How are siblings DETRIMENTAL emotionally, mentally, & even psychologically

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   gmwilliamsposted 7 years ago

   How are siblings DETRIMENTAL emotionally, mentally, & even psychologically
   
   to children?  How are children damaged by having siblings?
   
   

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   tamarawilhiteposted 7 years ago

   Children are not damaged by default by having siblings.
   They can be harmed by having so many siblings that by the very situation they suffer emotional or even physical neglect.
   Even in cases of two child families, parents that engage in extreme favoritism hurt the child who isn't the favorite. Whether it is the boy or the favored girl or the eldest or the baby, the reason is irrelevant, the child feeling unwanted or at best merely tolerated by the people who are supposed to love it causes emotional scars.
   I'm not going to go into severe physical abuse of siblings on each other because that usually occurs when one child is abused and then takes it on the others - a symptom of extreme abuse and dysfunction in the family but not necessarily to be blamed on the fact that there are other children in the house.

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   gmwilliamsposted 7 years ago

   
   
   In multichild families of 2 children &/or more, children oftentimes have to vie w/each other for parental time, attention, affection, & resources.  Children in multichild families also have the feeling of being dethroned in favor of a sibling or siblings.   There is a very high incidence of favoritism in multichild families in which some children are treated preferentially while others aren't.  Some children in multichild families are even viewed as disfavored or even scapegoated children.  There is a tendency of unequal treatment in terms of parental time, attention, affection, & resources in multichild families.
   
   In multichild families, children are seldom valued for their individuality.  They are oftentimes compared to each other & taught to blend in. In multichild families, children are inculcated w/a collectivist mindset. In multichild families, children aren't allowed to assert themselves as individuals.
   
   In multichild families, children are designated into rigid roles which will negate their individuality & create a self-fulfilling prophecy mindset in the eyes of parents & other siblings.  In such families, children are either the smart/stupid/slow/retarded one, the beautiful/handsome/pretty/plain/ugly one, the golden child/black sheep/persona non grata one, or any other familial designations which psychologically, even psychically affect children in their formative years & beyond.

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