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Self Help for Tough Times

Updated on August 31, 2012

Life Coaching Courses and Self Help

Sometimes in our lives, we have many setbacks. Things just don’t seem to be going our way. We program ourselves to continue plodding along. It is very important that we give ourselves permission to change course, to re evaluate and redirect ourselves towards a new direction. Taking new paths, and making changes is something most of us resist. Very often we need an impetus to push us into action.  Life changes us. Everyday we face new challenges. Life Coaching Course help us maneuver our way through these changes to better understand ourselves, so that no matter what, we will land on our feet.
Sometimes we have to deal with rough spots and setbacks in our lives. They are inconveniences that we would rather not deal with, but we must. What does a setback feel like? Well before the setback, you probably were feeling content and maybe even happy with the way things were. Suddenly, you are thrown for a loop, you are dealt a blow. It could happen in your career,financially, your love life,in relationships, or the sights you had towards your dreams, and in any corner of you life.. Sometimes it can be several or all  of these things. Life coaching courses, self help reading material, and mental health counseling can help during these times.

Setbacks and Positive Changes

Setbacks hurt a lot. It is very common to feel demotivated, angry, disillusioned,. You may be feeling vulnerable, feeling low, and unmotivated. As long as you don’t wallow in self pity for too long, you can also use these emotions you are feeling to re-energize yourself. Believe in yourself. Very often, after you mourn the loss of what was, and the changes it brings, you will reassess your values. The adjustments you need to make can help you feel a new sense of vitality. Give yourself the confidence to move forward. The new prospects ahead can seem exciting. You might even feel a renewed sense of freedom, that allows you to pursue opportunities that you might have forsaken previously.

Looking towards a positive change and thinking optimistically can turn the pages that offer new chapters in your own life coaching course. Resiliency, that bounce back ability of yours, is what will help determine how quickly you adjust to the changes. You can feel bad about what has happened, but try to avoid feeling like a victim. Setbacks happen to us all. You can get beyond this, even if you don’t know how you will at this moment. You are not helping yourself by wallowing in self pity, worrying beyond what is realistic, and abusing alcohol and drugs or food. Just let yourself face reality, trust that the bad times will pass, and have faith in yourself that you can and will make things better. How resilient are you? This is the basis for our life coaching course. Those who deal with changes constructively or destructively will depend on their personal attitude, approach, what they really want for themselves.. Make this change a positive one, by taking positive steps towards your self care, your personal needs, and your biggest dreams.

Time to Reflect

It is realistic to take your time to make changes. Before you forge ahead, it is important to make sure you made peace with your past. Give yourself permission to let go, to miss the things you loved before the setback, and to go forward slowly. It is emotionally healthy to break from your past. Take time to reflect and think about your prior situation and the reality of your future issues. Rushing into changes too fast, will most likely lead to mindless mistakes or taking on obligatory roles because you think you should, or because people tell you what you need to be doing. In life coaching courses, it is all about knowing and trusting yourself. This is the time to gain the confidence in yourself, to be your own person and to stand up to others who may be dictating your life. Be honest with yoursel,. Know what you want for yourself, and who you truly are.  

You know the answers. Now you need to guide yourself towards the bigger picture that includes making decisions that are right for you..

Friends and people close to you are an excellent sources of support. Bounce things off of them, let them help you through these life changes. Make them a part of your life coaching course. Sometimes you may just need someone to listen and not give you advice. Sometimes you may need their guidance and objectivity. Let your friends tell you, you deserve better. Then make sure you believe it yourself.

Lyrics to Chicago's "I've Been Searching for So Long"

As my life goes on I believe
Somehow something's changed
Something deep inside
Ooh a part of me

There's a strange new light in my eyes
Things I've never known
Changin' my life
Changin' me

I've been searchin'
So long
To find an answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Ow oh

Now I see myself as I am
Feeling very free
Life is everything
Ooh it's meant to be

When my tears have come to an end
I will understand
What I left behind
Part of me

I've been searching
So long
To find and answer
Now I know my life has meaning
Woah woah

Don't you know I'm hell yeah
For an answer
To the question
Oh yeah
For our minds
Baby it's true

It's only natural
It's only natural baby, yeah
Good things
In life
Take a long time
yeah yeah

It is Your Personal Journey Towards a New Path

Setbacks will happen. Life coaching courses will teach you about your own resiliency, and help you harness the power that you have within you. Allow your own bounce back ability to help you get through it. Learn to cope with the challanges you have. Be creative, spontaneous, imaginative, and a strategist. Then watch your rewards return to you in ways that never would have come about, if you hadn’t moved forward. The greatest part of you is yet to be.

