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How to Avoid Stress and Anxiety After Giving Birth

Updated on May 4, 2011

How to Avoid Stress and Anxiety After Giving Birth

How to Avoid Stress and Anxiety After Giving Birth. Stress and anxiety after giving birth is very common. Usually after giving birth many women suffer stress and anxiety because of the decreasing hormonal levels and the pressures of being a mom, specially for first time moms. They worry that they will not come up with what is expected of them, which is in fact huge, because being a mom is challenging task and it takes most of your time specially if you are always thinking about it and don't give yourself a break.

In this hub, I will share some tips on how to avoid being stressed out and the feel of anxiety after giving birth. It should be easier if you think that any negative feelings the mom is experiencing has an effect to the baby she is taking care of. She can pass this to the baby and both the mother and the baby will have problems. Being a mom myself I feel the worries, excitement, expectations people have on new moms, including what standards you set yourself.

Even celebrities are not excluded, everybody experienced anxiety and stress after giving birth.Gwyneth Paltrow, Brooke Shields, Courtney Cox and more have experienced postpartum Depression. The key is to understand and enjoy your experience as a mom and stay relaxed.

How to Avoid Stress and Anxiety After Giving Birth

How to Avoid Stress and Anxiety After Giving Birth

Signs that a new mom is stressed out and feelign anxious : (baby blues or post partum blues)

  1. Feeling of exhaustion always
  2. unable to sleep
  3. trapped or anxious.
  4. appetite may increase or decrease,
  5. feeling of irritability
  6. nervous -- "worried about being a good mother, or afraid that being a mother will never feel better than it does right now".

According to Baby Center, all of these feelings — known as the "baby blues" or "postpartum blues" — are normal during the first couple of weeks after childbirth. In fact, up to 80 percent of new moms experience them".

Have a deeper understanding why are you feeling anxious and stressed out. Some of the reasons why a mom who just gave birth suffers form anxiety and stress are ;

  • feeling of inadequacy -- new moms are scared that they will not come up with what is expected of them
  • Physical appearance-- weight problems -- new moms are feeling sad about how they look specifically their weight after giving birth. Usually women lose weight after giving birth by doing simple exercise and it takes six months even to lose weight for most women. If one is breastfeeding it is also ok if you exercise and diet as longs as you eat healthy foods and adequate for you and the baby. Before you embark on exercise it is best tot alk to your health provider about it.
  • Take a look at this for post natal exercise -- Quick exercise for post natal moms : achieving "tummylicious" look.
  • Lack of sleep -- when a mom has just given birth, at times, you also stay awake when the baby is awake to take care of them, change their diapers or nurse them
  • They keep on comparing themselves to what they read and other new moms and other stories, so they feel short of the expectations they set themselves
  • They also disengage themselves from their husband as they are scared to be pregnant again

How to Avoid Stress and Anxiety After Giving Birth

  • First, take care of yourself, eat healthy foods and do exercise for new moms. You can read my hub about exercise in the link provided below. Sleep well and take a nap, and rest assured that your baby is safe even when you are not there (bear this in mind so that you can sleep well).
  • Try to analyze where your anxiety is coming from. If you are anxious about your capability as a new mom, just remember that everybody before they were experienced was once a newbie mom.
  • You can't do everything at one time, being a good mom, takes time and experience teaches one how to perfect it, the baby grows day to day and she grows with you everyday.
  • Just tell yourself that you can do it, mothers instinct to take care of their own baby is a given and amazing. They know when their baby is well, they can even feel it, that's how attachment is from mothers to babies.
  • Don't think of things that are not there yet, like asking or worrying about if your baby get sick or she is not well. Take care of your problems one day at a time or as they come in, don't think of what if.
  • Don't compare you baby to other babies -- every baby develops in their own way, that is -- physically and emotionally, sometimes your child is delay but will catch up with the stages of development.
  • Read child rearing books from experts.
  • Ask friends and research about a good pediatrician whom you can trust, so that you are always reassured. Don't be shy to ask anything from your pediatrician,
  • Ask advice of your loved ones, relatives and friends. Tell them what you are feeling. Talk to your friends and go out some times with them.
  • And most specially talk to your partner about your feelings and explain to him what are your thoughts and expectations. Give time for your hubby, renew your lovelife with them.
  • Relax -- watch TV -- your favorite show
  • Enjoy the time with our baby, take it as a once in a lifetime experience, they will be babies only once -- the bonding and your physical and emotional strength affects them.
  • Most of all stay beautiful, wear that smile, have confidence and pray for guidance.
  • If things get worst, seek help -- ask experts and health providers in your case.
  • Every women cope differently and have different circumstances, feel well about yourself, you are a beautiful mom!

