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What are the detrimental effects of growing up in a multichild family(2 or more

  1. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 2 years ago

    What are the detrimental effects of growing up in a multichild family(2 or more children per

    family) on the oldest child?

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  2. freecampingaussie profile image62
    freecampingaussieposted 2 years ago

    I have an older brother + 2 younger sisters and loved growing up with them ! We didn't have a lot materially or always get new clothes as there was 4 of us however I prefer to have the siblings rather than big toys & fancy things.
    My brother had 3 sons. I have 3 daughters, One sister has 2 daughters and the other one has 3 daughters .
    My oldest daughter has a daughter + son so far !

  3. integrater profile image60
    integraterposted 2 years ago

    It is nice to be a oldest child in a bigger family. You get to use new clothes new toys new books. Parents love you the most because you are the first . When you grow up you automatically get respect because you are elder.  You learn to behave responsibly.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      No, it ISN'T nice being the oldest child in a multichild family. No childhood, all drudgery and no glamour. Being an unpaid servant a/k/a slave, Cinderella. Slaves had it much better than oldest children in multichild families.

    2. integrater profile image60
      integraterposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      Hmmm .  That is ..... different .

    3. liesl5858 profile image88
      liesl5858posted 2 years agoin reply to this

      I didn't have problems being the eldest, I quite like being the eldest because my grandparents adored and loved me that much.

  4. georgialgal1984 profile image84
    georgialgal1984posted 2 years ago

    Detrimental effects? Very little that I know of. I have a large family and my children always have so much fun together! They always have someone to play with and cleaning their room is quite easy for them, since they share a room with several siblings. They also like sharing a room, so they're not in their room alone when they sleep.

    I can also speak from experience growing up with just my brother and I, that I always longed for more siblings. My sons have brothers and my daughters have sisters and they love it!

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 2 years agoin reply to this

      HOW many children do YOU HAVE really?  All share ONE ROOM? Do THEY have individual rooms and privacy like normal children?

  5. liesl5858 profile image88
    liesl5858posted 2 years ago

    I am the eldest of 6 children and I had no hang ups about us being too many as children in the family. We haven't got much when it comes to material things but we have our parents love and we learned the art of sharing everything like food clothes, toys, education and family love. We learnt how to help each other when one of us needed help. We were brought up to love and respect one another.

  6. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 2 years ago

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    Oldest children in multichild families are usually cast aside in favor of younger siblings.  They are thought by their parents as being too old to need the latter.  It is common for oldest children in multichild families to be deprived of parental attention, even neglected.  If not neglected, they are pressed into familial service 24/7/365 to their younger siblings as well as their parents.  They must put their life and needs last after their siblings.

    Oldest children in multichild families have no individual lives, me time, nor privacy.  They belong to everyone in the family except themselves.  They are expected to be adults even in childhood.  They do not have a normative childhood nor adolescence as their young lives are completely inundated with responsibilities, oftentimes beyond their tender years.  Their childhood and adolescence can be compared to that of the winter solstice.  Theirs is the shortest childhoods of all birth orders.  Being the oldest child in the family can be a burdensome experience.  They must be perfect or near perfect.  They cannot be children nor adolescence in the normative sense.

    Their parents do not spend much time with them nor give them individualized attention because they are viewed as adults and thus can take care of themselves.  They are also punished for the things that their younger siblings do.  They oftentimes have to put their OWN goals, dreams, and desires aside for "the good" of the family.   If they are not in familial service, they are dismissed and left to their own devices.

 
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