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Bold or Safe?

  1. Emanate Presence profile image76
    Emanate Presenceposted 5 years ago

    Bold or Safe?

    Do you tend more towards being Bold or being Safe? When do you like yourself better - when you make a bold move with risk, or when you play it safe? When are you more likely to be one than the other? How does each feel to you? Have you seen changes in this aspect of yourself over your lifetime?

    Longer answers are welcomed and hubs as answers are cheered.

  2. connorj profile image76
    connorjposted 5 years ago


    Well your Emanate,
    Quite simply, there is a season for both. We actually have a "flight or fight" response (mechanism) from our grey area that seems to kick in when exposed to stimuli. Theories suggest that it is routed from our amigdala (within our brain); yet this is an over-simplification. The issue becomes significant for some. Do they allow their emotions to become overwhelming so that their responses are not always optimzed for the most positive outcome.
    I will give you an example from my history. I witnessed a lady being beaten and have her purse snatched in Libery City in the 80s. I chased the culprit away and actually ran after him. As I gained ground on him (about 20 yards away). He stopped, got on 1 knee, pointed a revolver at me and fired. I stopped and leaped to one side (more or less like a goalie in soccer when trying to stop the ball in a penalty kick). He missed; got up and ran faster now. I did not follow. I exited  stage-reverse (just as quick) and attended to the lady. Initially as I ran after him "my fight-gene" was in-progress. After he fired my flight-gene took control or if you will my survival gene...
    Many people were happy and complimented me for what I did. My better-half was disturbed that I did that... I understand both responses, that is, from both my better-half and associates. However, in hind sight what was the correct decision? If I had palyed it safe and just assisted the lady the outcome appeared to be the same; however, did I deter that culprit from repeating this criminal act by providing him with adversity and the escalated risk of committing a murder or did I kick in his adrenaline and bolster his ego so he wants that type of thrill again? I can only speculate and conclude that I have not helped with this question...

    1. Emanate Presence profile image76
      Emanate Presenceposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Well, if I may offer another viewpoint, you have contributed quite some insight and have helped with the question! When I ask Qs, especially philosophical ones, there is no expectation of outcome. It is to spark thoughtful comments just like yours.

    2. connorj profile image76
      connorjposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      In that case; "into the brink once again"...
      Thank you,

  3. dghbrh profile image77
    dghbrhposted 5 years ago

    It depends on the options. if it is related to only me then i will prefer to be bold. But if it relates to my family then I will prefer to be safe.
    Regarding my career i will be always one who will opt for a bold move. Not a person to sit in the comfort zone and relax. But concerning my family i will prefer to play safe.
    Being bold takes always the optimum level of courage to step forward. Bold is always revolves around own confidence, believe, trust and mainly the winning spirit one has toward life. The positivism toward whole aspect of life is another necessity to be bold and take the step ahead. Bold is always little riskier then playing safe. Playing safe is not always lack of confidence but may be a little laid back attitude. There may be a feeling of fullness also which may result in being safe. Then another aspect is that after you achieve your target you tend to be playing safe.
    Yes i have seen the changes in pure "my' aspect over the period of time. I was very bold earlier ....to speak in your way here. I use to be restless and never content with whatever i have in that point of time regarding my grades in school to speak for examples. I used to be very much competitive and a die hard believer of winning and being at the top. But with time i mellowed down. I just learnt with time to be satisfied with whatever i am with and however it is. I mellowed down after my son was born. I tried not to pressurize him for higher grades, to be competitive in life. Thank you. I really enjoyed answering this question here.

    1. Emanate Presence profile image76
      Emanate Presenceposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I really enjoyed reading your answer here! Space is limited to comment back, just to say it is more than your insights that I appreciate. You have shared understanding about seasons of life, acceptance and all-important attitude. Big thumb up!

    2. dghbrh profile image77
      dghbrhposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Many thanks for your encouraging comment here. I have written a hub as a reply to one other question by you. Its interesting and i really enjoyed replying your questions here. Keep it up.