Would you rather be loud and right or quiet and happy?

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  1. IDONO profile image82
    IDONOposted 4 years ago

    Would you rather be loud and right or quiet and happy?

    This isn't a volume type question.    This is about the impact of what you say on the person you are speaking to.  You can yell and scream and yet mean nothing. Or, you can shred a person with words like an old newspaper without ever raising your voice. Which makes you feel better?

  2. CraftytotheCore profile image79
    CraftytotheCoreposted 4 years ago

    I live my life by this approach.  I think about how it would feel to me before I do it to someone else.  Hopefully neither of these situations would apply.  I would like to think I have enough respect for other people to approach with gentleness and kindness.  Sometimes, if a situation calls for it however, I can hold my own.  Yelling and screaming does not much good.  Being intentionally mean to someone isn't my cup of tea. 

    My cup of tea is carrying on good conversation with those who like to discuss matters intelligently.  Sometimes emotions get the best of people.

    1. IDONO profile image82
      IDONOposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Your approach is commendable, however very difficult if the other person isn't on the same page. It's definitely something to try to improve on. Thanks

  3. Bishop55 profile image91
    Bishop55posted 4 years ago

    Normally loud and right, but lately, I've realized this really does not get me to the mental mindset I want to be in.

    So now, I am looking at this and trying to live by it...
    β€œHe who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.” – Lao Tzu

  4. Globetrekkermel profile image74
    Globetrekkermelposted 4 years ago

    I am not  a proponent for rowdy  emotions especially in disagreements.I prefer to make the other person feel he/she is right and have it his/her way.That way he/she will feel better therefore diffusing any further encounter.That is the quickest way to end an argument. In the end , the other person will have more respect for you because you did not fall into his trap of engaging in unnecessary argument. If it takes removing your sense of entitlement  (i.e. he/she has no right to treat me this way or talk to me this way or he is wrong and I am right ) to end an argument  by all means, i'd do it.


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