Can you forgive one betrayed you ?

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   monia saadposted 8 years ago

   Can you forgive one betrayed you ?
   
   

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   Nicole Grizzleposted 8 years ago

   There's a little short story about this. I can't post it in its entirety, but Google "Nails in the Fence" to see it. The basic idea is that, yes, while you can forgive someone who betrayed you, there will always be permanent damage to the relationship. No matter what happens after you "fix" the problem, the scars will always be there.

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      monia saadposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      agree with you about alll that i think betrayl damage all type of relationship .wish you all the best

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   Kiss andTalesposted 8 years ago

   That it true about the scars. But as I think about an experienced of getting a scar when I was a young one, I did not forget the one scar that brought more pain, but did I hold and baby that scar not allowing it to heal, did I stop the other important things in life just because of the wound and scar, no I played and continue to focus on what I could do in fun and allowed healing.In a grown ups life yes years will makes us older , but we still grow and continue our own journey toward
   Maturity, stages of life will take us where we have never been, wisdom can be found and
   walk beside us in our Journey. There are the old and wise we can learn from them.
   Leave the past behind , and reach for the future that help you heal and learn from the experience,  but do not let it cripple you,
   Because there is always better ahead.

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      monia saadposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      good idea leave the past behind and live your life

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   peachpurpleposted 8 years ago

   It is hard, i can understand when my brother and sister in laws betrayed my hubby, he can't forgive them until now

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      Kiss andTalesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Sometime that is healing for self, forgiving others.
      Reference Bible
      Mt 5:24 leave your gift there in front of the altar, and go away; first make your peace with your brother, and then, when you have come back, offer up your gift.
      
      We must forgive.

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      monia saadposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I understand your situation leave the past behind

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   To forgive means to "let go" and move on.
   It's a gift you give yourself by deciding to no longer dwell on something. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to maintain a relationship with someone. Everyone is entitled to have their own "deal breakers". Forgiveness isn't the same as trusting again.
   I have forgiven people who have betrayed me but they are no longer a part of my inner circle. I wished them no ill will and I moved on with my life. To forgive does not mean forget.
   To do so would be throwing away a very valuable lesson.

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