What are you resisting?
Is there something that is really important to you that you have not obtained or achieved? It may be that what you want has not yet manifested because of your resistance to it! There may be a conflict in beliefs that needs to be cleared up before accomplishment it possible. Let me know what you think!
You know, I feel like there's something I'm supposed to do but it's like it's behind a locked door and I don't have the key. But I'm not resisting....I try very hard to open that door daily. I know it's at my fingertips.
I couldn't encourage you more strongly to begin to meditate regularly, if you aren't already. You may may stop seeking, the universe already knows what you want. It's time to silence your mind and listen only for the answer. I guarantee it will come.
Quieting the mind is sometimes difficult for me. Please keep me in your prayers and thank you for caring about others so.
I learned that sometimes I'm so busy waiting for answers, that I don't realize that these blessings or answers have been in front of me all along. I just didn't recognize them. You may be asking for and looking for something that is already there.
This is a very good question. Many people are resisting something and don't even realize they are. It is usually tied to fear: fear of success, failure, rejection, etc. The fear may stem from the belief system, i.e. I'm not good enough, I'm not smart enough, I'm not worthy, etc. However, instead of seeing these belief systems and fear that is stopping them, it becomes "I don't have time," " I don't have enough money," "I don't have the right equipment," etc. Recognizing these goes a long way to breaking down the resistance and then to accomplishment. We have to consciously engage the tactic "Resistance is futile." (That's from the Borg on Star Trek.) Resistance is also stagnating and nonproductive, but it can be so insiduous and difficult to overcome.
Thank you Cyndi10! Your comment is quite accurate! Have you been reading my mind? I am grateful that you took the time to give us your input!
Well, besides snarling under my breath at the long, grey, wet, cold German winter that bites to the bones; feeling like I am in a zombie movie; and not fully accepting at all times the whole circumstances at the moment, I am good.
When the resistance meter starts beeping I remind myself that Kati and I knew exactly what we were getting into by moving here last summer. And we came anyway.
It is the larger picture that soothes the emotions. We know that we are here for a purpose beyond the reasoning of our personalities and that in the end we will look back and be glad we came. Sometimes we have said to each other that when we have no more resistance left, then we will be able to move on. It really is more about what is gong on inside than on what happens around us.
Good question, Born2care.
Thanks Eddy! I am envious in a way. You and Kati apparently did not suffer the resistance of the unknown...just the consequences. This type of living is only for the bold...and adventurous. Oh what dividends await you! Thank you for answering!
The feeling that I may be being used by someone that I love. My other half is the inmate on HP and as much as I believe him, I know that people are very good at role playing for their own benefit. Oh well, time will tell.
This is so difficult. You have my complete support. I have found that the hardest thing to let go of isn't the truth, but my perspective of it. That's what caused my fear. When I let go of my ego, much changed. Happiness exists.
Boy is this a great question!
I would have to say there are two things for me right now.
#1) I was able to lost almost 100 pounds through very hard work and strict dedication. I've recently been gaining a bit back, mostly because of emotional eating and an apathetic attitude. I know what I need to do to lose it, or to at least to stop gaining, but it feels overwhelming.
#2) I'm a smoker and I need to quit. This, too, feels impossible and I've tried countless times before.
Resistance to change feels easier than change itself, but in reality it just brings misery. Suffering is a choice. Sometimes suffering feels better than the effort it takes to change things...
Congratulations! You have proven to yourself that loving yourself is worth it. And, you have proven that uncertainty is difficult to stay in bed with. It's time for all of us to stop resiting remembering who we really are! Who you are is enough!
This is such an outstanding questions. Really outstanding! I struggled with and still, sometimes, struggle with resistance. When I am stuck....I re-read these two books "A Course in Miracles" and one of Marianne Williamsons books titled "A Return to Love. I wish that I could get everyone I know to read, at least, one of these books. I could say more but I won't....but this is the answer for me.
Missed you Dee! 2 fabulous, fabulous works. We suffer when we resist acknowledging that there is a huge space between what we want and what is. As long as we fail to accept what is and agree to act without assurance of the outcome, we will suffer.
I really like this question--questions are SOOOOO powerful!!!
I'll have to think on this--I know there is more depth for me. But I think I resist narrowing down and focusing. I'm always involved in what seem like a million different projects. I have so many interests, goals, and desires. I've been working on trying to live a more focused life. So--what am I resisting that keeps me from letting things go? Perhaps fear of choosing the wrong thing--losing networks--losing momentum--getting bored--not impacting enough people for good--becoming "narrow" and irrelevant....