Now that you have spent some time re evaluating who you are, what has happened, and what you want, it is time to take action. While it is healthy to not rush into any decisions, you don’t want to wait too long or your energy may become lackluster. Should your energy subside, you may go back to your same patterns.

Motivate yourself so that things will be better for you. Life coaching courses can show you thing will turn around as long as you take action. You want to avoid being in a situation like this again. Balance reflecting on what has happened. Balance the desire to move onward as quick as possible. Balance your feelings, your needs, and the responsibilities you have to yourself. No one can tell you what the proper amount of time is for all these things.

Your journey is a personal one. Let your better judgement guide you. Let yourself feel the emotions that arise from your situation. Life coaching courses will help you see that setbacks are not usually as bad as you imagined it to be. Change is not as scary as we thought. New prospects and opportunities abound, as long as we are open to them. Empower yourself with your inner strengths. Move forward with the faith that things will work out. Summon up the courage to reach further than you ever have. Be bold, Be brave, Be yourself. You know you can do it.


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    • qlcoach profile image

      Gary Eby 

      8 years ago from Cave Junction, Oregon

      Yes to life coaching courses.Excellent Hub! As you know trauma can knock the wind out of our sails. That's why I write about how to experience miracles. Peace and light: Gary.

    • toknowinfo profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Hi Betty, thanks for your comments. Sometimes it is enough to know that we are not alone in our journey.

    • Betty Johansen profile image

      Betty Johansen 

      8 years ago

      Resiliency = bounce back ability. A super definition and SUCH an important concept! We all have setbacks, and you have provided some incentive and wisdom to help us through those situations. Thank you!!!

    • toknowinfo profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Hi Susannah, We never know what we will have to deal with, but we do what we have to get through it.

    • susannah42 profile image


      8 years ago from Florida

      voted up. You never know how strong you are until you are confronted with that monumental disaster and you survive.

    • toknowinfo profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Hi B, I am so glad you found my Life Coaching series useful. As usual, I am glad you came by to visit, and for your great comments.

    • toknowinfo profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Hi Tom, Glad to see you as usual. Thanks for the up votes.

    • b. Malin profile image

      b. Malin 

      8 years ago

      We take the good, the bad, and the ugly as our lives prod along. Well put together Hub on "Life Coaching". I used to love the group Chicago, thanks for sharing the lyrics to that hit of theirs. Life is such a passage, how we go through it, is our own personal journey. Thanks for sharing this timely Hub.

    • kashmir56 profile image

      Thomas Silvia 

      8 years ago from Massachusetts

      Hi toknowinfo, great thought provoking hub and all good information and advice to get your life on the right path !

      Awesome and vote up !!!

      Have a awesome week my friend !

    • Jason Hill profile image

      Jason Hill 

      8 years ago

      Thanks for a great hub, really enjoyed this lyrics!

    • toknowinfo profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Hi HP,

      Thanks for stopping by and reading. Sometimes, all we can do is put one foot in front of the other. Making it through the tough moments in our lives is success enough.

    • toknowinfo profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Hi Mentalist, You are absolutely right about reflection being an art. We shouldn't have to need a reason to reflect It is good to stop and think about ourselves and our lives.

    • H P Roychoudhury profile image

      H P Roychoudhury 

      8 years ago from Guwahati, India

      It is good to go on without break in the journey to life without looking for success or failure.

    • Mentalist acer profile image

      Mentalist acer 

      8 years ago from A Voice in your Mind!

      Reflection is an art unto itself as an analitical tool,that I find a reasurring on both posture to situation and relationships ToKnowInfo.;)


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