What would YOU say to a childhood nemesis and/or bully who made your childhood y

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  1. gmwilliams profile image83
    gmwilliamsposted 5 years ago

    What would YOU say to a childhood nemesis and/or bully who made your childhood years a

    living hell?


  2. Swinter12 profile image65
    Swinter12posted 5 years ago

    I feared you, avoided you, belittled you and despised you, alternatively, thorouhout our tension-riven and not so friendly encounters.

    The word ´´bully´´ always brings your name, your face, your mocking laughter and voice to my mind, in spite of the bullies that followed you.

    From time to time, my mind conjures you and I wonder what was it that you saw in me that made you adamant in bullying  me.

    I guess some people never look eye-to-eye; they´re simply incompatible.

    I´ve found my peace with it all and I honestly wish you the very best. In fact, remembering your directness is oddly very refreshing.

    1. Swinter12 profile image65
      Swinter12posted 5 years agoin reply to this


  3. CraftytotheCore profile image78
    CraftytotheCoreposted 5 years ago

    Nothing at all.  The best revenge is living well.  There was one girl in grade school who became obsessed with me.  She had a horrible home life.  I stayed away from her as best as I could, but she wouldn't leave me alone to the point of assaulting me several times.  Lucky for me my grandfather had taught me how to box.  I felt pity for her because I knew how badly she had it at home. 

    I saw her in a store a few years ago.  She is still in town.  I was happy for her.  She has a beautiful daughter.  I hope she has gone past her problems in her childhood.  We didn't speak to each other, but she acknowledged me with my family by a nod of her head.

    1. Abby Campbell profile image93
      Abby Campbellposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      So well said!

  4. Abby Campbell profile image93
    Abby Campbellposted 5 years ago

    I agree with Craftytothecore. When I graduated, I was so glad to get away from some kids in high school who were bullies. For years, the pain they caused haunted me. However, some of them had recently gotten in touch with me on Facebook. This happens to be 30 years later! They were totally different people... nice and caring. After becoming friends all these years later, I did let some of them know how they hurt me back in those days. Do you know that they were all remorseful and wished they could take back their hateful words and actions?  Many of them had very dysfunctional families and were unhappy themselves. Therefore, they took their pain out on others while they were kids. I truly believe that 99% of bullies mature and feel remorse in their hearts. Therefore, the best thing we can do for them is understand what they are/were going through and remember that their pain against you was really their "own" pain. We must forgive and treat them with kindness as that type of love is sometimes the thing they need to overcome their own pain. You will also feel better for loving them rather than retaliating with words or actions.

  5. badegg profile image75
    badeggposted 5 years ago

    I forgive you. Forgiving others is a basic biblical principle.

  6. quildon profile image77
    quildonposted 5 years ago

    I am now good friends with someone of whom I was very much afraid in school. I would run to get away from his teasing and name-calling. Now he has changed so much from who he was then. When I tell him what he was like he expressed his sorrow and said he didn't know his actions caused me pain and fear.

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      This beautifully demonstrates the art of forgiveness and spiritual evolution. Wise response indeed.


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