what went so...........W-R-O-N-G?!.......falling WAY WAY short!

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  1. gmwilliams profile image83
    gmwilliamsposted 5 years ago

    There are children who have the best parents; best socioeconomic opportunities;, went to the best schools, colleges, universities; have EVERYTHING that the world could offer, in fact, the world was THEIR oyster.  However, these children are not successful adults; one can describe them as abysmal failures in life.  Why do some children with EVERY imaginable opportunity, FAIL or simply DON'T realize their utmost potential?

    1. AMFredenburg profile image77
      AMFredenburgposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      There's no way to see behind closed doors and see what really goes on, but what I've seen particularly with a lot of middle-class families is that the parents don't let their kids succeed. So much is done for them and so much support is provided that these kids don't get to learn their own strengths. It's like the story of the baby chick hatching out of its egg; if it is allowed to struggle and peck its way out, the wings develop in the process and it becomes a healthy chick; if someone helps the bird by helping to open the shell, the wings never develop and the chick fails.

      1. gmwilliams profile image83
        gmwilliamsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        You are so succinctly ON TARGET.....OUCH!  Oh my GOD, what you have said is so acute in its analysis.  Many middle-middle and upper-middle class parents DON'T let their children succeed.  They map out their children's lives, wanting to solve their problems and make their lives as stressfree as possible.  They do not want their little ones to experience frustration for that would irreparably damage them.   

        Because so many middle-middle and upper-middle class parents overprotect and mollycoddle their children, their children become very deficient regading being self-starters and using independent judgment.  Such children are also deficient in problem solving skills.   That lethal combination oftentimes spells failure when more independent skills are needed in high school, college, and career areas.  So many middle-middle and upper-middle class children today are LOST in the work world.  Many employers are totally aghast at these "adult" children's abysmally low life skill and maturity levels.  It is very sad indeed.
        Donald Trump, the millionaire, had his 3 children take menial jobs as teenagers in order to build up their skills and to imbue a work ethic in them.   His daughter, Ivanka, asserted that while her mother, Ivana, paid her tuition, if she wanted the extras, she had to WORK an afterschool job to acquire them.  Many wealthy people have their children work in order to learn independence and to acquire work skills and experience.

  2. ChristinS profile image49
    ChristinSposted 5 years ago

    The kids I've seen that come from homes like this are often set up for failure. The parents want so badly to give their kids the things they didn't have perhaps. Or in some cases, the kids are seen as a personal extension like a fashion piece and so they are given everything, handed everything as a status symbol.

    Kids that aren't taught that it's ok to want things, that aren't given incentive to actually have to try, will often just settle for the path of least resistance.  I know some say that kids from poor backgrounds are the ones that struggle in life, and often that is the case, but some of the best successes in life come from very humble backgrounds.  They learn early if they want something they have to work for it and they tend to understand that life doesn't just hand you everything you want because you want it.

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      +1,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000,000 on target and correct as usual, ChristinS.  It is GOOD that you are adding to the discussion!


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