How do you handle "self-righteous" people, especially if they are your relatives

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   CarolineVABCposted 13 years ago

   How do you handle "self-righteous" people, especially if they are your relatives?
   
   Someone told me that being busy is Being Under Satan's Yoke because I could not sing with the fam for our first year death anniversary, and could not visit her grave due to work. He also only believes in KJV of the bible, and nothing else. I'm a little bit tired of his attitude, but do not want to attack back because that will only make matters worse.

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   msorenssonposted 13 years ago

   Accept that people are entitled to their own opinion, including you. The only truth that you must believe is that which you experience yourself, and as well as everyone, you have the right to not entertain their demands of you. Also, you do not have to accept anyone's definition of you.

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   AureliaMilaniposted 13 years ago

   Eveyrone have a rights to choose with whom he/she want to communicate. Even this self-righteous person your relatives, you are not obliged to keep in touch with her/him or you can do it very rarely and one more: Be patient ))

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   alfetherlinposted 13 years ago

   Remember, the best way to handle a person is to be the best person you can be. Have you ever heard the sayings: 'Kill them with kindness' and 'The best revenge is living well.'
   If you continue to be a true Christian; one who does not judge, attack, condescend, or maltreat anyone, then you will best your relative without even trying.
   God Bless.

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   Alex Mihailoffposted 13 years ago

   There are actually a few different questions hidden here so I'm going to try and address as many as possible in a small space.
   
   1.) Busyness does not equal being under Satan's yoke. If being busy distracts from what God is saying and trying to lead you to do, then it can be a tool the enemy uses to distract. It is unfair to characterize an entire person that way because they missed a family event.
   
   2.) There is nothing wrong with the KJV. As far as I'm concerned, if the truth written in the Bible is communicated to the reader in a way that God can speak clearly to them, then that's what it truly important. I am a huge fan of accuracy to the original text and not big into paraphrases. That being said, everyone reads and understands differently. It is also unfair to judge someone based on the version of the Bible they read.
   
   3.) To the original question, I would direct you to Romans 12:14-21. One of the best ways to handle this situation is essentially what alfetherlin said. By being kind, you will actually directly impact the attitude someone has towards you.
   
   I will add this, however. I don't believe you should be walked over, nor should you allow yourself to be. From the story you tell, you may not be the only person they treat this way. For that, I would direct you to Matthew 18:15-17. Talk to them about their attitude and how it affects you.
   
   Note: This does not have to be, nor should it be an attack on that person. It should simply be an expression of your heart in an attempt to resolve the issue. They may attack you in response, but you do not have to retaliate.
   
   Try to be encouraged that you are not the first, nor the last person to encounter that type of attitude, even from family. You are not the first to miss a family event because of work, nor the last. It is ok.

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   moonfairyposted 13 years ago

   I listen to what they have to say and carry on with my life. An opinion is just that...and I do not like people who try to shove their thoughts and opinions down my throat. It's really none of their business. I agree with you that attacking just makes matters worse...and I find it hard to control what I want to say, but I do. It just makes you want to have a fit, doesn't it?? lol!! I guess what they say is true, ignorance is bliss!!!!!!

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