Grudges

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   Janettaposted 13 years ago

   When somebody does something you're not happy with, do you hold a grudge for long or do you get over it and move on?
   
   
   I generally get over things fairly easy. Sometimes it may take a little longer than others, but I rarely hold a grudge for long.

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      Drew Breezzyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      move on but want to induce physical harm

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      rebekahELLEposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      I move on, no reason to hold a grudge. life moves on.
      
      I miss janetta, hope she is doing well!

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   wesleycoxposted 13 years ago

   It depends on what was done.  I have the memory of an elephant when someone does something terrible to me.  I may forgive the transgression in time but I'll never forget and I'll be more guarded with that person.  Other more minor infractions are easily tossed out.  If it was a spouse I am a lot more forgiving of that.

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   edguiderposted 13 years ago

   I am very much the same way but it takes time. I have held grudges for years and later realize that it was stupid!! I try not to hold grudges anymore it just makes everything worse, it is easier and less stressful to forgive.

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   zadrobiposted 13 years ago

   Forgive but don't forget.

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   frogdroppingposted 13 years ago

   I just move on. Once the moment of anger is done, I'm done with letting it bother me. Bad times are only alive in our memories. I'd rather read a good book than sit around simmering about something that's done and gone.
   
   Someone been upsetting you Janetta?

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   A Texanposted 13 years ago

   I still won't watch the Dallas Cowboys because Jerry Jones fired Tom Landry, that was 1989. He fired him while Tom was playing golf, what kind of man fires a legend Like Tom Landry while he's on the golf course?
   
   I guess I hold a grudge for awhile.
   
   I'm pretty sure my not watching hasn't hurt their revenue.

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   Janettaposted 13 years ago

   A Texan--I can understand your grudge! lol
   
   No, Froggy, nobody upsetting me, just wondered if anybody else got over things as quickly (sometimes hehe) as I do.

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      frogdroppingposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Good to know

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   ralwusposted 13 years ago

   When someone gives a personal lesson in meanness to a critter or to a person, that someone shouldn't be surprised if the student learns their lesson. But on the whole, I do my best to let it go. I don't squat with my spurs still on and my gloves are left on the pommel.

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      frogdroppingposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Ha! There's one right there ralwus! Wonderful

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   ralwusposted 13 years ago

   Haha FD, you are so jumpy funny! I dropped that one just for you. LOL

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      frogdroppingposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Pearls before swine ralwus ... pearls before swine

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    ralwusposted 13 years ago

    I thought Miss Piggy quite becoming in pearls. Would look nice on frogs too. Got to split now, have fun all. Hold no grudge for all time now.

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       Daniel Carterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I hold grudges at the drop of a hat. I'm really bad about it. However, I work very hard at letting go and moving on. Odd that I should find this thread. Yesterday I had some extremely upsetting news from someone who was once very close to me.
       
       So I held grudge, took a hammer and destroyed everything that person gave me. Took all the valuable gifts and memorabilia and gave it to a thrift store. Then I went to dinner with a friend and we bitched all night.
       
       Good a good night's sleep. My house is clean. I think I'm fine now.
       
       May not be exemplary conduct, but after being through so much betrayal and not knowing about it for a year, I feel better now.
       
       

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          Janettaposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          well at least you destroyed YOUR stuff and not theirs!!

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             Daniel Carterposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             Well, I didn't word that right. There were some little gifts that were ceramic-like, that I was given by the person, and took a hammer to them. All the rest went to the thrift shop. The betrayal was also about being used, deceived, etc. for a year or more.
             
             But I'm done. No more worries.

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    Bsmoothposted 13 years ago

    It takes a lot for me to hold a grudge but when I do.... I'm holding one right now and I'm trying to think of the best way to hurt this person back

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    Lisa HWposted 13 years ago

    I'm pretty understanding; and I have to say when someone I know has done something it's not usually because they intended it -  so I don't hold a grudge.  If someone I don't know does something (like some stranger at the grocer store) it's a small thing, so I don't hold a grudge. 
    
    On the other hand, if someone intentionally does something that hurts my kids there will be a lot more than a grudge for them to deal with; and I wouldn't think twice of devoting the rest of my life to seeking revenge (that's within the law, not outside of it).  If there's a job to be lost at stake, a professional license, a reputation, or anything else; I'd be out to create as much damage and loss for them as possible.

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    poetlorraineposted 13 years ago

    i don't hold a grudge, i move on, but if possible if i lose trust in that person, move a w a y from them as well as on, in my own life.  some people are just trouble makers, i can do without that in my life

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       BIKTMIAposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       I never hold grudges, because my life is pretty great. I enjoy others a lot and say in mind maybe the person is just having a bad day.  I enjoy isolation like a hermit so , I avoid a lot.

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    annvansposted 13 years ago

    I try my best not to hold a grudge, cuz if I do...I only hurt myself I guess.

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