How to deal with a silent treatment from hubby?

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   Marilyn Pposted 7 years ago

   How to deal with a silent treatment from hubby?
   
   He has not talk to me a week.Has done this before but this is the longest.I have not said anything and not talking to him too now and I know that he is waiting for me to talk to him as he got so much ego.I just make myself  happy andmy kids and since he ignored me I ignorm him too now.thisis really painfull but I felt that need to do it becoz he just keeps doing it and I dont wanna be like the girl crying again.Me not talking to him too,do you think its a good idea?I am just really tired of his behaviour and it is sad that my kids are really affected by his silent treatment.

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   tamarawilhiteposted 7 years ago

   You need relationship counseling because while this is emotional abuse to you, it absolutely fails to resolve whatever the root problem was.
   And you need counseling from a marriage counselor who is NOT anti-man. Too many counselors are feminists who will put the blame on the man for nearly everything, and many men know this and so resist counseling because the 1-1 fight becomes a 2-1.
   So find a counselor who is either a man or has a reputation for neutrality. Then get counseling.

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   "I have not said anything and not talking to him too now and I know that he is waiting for me to talk to him as he got so much ego."
   It sounds like you {both have egos} that are keeping this thing going.
   Whenever there's a "You & Me" mindset instead of an "Us & We" problems arise. It sounds like you want him to "change".
   The reality is people don't change unless (they) are unhappy.
   People use whatever tactics they feel "works" for them.
   You can be the bigger person and suggest the two of you get into couples counseling. However if he says "no" then you know he has no interest in improving or changing things. What then?
   If he refuses to go to counseling you have to decide whether or not the "silent treatment" is a "deal breaker" or not.
   There are only  two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

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   Kristy Bellposted 7 years ago

   Doing the same behavior is not a solution in this way it will become a huge   problem for both and will affect your  kids too. Find the root of this and choose a happy moment to discuss it with your hubby. As per my opinion you can choose a weekend and do something different on bed . Like you can wear a seductive dress ,use handcuff or anything but that should be different and interesting. Believe me if you just focus on your sex life i mean if your hubby is satisfied with your sexual activities it will affect your whole life in positive direction .

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