Being a woman who has gone through it, as well as a clinical herbalist, I so hear you.
There are quite a few herbs that can be used to help alleviate menopausal symptoms.
Black Cohosh (Cimicifuga racemosa) is probably the most well known and most used herb for menopause symptoms
Chaste tree (Vitex agnus castus) is also sometimes called Vitex from it's Latin name.
Dandelion (Taraxacum officinale) is also recommended during menopause. Dandelion works on the liver
I wrote a hub about it a few weeks back.http://cloverleaffarm.hubpages.com/hub/Sex-and-The... You can go there to read the rest of the herbs.