Do you find it easy to forgive, or do you seem to hold grudges?

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  1. Ranzi profile image81
    Ranziposted 7 years ago

    Do you find it easy to forgive, or do you seem to hold grudges?

  2. N.E. Wright profile image79
    N.E. Wrightposted 7 years ago

    Forgiving is for you.  Not for the person who had harmed you in anyway.  Holding that grudge only give them more power over your life.

    I forgive for my health.  LOL.  It is as simple as that.


  3. ravenlt04 profile image64
    ravenlt04posted 7 years ago

    It depends on who hurt me.  I usually don't hold grudges until a person has done the same thing to me more than once (more than three times usually).  Less important people generally just get cut off.  With people close to me, I forgive but tend to remember the offense (as to avoid getting hurt again); I wouldn't call it holding a grudge.  It also depends on what the offense is.  The really painful things are never forgotten.  I always forgive because of my faith.  I do have one person at work that I still need to totally forgive....  I know I haven't totally forgiven her because I can't stand to be in her presence.

  4. ChristineVianello profile image61
    ChristineVianelloposted 7 years ago

    I do not like to hold grudges against people because it makes a pit in your stomach. Forgiving people releases tension that you build up in your body.

  5. sangre profile image95
    sangreposted 7 years ago

    Forgiving is not something that happens immediately it takes time. To forgive is to accept what happened, it's a lot harder to forget it thought.

    When you manage to forgive it gives you a sense of freedom and you will be able to except that sometimes people aren't always good.

  6. Ancillotti profile image61
    Ancillottiposted 7 years ago

    Forgiveness is one of the hardest tasks for the human heart, especially if the suffering has been caused by someone who was our extreme confidence.
    But I am optimistic that with all the rancor is the time, because there is time for everything under heaven.

  7. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 7 years ago

    i don't worry if it is easy to forgive because if the offense is serious i never forgive. forgiveness is foolish in my eyes and to me all it does is make the offender feel like they can continue to do as they please without any problems.

  8. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 7 years ago

    I think it would depend on what was done to me.  For the most part if someone is genuinely repentant, then I can easily forgive--but I learn from it and don't forget.

  9. Ashantina profile image61
    Ashantinaposted 7 years ago

    Depends who it is and what they've done.
    Oddly I find it harder to forgive those closest to me... maybe becuz of the emotional attachment and because its always a shock when loved ones hurt you.
    However, Im getting better at forgiving.... my health comes first!!

  10. Vishaaa profile image76
    Vishaaaposted 7 years ago

    I can't forget anything easily. I tend to hold grudges most of the time. But when time passes, it will just blow out............

  11. Kamalesh050 profile image81
    Kamalesh050posted 7 years ago

    It depends who is the person and what has been done to me.
    Normally I don't hold grudges and even if in some occasions I do,  I tend to forget the whole thing later.  I  believe in forgiveness. If the person is truly apologetic it makes it easier for me to forgive.

  12. zduckman profile image60
    zduckmanposted 7 years ago

    Forgiveness is a gift to ourselves. Why stew on something and let it eat away at you when the other person has no idea...and has gone on with their life.
    We must be the change we wish to see in the world


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