To all highly educated and successful parents out there, what steps would YOU ta

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   gmwilliamsposted 10 years ago

   To all highly educated and successful parents out there, what steps would YOU take to motivate
   
   your bright child(I.Q. 130-165) if h/she isn't an A student?   Would you use positive or negative reinforcement regarding the paramount importance of obtaining mostly or all As in his/her studies in order to have a brighter future and more life choices? Would you inform him/her than less than stellar grades means an impoverished life w/very little choices?
   
   

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   lisasuniquevoiceposted 10 years ago

   Grace,
   It is good to motivate any child to do well in school. It does have an impact on their future and they should know that, so don't be afraid to tell them. As with any learning situation for children it is helpful if you give them little rewards along the way. After all you are trying to teach that there are good things that come from doing your best at life's endeavors.
   Lisa

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      gmwilliamsposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Beautiful response indeed!

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   BumblelyBeeposted 10 years ago

   Well I am a University graduate and jobs don't look too great for us, too over qualified for a shop job, no driving license for what my degree is in. It sucks have handed out tonnes of cv's and got a few interviews hopefully I will find something. My parents tried to push me a lot in the end they were proud that I got a degree because I was the only one in the family so far to get one apart from an Uncle. Getting A's is good if you want to get to a decent University but one you've done you degree at University not many people will care about your A-levels or your GCSE's, no one will care really. What most employers will care about is do you have a driving license, do you have work experience in this career are you passionate about the job? It might also come down to networking.
   
   Completing a degree takes passion, my mum was like do this and you will have more opportunities, then got there and it was like well now you must do this and it's demoralising to keep studying and see your friends who didn't study get jobs and stuff. Getting a graduate level career is difficult and takes dedication, my plan is to go back to study and do a masters next year, while getting a driving license and various work experience things in my year off for now I am struggling to find a job in a shop. It is a 3 year course where you write what feels like almost a book by the end of it along with other modules. I've seen kids who's parents just tell them go away and do this degree and they tend to be the worst party animals out there lol then go I'll probably do a masters coz dad wants me to.
   
   Yeah if your clever you do well but sometimes money isn't a great motivator when you have to look at all the debt statistics and think about how many years you have to waste on the possibility of a better job and all the stories of people who have degrees just working in shops or pubs. You have to be able to look at the big picture and find something that you feel passionate about enough to listen to and talk about for 3 years, just about that topic and write 1000's of word essays after essay and want to work for free to improve your cv or maybe do extra tasks to get.
   
   But hey you could just say that University could be an amazing experience where you get to meet new crazy people, go a bit crazy (while studying), get to avoid the trap of life for a little longer and be young, experience living away from home, try new things like idk new food, ultimate frisby, horse riding, tequila...

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      BumblelyBeeposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      There's lots of people who get stressed in the university environment (who are actually really clever) and drop out, high levels of depression in students from pressure to do well and from being far from home or lad culture or debt.

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