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What kinds of things do you do when you feel lonely?

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jaydeneposted 4 years ago
What kinds of things do you do when you feel lonely?

sometimes it just happens, and it is an awful feeling.

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graveyard-roseposted 4 years ago
Personally I used to study anything and everything that interested me. Normally as I researched something other questions would come about then I would have more to learn and write about.
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  jaydeneposted 4 years agoin reply to this
  yes I find my writing helps a lot, to get my mind on other things.
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dailytop10posted 4 years ago
I usually get a piece of paper, a pen, and draw anything that comes to my mind. Unlike many, I like being alone. I consider it as a brief escape from my busy work environment. During these times, I truly appreciate life and the simple joys it brings.
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  jaydeneposted 4 years agoin reply to this
  that is very creative.
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Tusitala Tomposted 4 years ago
Loneliness just isn't a thing that people experience as a feeling, it is something which is caused by the way we think of ourselves as being separate from the rest of Humanity. We seem to be separate; our senses of sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell bear this out, but what we see and feel as ourselves is just the surface part of what we are. We are far, far greater than that. So what is needed here is a change in the way that you are thinking.

If you were a molecule of water in an ocean you would realize that you are simply a part of an enormous whole. But it would be fair to say that a molecule of water does not have a human mind. It is our mind, based on what we have learned about ourselves from our limited observation and our conditioning by our parents, society and the world at large that has given us the impression that we are all separate. On the surface we are. But as we go deeper and deeper into ourselves we eventually can get to a place where we know that we are a part of The Whole.

Become self-sufficient in your thinking. Also, give out what you would like to get yourself. Give of yourself in providing friendship and company and real companionship to other people close to you and...in a while, you will realize that you are not lonely any more.
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Dave36posted 4 years ago
I say if a person is feeling lonely they should do all the things that they love to do, & "only" those things....Hobbies, passions, interests, fitness etc....It's in one of those places that your'l meet your soul mate, so you have to get out there doing fun stuff you love....Go for long walks at random, & forget about feeling lonely....I mean boredom is sent to us "only" to get us out of our armchair, & the T.V for example is not to be used as an escape from boredom....Boredom is a good thing, as it tells us we should be finding our passions/hobbies in life....So loneliness like boredom is just a feeling we manifest ourselves inside us, & instead of thinking we're lonely we should be thinking what we want to do....Get your mates together & go do stuff, & if they don't want to do stuff, go & do stuff on your own & meet new friends....Now the key to it all is you find the things that you love doing, & you will eventually meet someone while your there....You just have to completely forget about finding someone, as they will find you....You just have to have faith, & leave the rest up to the universe....So don't ever go looking for a partner, just go & find yourself....I did exactly what i say, & in around 6 months i found my soul mate, & she was already doing something that i loved to do....This works like magic, & i reckon that's what it is....Cosmic Magic....So next time you feel lonely don't, instead look around for those things....The guy for you is already out there that's a given, the thing is though is he hasn't met you yet, & he doesn't know where you live....So give him a chance, & get out there.
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dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago
I get out and about. (Stroll through the mall, eat at the food court, people watch, go to the beach or take a walk while listening to music on my iPod, take in a matinee movie, call and chat with friends and family, go to the gym, read a good book, or relax in a Barnes & Noble scanning through books, magazines, listening to music on CDs.
One could also check out a social site such as Meetup.com which contains tons of groups of people that have a shared interest and hobby who get together for meetings and social activities. There are groups for wine tasting, theater goers, writers, dancers, yoga, meditation, hiking, book clubs, singles mixers, moms clubs, and countless other networking groups.
Having said that there is big difference between (being) alone and (feeling) alone. It's possible to be in a room with your spouse or a group of people and still (feel) alone. Essentially this feeling comes from (not relating) or believing the people around you actually "get you". There is no real connection between you and them. Generally speaking this is a situation where a person has chosen to withdraw into their shell and focus on their shortcomings in life. If they're not careful they will start to erode their self-esteem and believe they're not worthy to associate with others. They become cynical and eventually depressed. Some even consider suicide.
The only cure I know of for depression is taking action. You have to stop being self-centered and take an interest in other people's lives without comparing them to your life. Read and listen to positive inspirational materials. Focus on what is good in your life and always have something on your calendar to "look forward to"!
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