.  As a result, people often tend to assume I'm "just like them" when I'm really only like them in limited ways but emphasize those ways as a way of being able to relate. OR, if I show signs of not being "just like them" it can throw them off, as well as leave them "not getting me" and saying something "that doesn't apply" as a result.   So, the "relating thing" is both a good social skill and my own "interpersonal downfall" sometimes.  In any case, it's often less stressful for me to either be alone or else be an anonymous member of a crowd.

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