There are roots beneath this I need to get to so thanks for asking the question!!!
Very introspective Seek-n-find! Perhaps you resist the natural beauty of the Butterfly, seemingly going from place to place, often blown by the wind. don't forget...it's a pollinator and we cannot live without them! Enjoy the ride!
I like that, Born2care. It's good to embrace our "weaknesses" and see how we can use them instead of push them away. Seek-n-find, I can relate, I'm working on 3 different paintings and have yet to finish one of them!
Thanks Born2care: That's a good analogy. Yes, a pollinator is a very accurate term for me. I just need to remember I'm a butterfly and I need to keep flying (as opposed to trying to swim and crawl too) but also remember the purpose in rest. :-)
Basically, everything. I'll explain. As people, we resist reaching forward because we fear failure. We resist reaching back for fear of opening old wounds. We resist success because it would be unknown territory and fear we can't sustain that. We resist failure because we have egos that won't allow that.
We resist anything that is outside of our comfort zone. Stress is the reaction to change. Change is difficult so we avoid it, or resist it. To change is stressful. See that vicious circle? To change means we realize there are other ways other than our own. There goes the ego.
Bottom line is that change takes us from our comfort zone; moves us into the unknown. So, with all this, the one thing that is the motivater or de-motivater is Fear itself. It's the strongest emotion we have; even above love or grief. So our reaction to it is also very strong and that is resistance.
I had boxes of papers in storage... for years. I brought them all home and they filled up my living room. I just stared at them for 2 weeks! Then, one by one, I finally started going through them. I'm down to five boxes but it still feels overwhelming to go through them. I feel like I'm going to find something bad but I keep finding either (a) garbage that I throw out or (b) good stuff, like an old cell phone I was able to turn on. I even found $20 but I'm still stressed out to go through the rest! I really don't know what my problem is but I am determined to get through it by the end of this weekend. Every day, I am chipping away at it. At one point, I had so many piles of papers, I couldn't sit on my sofa. At least, I've gotten through all of them and can sit down again. For me, it's more important to clean the room (for peace of mind) than to stare at those piles a day longer than necessary. I may not understand the "why" behind my stress but I am not going to let it stop me from getting the job done!
Congratulations! Perhaps when it's all over and you have an uncluttered environment again, you'll take a moment, relax, and pay attention to silence. Breathe deeply and Peace of mind will follow.
Your question is so big time a shocker it hit me to the core and triggered me to seriously ponder on the major issues of my life at the moment. I think it's high time for me to open up because I really need help on this. If only I know of a right place and person for me to consult this matter I would have done that.
Its been two years since my American husband (now) had planned to take me to the U.S. (am a Filipino residing in my homeland). I am very much amenable to this plan so we did everything including legal documents, hiring a lawyer, and a travel agency for this purpose, yet everything turns into some sort of misfortune with the people we hire; misfortune in their part such as the agency cannot get the necessary documents for some reasons, the lawyer had eloped with his mistress to Japan (he's a married man) so that he neglected our case. He and his secretary did not tell us what actually was happening in so far as our legal papers are concerned.This caused us so much delay and tension.
As I pondered on why these "jinx" are happening and are preventing me from joining my husband in the U.S. I started to delve into myself. Questions such as "Is my psyche inviting these situation to happen?" I feel guilty because despite my desire to be with my husband, deep in me is the big fear about men in general. I do have this cemented belief that all men are liars, womanizers, cheaters. I just cannot trust men, or any man for that matter especially my husband. I love my husband, no question about that, he is the major reason why I still want to live longer, otherwise, I would just sulk and debilitate in one corner and wait for the messenger of death to pick me. Adding insult to injury is my constant lashing to my husband when we chat. I accuse him of being a cheater and promiscuous among others. This is not what we both wanted for this marriage but I think I am the problem. My psychological resistance to live with an untrustworthy man again, that is.
I am struggling hard to change this mental attitude towards men and this is the kind of help I need.
I don't think I am resisting anything as far as goals are concerned. My thinking is , they have not been fulfilled yet and i am working on them to be fulfilled.
God. The whole of this life for me is a quest to find Him. Since I have not, then there is obvious resistance somewhere.
manatita44, if I may ask, where have you been looking?
Thank you for answering. You have made yourself aware. I know this because you have identified the possibility of resistance. Now, the real quest begins. As you identify yourself within, you'll find what you are seeking! Blessings
You understood my profound answer, Born 2 care 2001. Yes. the inner cry continues and the lamp is shining brighter through His grace. Thank You.
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