Do we really have soul mate? The person that was destined to us by God?

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   KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years ago

   Do we really have soul mate? The person that was destined to us by God?
   
   Do you believe in soul mate? If yes then prove and explain.

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   My definition of a "soul mate" is someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is mutual depth of love and desire for each other.
   There are over 7 Billion people on the planet! Odds are there's far more than one person who would make an ideal mate for any of us.
   The concept of "the one" is based upon our natural tendency to (exclude) rather than (include) when it comes to finding love.
   For example if a person states "the one" has to be a member of their own race that automatically eliminates Billions of people right there! If you went on to say he/she must have the same religious belief that will cut down your options by several billions more.
   We narrow things further by stating "the one" must reside in our own country, state or town. All of this is BEFORE we get to height, weight, age, occupation, education, hobbies/interest, and goals...etc Last but not least our family & friends MUST also like him/her and vice versa!
   It’s no wonder that by the time we get done EXCLUDING people there is ONLY one "right one" left!
   Lets assume you are looking for someone who has the following traits. Attractive, Positive, Affectionate, Considerate, Loving, Healthy, Romantic, Passionate, Great Sense of Humor, Intelligent, enjoys traveling to exotic destinations, Honest, Trustworthy, Loyal, Dependable, Financially secure/responsible…etc 
   Surly out of 7 Billion people there must be “one” person who fits this profile! The reality is there are millions if not billions of people who would list these as traits that they have!
   No one is going to be able to read your mind, complete your sentences, or fill your days with sunshine for eternity. You determine how large your pool of potential mates is going to be by your method of including or excluding. Naturally the fewer options you have the more difficult it becomes to find a "suitable mate".

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      KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      You have the point too. Sometimes we are fraught with idealism that "the one" must be like this and like that. But do you have based on experience about this not just by means of knowledge? Something that is learned through experience and realization

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      With age and experience comes wisdom.
      Most of us make dating and relationships harder than they have to be. Know yourself, love yourself, and trust yourself. "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary." - Oscar Wilde

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      KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Very interesting quote dashingscorpio. That is really true. i have open up this Q&A since I was thinking and wanted to know if how many of us believe on soul mate. I wanted to know real life experiences whom they think , destiny (soulmate)

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   Diana Leeposted 10 years ago

   Sure I believe in soul mates, but they likely are our passionate companion on the other side. Heaven will be our proof.  Our current life may not direct us to the soul mate of our dreams. I believe there is a reason for every person that comes into our life.  We learn to appreciate those that are not so incline to be our equals.  Opposites attract for a reason and the lessons we learn from them make us wiser.

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      KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      What can you say Diana about the people who doesn't believe on soul mates especially the people who have commented below. Is their any means for us to know whom our soulmate by wizardry and other magical stuff? lol

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   Dave36posted 10 years ago

   Of course we do buddy, & in my opinion we do have just the one..I mean could we have "2" soul mates?, well what if we met them "both"?, wft are we to do then?lol..So in my opinion we do have only 1 soul mate, & our soul mate is within our reach always..If our soul mate isn't within our reach, then it's not our soul mate is it?..I'm only using logic, & the definition of a soul mate here..Your soul mate is a person (by definition) who connects with you on a deeper level, & all possible levels & brings a sense of peace calmness happiness & contentment etc in your life..She sounds like quite a girl hey!..Surely not possible!lol....Seriously though remembering that she is to connect with you on a deeper level & all levels, where should we plan on meeting her?..In a bar club etc, or on a deeper level somewhere?....So we have to find our own deeper level & all levels our self first, do all the things "we" ourselves love to do & totally forget about finding her....The reason we forget about finding our soul mate is because we know logically she's already there, doing something we ourselves would love to do, she has to be if we're to connect on a deeper level & all levels..So that's our mission just to find the things we love doing, & then we bump into our soul mate....People "don't" go looking for soul mates they go looking for relationships, & they look for fit people in bars clubs etc..Think about what you love to do most in life, & i bet that's your best chance of finding yours....A soul mate to me is a reward system for when we fill all our life with love, things we love doing etc..I mean it makes sense to me, & that's what I've been doing lately.

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      KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Your answer is quite provoking. having two soul mate? I never wondered of having that. lol But I am very curious if their will be an electricity that will spark everytime we see and meet time. A mark or any sign that she/he is our soul mate.

