Someone dear to me is going through Chemotherapy. What can I do to help?

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   Earl S. Wynnposted 13 years ago

   Someone dear to me is going through Chemotherapy. What can I do to help?

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   reeltaulkposted 13 years ago

   Be there......especially if they are reaching out to you, that means that they need you as well as whatever strength you have to offer.  If they are not reaching out and maybe a bit distant, still be there.  That may be that they are trying to cope ( nothing you need take personal) being unconditionally ready and available won't hurt you if you truly love them!

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   Lovesloveposted 13 years ago

   Be at their side when they need you..listen when they want to talk...Cuddle  them when they need a cuddle..but most of all offer love and support in any way you can..be there when needed !!! X

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   dragonlady1967posted 13 years ago

   Someone dear to me just finished Chemo.  You need to be there for them.  Chemo makes you very sick.  Help them with whatever you can even if it is just holding their hand, or washing the dishes.  Each person is different, but my friend still remembers all the hugs.

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   A la carteposted 13 years ago

   Just be there when they want you and be supportive.

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   Jon Rubinposted 13 years ago

   Call them, visit them, and help them with chores or other odds and ends things, like running errands. Try not to treat them any differently than you normally would, while not ignoring the situation or pretending nothing is happening.

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   dabeanerposted 13 years ago

   Help them get some marijuana to counter nausea so they can keep food down.  Counter petit-fascist busybodies seeking to keep weed illegal.

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   lex123posted 13 years ago

   Make him feel that you are with him, and he is not alone in going through this hard time.  Give him all types of support and be patient with him, and keep reminding him that God is always with him.

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   SteveoMcposted 13 years ago

   Tell him that you are there for him.   You want to help.  Ask him what he wants, jokes, laughter, quiet time, reading, what?     Listen carefully, and then provide what he wants to the best of your ability.   The love is the most important thing, but sometimes he might want a diversion.     He might want to play cards, or get the hell out of the house.    Take him out and go for a walk, or sit in a park.

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    ron0540posted 13 years ago

    I lost a very dear and close friend 6 months ago to brain cancer.  Her most difficult time was at night when everyone and everything is quiet.  She could not stop her mind from thinking of all the sad, bad, and emotional things associated with having terminal cancer.
    So, I started reading to her at night.  If I was not with her, I would read to her over the phone.  If we were together, then I would read to her in bed until she would fall asleep.  This became the one thing she absolutely loved, and it really made me feel like I was doing something for her that helped her.  It does not matter what you read, that can be discussed between the two of you.  It really helped her to be able to drift off to sleep with out going crazy with all the thoughts that would go through her mind at night.
    Hope this gives you some ideas.

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    Wesman Todd Shawposted 13 years ago

    Get them some marijuana to smoke.  Marijuana will increase their appetite, reduce nausea, and help them maintain some sense of self esteem - because they won't be so unnaturally skinny.

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