When is ok to forgive yoursef, let go of the guilt and move forward?
I understand that my imperfections have hurt people in the past and I am very sorry for that but guilt can have you feeling obligated to those you hurt. When is it ok to forgive yourself and move forward?
When it doesn't matter anymore. We have a saying in the military, OBE, "overcome by events". When your issue is OBE, let it go. When you know what you did wrong and you work on fixing it, that's when guilt should change to progress. Don't waste time and resources on guilt when you could be working on being even more awesome.
@thejeff....man that was an awesome answer. Really gave me some insight. Great insight
After your mourning period has passed then you will realized that their is sunshine after the rain. Then eventually healing will come and you will be able to forgive yourself and free your heart from hatred and guilt.
An important thing to remember about forgiveness is that first and foremost you need to forgive yourself and only then will other be able to forgive you.
The realization that you might have hurt others is the first step towards over-coming the guilt and forgiving yourself. Once you truly understand the implication of the situation and want to make an effort to make things better - forgive yourself and move on.
You'll know when it's okay. If you're still feeling serious mental and emotional anguish over past events, then there's something that you still need to work through with yourself. A counselor might help, or just some time alone to sit and think about what you've done.
if you have done something that has hurt others...and you have taken steps to redress that wrong...even if those you hurt never know about it and never forgive you...you are free to forgive yourself. the thing about forgiveness is that it rarely affects the forgiven. it is a gift for the giver. forgiving is for self healing and well being. if you know in your heart you have done what you can to make up for the wrong...then forgive yourself, close the book on that chapter of your life and move forward. dont dwell on it, but keep it in your memories to prevent a similar mistake from happening again, or for having compassion and mercy on others who might do wrong against you.
When you've repented and you've been forgiven by God. It can be hard to accept God's forgiveness when you know how horrible you've been (though God is neither surprised nor put off by that--He's all too familiar with the human race), but the only way to let go of the guilt is to accept His forgiveness. Obviously, you still have to go through the steps to reconcile with anyone that has been hurt in the process, but you don't have to live in a place of guilt and shame indefinitely.
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