Emotional baggage in realationships, what causes it? How do you stop it?
its becoz of ego..if people try to satisfy their ego it will create loop holes in relations
Emotional baggage comes from allowing emotions to control you, how to prevent this is by being aware of the emotions, watch them and then let them go.
Most emotional baggage is caused by issues in past relationships -- romantic, family, and otherwise. Sometimes stopping it is a matter of just identifying it and learning to let go, but for deeper emotional scars it's not always that simple. In many cases, it's more a matter of understanding your partner's emotional baggage and learning to deal with it constructively for a better future rather than being able to completely stop it.
I am one that used to carry around tons and tons of emotional baggage. It was destroying my marriage even. It got to the point that we could no longer move forward. I had to let go of all the baggage. Open it up one by one learn from it and let it go. Forgive what needs forgiving, and say good bye to those that were holding me back. And now I'm baggage free almost completely and I even help others get rid of theirs. But I hope you see my point, in order to move forward, you gotta get rid of the baggage.
Since I let go of mine, my husband and I are happy again. It's a choice, to hold on to it or let it go. Generally there is a reason if you're still holding on to it, find out that reason, and you'll find out how to let go of it.
We all have emotional baggage. That's probably what separates us out from the saints and holymen and women.
Emotions are thought forms held in the mind-body at the subconscious level which surface when the right stimulus is provided. The more we carry, the more easily we are triggered to react.
Accept that you - the real you - are not the emotions. Not easy, but can be done. I recommend a ten-day course in a Vipassana Meditation centre, or some other really serious meditational retreat (not the feel-good relaxation type, but the ones that will take you deep within so you can find out what you are not) Once you're fully established in the realization that there is a real you and self-image you (the ego) you'll be on your way to freeing yourself from you own baggage. And once you've done that, other people's baggage will concern you far less.
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