To an extent sex does help but there are other stress relief technique like been less a burden to him.....feeding and lots of sleep. help him understand that whatever problem he is passing through will be over............whatever you do for him....make sure the motive is to make him feel relaxed
Stress Management Tools for Men
First, focus on what your are doing well. The human mind is hardwired to focus on what is going wrong, where threats are coming from and that which is negative. It is critical that we learn to train our brain to focus on our strengths, our passions, what we are doing well during stressful times, such as we have currently.
As far as tools to turn down the volume on stress and the subsequent anger it sparks, here are some useful tools …
Be aware of your bodily sensations (e.g., tightness in chest, shallow breathing, rise in heart rate) so you can instantly tell when you are beginning to get angry or stressed
When you first sense stress or anger, take a break from the situation (e.g., take a walk outside, exercise, watch a comedy, count from 10 to 1, breathe deeply).
To alleviate the anger at yourself, remember self-compassion. Talk to yourself as you would a young child (e.g., 2-3 years old). Be kind, understanding and compassionate. Try not to yell at yourself (in your head).
Ask yourself “Will this matter 10 years from now?” Odds are, the answer will be “No”. Then take steps to relax (as above).
Remember to continue facing your fears one at a time. Look for small steps of improvement.
Visualize yourself as a fishing net stretched across a river. The river is the world of emotions rushing towards you. You are the net. You allow all negative emotions to race right through you. All positive emotions (e.g., contentment, joy, pride, curiosity, awe, love, etc.) are caught and kept by you (the net).
Breathe deeply 3 minutes per day (into your abdomen or stomach region). When you breathe in, your belly should inflate like a balloon. When you breathe out, your belly should deflate. Inhale for 6 seconds, hold for 1, exhale for 8 seconds, hold for 4. Repeat 5 times.
Listen to a progressive muscle relaxation file 4 times in the next 7 days to reduce your overall emotional arousal level.
Ask yourself, “Is this something under my control?” If the answer is ‘no’ then let it go.
For more stress management and anger management tools, check out my site at http://www.GuideToSelf.com and the video blog at http://drjohnsblog.wordpress.com.
Have a great week!
All the best,
John Schinnerer, Ph.D.
Award-winning author, founder of Guide to Self
Discover an interesting hobby and become absorbed it. It will help take your mind away from work and stress.
Take plenty of exercise. Go to the gym, hit the punch-bag, go for a run, ride a bike or whatever. Channeling your energy in this way will help you to de-stress.
Frequently spend some quality time with family and friends and share your thoughts. A problem shared is a problem halved.
Get a dog! Taking it out for walks will be good exercise for you and if you spend some time stroking your dog - this will help to lower your blood pressure, reduce stress and cause the release of human feel-good hormones.
And like my friend sir_tallest says - sex - our horizontal jogging - good for old heart and blood pressure and what could be a better way of de-stressing by being with your partner and making love.
People get stressed for different reasons and have different coping skills, so there can not be a "one-size-fit-all" approach to stress relief. There are some time tasted techniques that are mentioned in this article:
http://www.squidoo.com/stress-relief-te … -your-life
If you are mentally oriented towards meditation, you will find mindfulness meditation a life long partner. Here the approach is entirely different but will have corrective influence on your attitudes and tendencies. It will give you kind of new way of living and behaving. I have some hubs on this topic and can also read the following article:
http://www.squidoo.com/how-to-relieve-s … ulness-way
Finally, Combining mindfulness and other relaxation techniques can give you added benefits.
Work, family, credit card debt, mortgage(s), finances, in-laws; what goes through your mind and how does your body react when you think of what each one of these words means to you?
1. Stay connected. Good friends are a big support and nurturing. Strive to maintain healthy relationships with the people you surround yourself with.
2. Reward yourself at the end of a stressful day. Before bedtime, put aside your concerns for a brief period and allow yourself to fully relax, even if it's just a few moments of deep breathing. Remember, you need time to recharge and energize yourself to face another day.
3. Track your tensions. If you have a daily affirmations book, or a journal, you can rate your stress level every day from 1-10. This will give you a good gauge of where you are and where you want to be.
4. Track the causes. Keep a few notes of what happens each day. When something comes up, rate your stress level, and over time you will begin to see patterns of what is causing your stress.
Sam:
1. Take a deep breath and don't panic: You're a problem-solver so begin to take stock of where you are with finances, savings, etc.
2. Set up a 4-step job-search plan, all logically linked and in order :
a. Map out a plan: Look at a map. Draw some kind of shape around your home, going as far out as you are comfortable driving. That's your search space.
b. List your job options: Google in your field, and the towns within your search space. Those are your job options. Log the address and phone numbers.
c. Schedule contacts: Write the names of the companies you like best on a schedule, and start calling, say 10 in the morning, and 10 in the afternoon. Within a week you should have a list of interviews set up.
d. Set up time with a career coach to keep you on track and accountable.
3. Don't procrastinate: Taking control of the job search process and practicing effective time management should help your stress level fall.
4. Take a break: A walk around the block or some deep breathing can help clear your head, keep you calm and give you a new perspective.
Stress Management for men and women may differ but the goal is the same.
Reducing stress through stress management techniques will strengthen your relationships and help you live a more fulfilling and happier life.
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