Can insecurities actually make us see our physical selves differently?

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   peeplesposted 12 years ago

   Can insecurities actually make us see our physical selves differently?

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   JMcFarlandposted 12 years ago

   I would say absolutely.  I have a very negative self-esteem generally - I have to work hard to see myself as a positive, intelligent and good person.  I have difficulty seeing what others see in me, no matter how many times they tell me.  For a long time, despite everything that I knew and all of the positive things I had done, I had a very hard time looking at myself in the mirror.  When I started accepting that I was worthy of love, appreciation and affection, I could not only look at myself, but I could look at myself and smile.  I see myself completely differently now.  It's still not always easy, but it is one step in a gradual process.

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   Yes. They make us see ourselves entirely differently. In high school, I was anorexic and thought horribly about myself. After finding my hubby, he taught me to love and enjoy food. Looking at the weight I had gained seemed entirely painful, but he didn't care. He treated me the same way as always and then I have loved myself ever since. Insecurities about what others think about you make a huge difference.

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   TIMETRAVELER2posted 12 years ago

   Of course.  People who are insecure tend to blow things out of proportion and don't realize that others don't see them in the same way they see themselves.  A person may have a small scar and think that everybody notices it, when the truth is that most people wouldn't care enough to even look!

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   Markie Wposted 12 years ago

   Yes. Just like Iburmaster already said about herself, I was also anorexic in high school. My family and friends started making comments about how thin I was and how they were worried about me getting too thin, but when I looked in the mirror all I saw was a morbidly obese, disgusting person that I hated, despite the fact that I was actually underweight. So yes, insecurities have a huge impact on how we see ourselves physically.

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