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      Dave36posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I say you "will" feel something when you meet her, but you won't have a clue what it is you love about her..Your'l just want to be with her, & she'l want to be with you, but "neither" will know why!lol..As no one can put their finger on what love

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      sheilamyersposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I love what you said about we'll find the person while doing what we love to do. While that person may be found in a bar or someplace like that, I believe it's more likely to happen where we feel the most comfortable.

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      KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I also love your answer just like what sheila have said. We will meet our soul mate by doing what we like and it will just come in our way. no one really know but is not bad to search and expect. lol

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      Dave36posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I just think that when we do only what we love doing, that is who we are & how we can define our true self..So unless we find our true self first our passions/hobbies/calling if you like, i don't see the point in looking for a partner or soul mat

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   Lybrahposted 10 years ago

   I don't believe so.  I think God made some people to be alone.  And you can find love with many different people, so no soul mates.

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      KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Why your so bitter Lybrah? Did you loved someone that you feel they are the one? I was wonderiong why some people do not believe on soulmates.

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   sheilamyersposted 10 years ago

   I believe some people are meant to be alone (unmarried) all their lives so they can serve God without the ties to one person. When it comes to people who I believe God destined to be married, I think there may be more than one person who could be our perspective "soul mate". Say there are seven out there for me. They could have different jobs, live in different places, and have different personalities; however, I could enough in common with all of them they could be the "perfect" match. Why so many? God likes giving us choices - they're all good and would be the right choice, but it's up to us decide which one we want. I hope that made sense.

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      KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Wow, your thoughts and opinion is quite inspiring sheila, so we have plenty of soulmates? not just one. All my life I have been thinking for only one soul mate whom I wish to meet someday.
      
      You perfectly have point

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   Aime Fposted 10 years ago

   I don't believe in soul mates. I believe you could build a life-long partnership with a number of people. What determines who that person will be is dependent on timing, opportunity, proximity, etc.
   
   I can't confidently say that there is no one in the world better suited to me than my husband. I don't think we were destined to be together. I think we met and fell in love and became each other's best friend. In that sense, he is definitely better suited to me than a lot of people, but I don't believe he's the only person that I would be able to build a happy life with. I'm not saying that to diminish the importance of our marriage or suggest that he would easily be replaced. I think when you choose your spouse you say "I've found someone who makes me happier than all of the other someones I've met and I'm choosing to build a life with them."
   
   Is there someone on the other side of the world that is a better match for me? Maybe. But it doesn't matter, because I've already chosen my partner in life and I'm happy with that choice.
   
   I also think the idea of soul mates implies that relationships are easy. Like, if you're meant to be with this person on a cosmic level, nothing is going to tear you apart. I think that's a dangerous mindset to have. Relationships are tough and thinking you're going to be with someone forever, no matter what, because they're your destiny, might downplay the importance in putting in the necessary work.

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      peeplesposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      All perfectly said in my opinion. No point in me answering.

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      KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      So you Mean Aime, there is no choice but only choices and coincidence?

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      Aime Fposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, I think you choose based on the people accessible to you. I think it's possible that you might know a handful of people that you could build a life with, or you could know none. All depends on timing and circumstance.

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      KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      How you can explain amie the people whom we feel very weird on the very first place? The people whom we just met but we feel that we know them very long time.

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      Aime Fposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I would say that's probably attraction changing your perception. I realize I sound like kind of a downer. The thought of my soul being destined to cross paths with others is really nice, I wish I believed it. But alas, I do not.

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      Dave36posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      There is a choice in my opinion, because who am "i" deep down inside..I am a completely different person mentally than what i was a year ago, & as iv'e found out who i am iv'e discovered i want completely different things than what i thought i di

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   Seema Berwalposted 10 years ago

   soul mate means a person who loves you for forever, unconditionally..............sounds soothing ... According to me, people can't love the same person for forever, especially men are polygamy by nature, you can't expect loyalty from them. They  need a change after a certain period of time.....

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      KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Not all men Seema.

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      Dave36posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Come on now Seema you haven't met all the men out there, so you can't just generalize like that!lol..Once you find your soul mate you won't know why you love them, even after 40 years together neither will actually know that's why they stay together.

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      sheilamyersposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Interesting. I think that applies to some men (and women), but not to all. I've known couples who have been married "til death do us part" and love was involved through all the years.

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   I don't believe in soul mate because  even when you are with the one you love there is always another who comes your way to share your life in a different way.

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      KenDeanAgudoposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      hmmm. you have the point DDE. but even other people will come into our life, soulmate will be the only one whom our hearts beats for.

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