How to get over that ..I cant stand.someone enough to be in the same room with t

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   chuckandus6posted 8 years ago

   How to get over that ..I cant stand.someone enough to be in the same room with this.person?
   
   (Feeling.)And this person is my nephews girlfriend and I care alot for him.

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   Tusitala Tomposted 8 years ago

   I've had this experience, but a long time ago.  It's as though you can almost feel a clash of vibrations.  Makes one feel very uneasy.   However, in my case I didn't have to associate with this person much and only saw him again on half-a-dozen occasions over fifty years. 
   
   As time passed the self-sensed antagonism, which I suspect was mainly on my part, passed...attenuated to a sort of neutrality where I was no longer affected.
   
   I realize in hindsight that the problem lay with me, not the other.  I was the one feeling the great mental - and maybe spiritual - discomfort.
   
   Nowadays, possibly because I've been working on myself with regular Vipassana Meditation practice for almost thirty years, I rarely bump into a person I don't like. I'd go as far as to say that I feel a fondness or friendship with almost everyone with whom I strike up a conversation.   So the obvious answer is 'when we change in our minds, people outside of us seem to also change.'   
   
   The way we think determines not only how we feel but even what we see.  Or as the late Dr. Wayne Dyer said, "We'll see it when we believe it."

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      chuckandus6posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      That is great that you have overcome this feeling..normally There. Is noone that bothers me like this, in such a consistant way.

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   What has your nephew's girlfriend done to you?
   If the answer is nothing then you have to look inside yourself to figure out why her presence (triggers bad feelings) within you.
   Maybe she {reminds you of someone else} in your past.
   Maybe you simply don't think she's "good enough" for him.
   Maybe you fear he's serious about her and is going to marry her.
   Whatever it is you have to let it go!
   Life is a (personal) journey.
   Each of us gets to (choose our own) friends, lovers, and spouse.
   If (he) is happy be happy for him and if things fall apart be there to support him. Lastly make an effort to keep conversations light and brief. No one says you're obligated to spend all your time with her. Odds are there are other people in the room you can converse with.
   For some reason (you are choosing to focus on her) and ignoring everyone else. On some level you know it's illogical to dislike someone you really don't know well. The only way to justify disliking anyone is to invest time getting to know them. You might start to see what your nephew admires about her.

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      chuckandus6posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Well these are the reasons
      She talks to her ex boyfriends
      Sh

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      chuckandus6posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Reasons
      She talks to her exes
      She always saying how poor they are
      And she so phoney,
      when she talks to you, she talks down to you

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Why does her remaining friends with her exes bother (you)? Clearly it's not a "deal breaker" for your nephew. Does she ask you for money? Is she being honest about their finances? Phony/being talked down to are in the eye of the beholder.

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      chuckandus6posted 8 years agoin reply to this

      My nephew does get hurt by her talking to her exes
      And she makes.him.feel like hes not doing enough for her Buying her enough
      And trust me I can tell when someone is talking down to me.

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