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CONCLUSION :

Coping with anxiety and stress after giving birth may sound difficult but it is easier if you always remind yourself that a healthy mother means a healthy baby. Remember you want to take care of your baby while you are also healthy.

I hope this hub "How to Avoid Stress and Anxiety After Giving Birth" is helpful to you, Pass it on to others.

Thank you for your time.

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    • Anjo Bacarisas II profile image

      Anjo Bacarisas II 5 years ago from Cagayan de Oro, Philippines

      very nifty hub you have.. very good. i like reading your article and it was very helpful. thank you!

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      Ruchi Urvashi 5 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks for the great information. I also felt lot of stress after giving birth. In the earlier months, we took help of a young woman who could help us in the slow transition. It gave me and my husband much needed rest. This article gave good solutions to reduce stress.

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      prettydarkhorse 6 years ago from US

      Thanks all, Maggie welcome to HP!

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      Maggie.L 6 years ago from UK

      A very useful and informative hub covering an important topic.

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      Runway 7 years ago from New York

      very interesting! thanks!

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      jaylazmama 7 years ago

      This was a great hub. Voting UP. Just wish I woulda read it before I gave birth. It would Have helped ALOT! My daughter's now 14 months. =)

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      Panic 7 years ago

      One of the best ways to prevent and help ease stress after childbirth is to join a support group of women who have or are experiencing the joys and pains of being a mother. These groups help provide perspective and the women draw strength from each other. You can find a local support group by doing a search online for "mommy support group CITY"

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      Dim Flaxenwick 7 years ago from Great Britain

      Great hub. I wish I´d had some of that advice 40 years ago.!! I was so, so ill with post partum and no-one understood. I felt like a failure. Eventually found a doctor who was áhead of his time´. Told me to stop trying so hard to be perfect,... and babies DO cry, sometimes , my dear. Thankfully people are more aware these days of post partum depression being REAL.

      Great hub. I´m sure it will help many.

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      Galensmom 7 years ago from Kentucky

      Thank you so much for this. I am just going into my second trimester, and honestly didn't think about "after" the birth. Your writing made me realize I have some planning and preparing to do to make myself comfortable so I can enjoy every moment with my son after he is born. Thank you again!

      Marylynn

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Thank you ted, Maita

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      ted122781 7 years ago from Texas

      It's all so very true. I just had my second child four months ago, and it was still stressful the second time around. This is a great Hub!

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Katrina good to hear from you dear, Maita

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      Katrina Ariel 7 years ago from The Highlands of British Columbia, Canada

      Maita, this is a very nice hub. Great, caring information.

      Just wanted to say I have been thinking of you. I am teaching a LOT right now, and have been too busy to spend much time on Hubpages. But always sending you light, my friend. :)

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      thanks Richard, Maita

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      Richard Armen 7 years ago

      Great advice prettydarkhorse...thanks.

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Hi Mam Nellieanna, that was a horrific experience I can imagine what you undergone, and OUCH that varicose surgey hurts, You have to work, take care of the baby plus also support and help your husband, I admire you, you are a great woman, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      jite and terrific voice, thanks, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Thanks hello, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      taganisted share it to other so that it can become useful, thak you for reading, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Thank you Pam, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      thank you as always angel, yes older people can help mothers at this point specially if they are feeling deperessed, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Hey Shari, you still feel it, you re a good mom so you can cope with it my friend, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Thank you for a very nice comments dinkan, Maita

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      dinkan53 7 years ago from India

      super hub with lot of useful tips, which will be a rain in a desert of lot of new moms. rating it high and useful and keep writing these type of quality hubs.

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Kuya Dave, that's a goodi dea, it will help I am sure, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Sandy thanks, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      You are right Ron, even those who are not pregnant and have anxiety prob can use these advices, as well, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Thanks Cris, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      hi raisingme, I hope your daughter will have an easy poregnacy, Thank you, Maita

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      prettydarkhorse 7 years ago from US

      Thanks Mike, yoga is good as well before and after pregnancy, as it helps to calm the mind and body, Maita

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      Mike Lickteig 7 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

      A friend of mine began practicing yoga to deal with the stress after her child was born. In the beginning it was very gentle yoga, but twelve years later she is still practicing and uses yoga as a way to keep both her mind and body fit.

