Why are kids starting to be "deflowered" so young? Are these kids doing well in school and life?
If you watch the Disney channel for one hour you will know. Five and six year olds are watching shows about high schoolers (and younger) where it appears that they live on their own, there are no parents around, and if parents are around, they are buffoons that are to be mocked and ignored. These shows are full of sexual innuendos and only focus on boys and relationships, and getting a boyfriend. I do not let my 6 year old daughter watch them.
For example, just last week I walked in on an empty room and that channel was on. The scene was two high school aged girls in a house, being pestered by a 8-10 year old boy. He was making suggestive comments to one of the girls, who said, annoyed, "Don't you have an off switch?" His reply was, "I would like you to try to find it."
And don't even get me started on "Glee" and Lady Gaga and Britney Spears.
The main reason is the television, most of the cartoon programs and even commercial advertisements contain abusive content in them which are not appropriate for children.
I don't blame television for why kids are being "deflowered" at such a young age. Yeah, it's a contributing factor and we should focus more carefully on what our kids watch, but there are so many other places for them to hear about sex and adult situations. They have friends. They can read books. They go to health and sex education classes. Television is to blame just as much as anything else.
I learned about sex in junior high from my best friend at the time. I didn't watch tv, I hated reading and I skipped my health class in favor of not having to take hope that stupid electronic baby. But that didn't stop my peers from shedding light onto what I knew nothing about. Next thing I knew I was surfing the internet and researching things I was too young to know about.
Despite all that, I did well in school and life. I wasn't "deflowered" young, though that didn't stop me from trying to be. We all make our own choices on these matters. I felt like the odd one out in high school because I was a virgin and that spurred me on to try and find someone to end the teasing. But I didn't end up having sex until I got married. I knew more about it than some of my friends who were having it did and I turned out perfectly fine.
A kid can turn a dirty joke as well as a grown up, doesn't mean he or she is going to start suffering in other aspects of their life.
You can always look to the media as one reason for the sexualistion of our society today. Selling chicken even has sexual overtones, so there is no hope when you get to selling clothing, or personal products. On the other hand you need to be asking the questions - "What input have their parents?" / "Are these children receiving supportive relationship education?" / "Who are their role models?" etc. You can never dismiss the impact significant others have on a person's behaviour and choices in life.
Having taught 11, 12 and 13 year olds for a number of years I can say peer pressure is a major factor in choices made by this age group. Parents most of all can help their children to deal with this pressure by showing their child or children that they are loved and supported. From my experience this goes a long way to setting young teens up to make sound judgements.
Ebb and flow.
Don't forget there was a time where 13 year old girls were betrothed to 30 year old guys.
This has been the trend for ages, it varies from society to society.
Society's changing and kids hear about it from everywhere except the home. It's a sad thing because, everyone's quick to discuss the pleasures and every contraceptive imaginable, but not many discuss the emotional aspect of it and the impact early sexual activity has in the long run.
Children shouldn't be taught with the mindset the they're going to have sex anyway and I'm not saying that they should be shown STD pictures or told that sex is a bad thing, but when kids aren't mature enough for sex. Ultimately most of sexual education should come from the home, but parents have to take the right approach.
Early sexual activity makes it very difficult to sustain relationships. I know being a guy, I always wanted to respect my female friends, but it was difficult to sustain those friendships without thinking about sex. Another thing is we're in an ever changing society, sexting wasn't possible at one time. Pornography is easily accessible through computers, phones, and other devices, so kids can be exposed to it very easily.
What is your issue over a piece of tissue? Kids want knowledge, the want to learn.
curiosity and pressure.
kids like to try the things that they are told not to do.
ideally they should be educated and informed of all of the possible consequences un-sugar-coated and how special it can be if they wait (...most people are much more attracted to the cookie without the bite taken out of it).
many parents think that their kids are too young to talk to about it until it's too late. i don't think that any of these 'early bloomers' are ready for it, or even want to do it...i know i didn't!!!
most of these kids are doing absolutely fine....until they fall pregnant or catch something that effects the rest of their life.
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