      Thanks, Maita, this was very informative.

      Mike

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      raisingme 7 years ago from Fraser Valley, British Columbia

      Great Hub - I am definitely going to be passing it on to a few new mothers I know and to my own daughter who is a mother-to-be!

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      carolina muscle 7 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      You've got a lot of helpful information for new mothers here, Maita!

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      a2z50 7 years ago

      Hi Maita ,

      Great information ! This will be very Helpful for the young ladies just having children . But most of us others can use much of this advise for other forms of stress.

      Great work!

      Ron

      As Always also rprcarz50

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      Sandy Mertens 7 years ago from Wisconsin, USA

      Good information on this.

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      Dave Mathews 7 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      Ate' Maita this is great information. Thank you. Might I ad one more simple suggestion please? Invite God into your problems, and ask Him for His guidance,strength,and help.

      His Grace and Love will endure and He alone was the creator of the baby each woman is now responsible for caring for.

      Brother Dave.

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      Shari 7 years ago from New York, NY

      Pretty - it is almost 21 years later since I gave birth and I am still feeling the anxiety.. ha I think the anxiety is worse at this stage of the game. Excellent Hub . thanks as always for sharing ;))))

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      anglnwu 7 years ago

      Helpful tips for new mothers. Postpartum blues are common and talking to older mothers can be very helpful. Thanks for sharing.

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      Pamela Oglesby 7 years ago from United States

      Miata, A very informative hub that I know will help new moms. Great hub.

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      taganisted 7 years ago

      Wish I'd seen something like this in the fortnight after having my daughter, I was so sure I was failing! Of course it all seems like common sense now, but at the time I just couldn't see my way round any of it. x

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      Hello, hello, 7 years ago from London, UK

      I am sure this will help a lot of people. Ver well put together and written.

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      thevoice 7 years ago from carthage ill

      terrific first rate hub work thanks

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      Nellieanna Hay 7 years ago from TEXAS

      Yes - I'm sure it's a common problem. Individual circumstances also contribute. The father of my children who was then my husband demanded I look like I just stepped out of a fashion magazine during my pregnancy and after delivery, and my work was ample to work off extra pounds. The most stress for me was that his family literally stayed with us for the summer following and one stayed on till Christmas! If I hadn't nursed the baby and if he hadn't refused the bottles they tried to get him to prefer, I'd never have gotten to so much as hold him. Sure - it was "help" - but not the kind I needed and wanted. By the time the second baby was in the works the first one was so spoiled I had to hold him or rock him ALL the time! LOL. This created too much strain on my veins resulting in such horrific varicose veins, the doctors said they'd never seen anything to compare at any age. It set up some strict and very unpleasant special things I had to do, including getting into a pair of thick (1/4" thick) elastic hose from toe to crotch before I could even get out of bed each day - and it was Waco, Texas in the spring - no A/C. I had to sit to do all my work - iron, cook, wash dishes, care for my son. . who was still no more than a baby - and a rotten one. Then immediately after the birth of my daughter, I had to undergo a vein "stripping" - a barbaric operation in which the top of the veins at the crotch are reached from incisions and a long probe is inserted down through them to the foot and the veins are pulled out wrong-side-out, severing all the nerves that had been connected to them and leaving them raw and dangling - and hurting with the slightest pressure for years to come. Also my husband chose then to get out of the Air Force and move us back to his home area in Indiana where I had no folks or friends and I had to get a job to help him go back to college, while still nursing my youngest and taking care of the older - and I also was still expected to look perfect, keep a perfect house and help him study all his subjects. Yes - I had a stress problem, though I was optismtic and cheerful - believe it or not - until I virtually broke down and nearly went to pieces, at which point my parents intervened by giving him money to to go school - provided he'd choose another goal than becoming a doctor - so I wouldn't have to work. For this he never forgave me - I was in his mind - the cause of his not becoming a doctor - but I wasn't sure I was smart enough to see him throuhg the courses he'd have to pass to become one and he didn't know how to study by himself!

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      jite 7 years ago from delhi

      very informative hub,thanks