being pregnant and what i didnt expect

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   jamexicanposted 14 years ago

   when i found out i was was pregant it was on dec.14 2009..i dint have my first check up until like jan. i think. anyways u know when they take ur blood.well mine didnt have any news.they CALLED me and told me my baby might have down syndrome.i was shocked,and i was tryin to figure out how to tell my fiancee, what they just said.another thing i couldnt believe was that, really doctors really call to tell you that...? tats ust stupid...i mean u never know how a person will handle it.and tats it i mean tat was so messed up
     but i had a special appointmet that i had to go to..we had like a meeting where they answer my questions on the down syndrome.but they also told me options i could have.1 they give me an ultara sound that checks for any abnormalities in the baby.and a test(i forget what its called sry) where they take fluid from around they baby and test it,and if they did that they could tell 100% if the baby would have down syndrome.the down side to the second part was tat there was a small chance it could kill the baby.they gave me an ultra sound and so they found nuthing wrong with the baby(and that day i found out i was having a girl:)) my and my fiancee decided no to to the 2nd test.if there was something wrong with our daughter we would just deal with it..turns out she has a 1% chance n having down syndrome now..i am so happy i didnt take the test.because now they are saying my baby is healthy.
      i just never epected to hear this kinda news.and with this being my first child and everythin i got scared.i want more children,but now i am more aware of what the doctors my call and tell me....

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      pisean282311posted 14 years agoin reply to this

      ohh..hearing that news would have been surely terrible but its good that now doc says that baby is healthy...

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      prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      scary being a mom and there is always the fear in us, I am happy that it came out well, eat well and keep healthy,

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   TLMinutposted 14 years ago

   Giving that sort of news out of the blue over the phone is horrible - did they even ask if someone was there with you?
   
   I'm so happy for you that the outlook is better now, a beautiful baby girl is on her way!

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      jamexicanposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      no they didnt ask if anyone was there with me...they just said we have your blood test results back and your baby migh have down syndrome...and didnt ask if i had any questions,or if i was ok..jus gave me a number to call to set up an appointmet

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   IntimatEvolutionposted 14 years ago

   The real hidden costs of having a baby........, tangible and intangible.

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   Greek Oneposted 14 years ago

   my wife is expecting and if I had any hair left I would be pulling it out in nervous anticipation

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      IntimatEvolutionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Nice one Greek.  I like that. 
      
      One should expect to lose their hair.  My husband lost his hair when Zach was born. 
      
      Thanks for the warming flashback.  He has now since passed.  But good thoughts.

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         Greek Oneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         I lost my hair during the conception... so the birth itself should be VERY stressful for me

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            IntimatEvolutionposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            LOL, I love it!

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   Rafiniposted 14 years ago

   If my doctor called to tell me the baby I was carrying had Down Synddrome, I would be looking for a new  doctor!  One with better manners!! 
   
   glad to hear your baby is ok

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   Lisa HWposted 14 years ago

   There's never any guarantees, but the test for genetic abnormalities (that include Down Syndrome) is a one-time thing that they won't do again.  So, if everything else seems fine you should relax and assume things will be fine from here on.  (Again, no guarantees - but chances are all will be well.)

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   JeanMeriamposted 14 years ago

   I am really surprised you were told that over the phone.
   
   I think the only reason you would have that second test is if you were going to have an abortion if the baby had Downs.
   
   I honestly don't know why someone would do that. I've worked with Downs kids and they have viable lives. They learn a lot more slowly, have more communication problems and some health issues you have to look out for like poor circulation. Kids are kids.
   
   When they grow up they may not have what we would consider to be a great life, but they are happy with their lives and that's what counts. I have yet to meet a Downs adult who sits around worrying about their finances, educational level, retirement plan, etc.
   
   Even if your baby has Downs Syndrome, you will be perfectly happy with her and love her because she's your child.

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      Greek Oneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      We had the first test and will be having the second to see how the baby is doing.
      
      If the baby does have Downs (we have no evidence that it does) or something else, we just want to make sure that we will prepare ourselves to handle any special needs.

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         JeanMeriamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         You don't find it too risky?

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            Greek Oneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            how do you mean?

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               JeanMeriamposted 14 years agoin reply to this

               amnio? Are we talking about the same test? It's risky. It can cause miscarriage.

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                  Greek Oneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  oh sorry.. i wasnt clear...
                  
                  I'm talking about the second blood and ultrasound test.. they compare these with the first set of tests to see the odds.
                  
                  yes.. I would never do the test you are talking about.  1 in 200 chance of miscarriage??  no thank you!

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   Kerkedijkposted 14 years ago

   Hi, I am new to the Hubpages but I just want to wish you the best with your pregnancy and it seems now that the prognosis for the baby is good so lets hope so. I have two kids and they are the best investment in my life so my thoughts and prayers are with you right now and whatever the case, you will handle it.

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   megs78posted 14 years ago

   with all 3 of my pregnancies I refused those initial bloodtests that test 3 levels of hormones to test for abnormalities.  it is SO inaccurate that it really is not worth it.  3 of my girlfriends, THREE of them, were worried for months and then had the amnio test just to be sure after their doctors told them their hormone levels indicated Downs Syndrome.  All 3 of them went on to deliver normal, healthy children.  and that amnio test endangered their babies for nothing.  with my third pregnancy, my doctor tried to have me tested even after I refused it.  Strange isn't it?

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      Habbyposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I agree with megs78, I didn't have any of that screening with any of my three pregnancies.  I was advised by a friend who is a mid-wife that those tests could potentially hurt my babies and usually came up with more false positives than reasonable. 
      
      We also decided to trust God to help us if in fact one of our babies had DS since we weren't going to do anything about it (i.e. abortion) if he or she did. 
      
      It's certainly a personal decision you have to make, but I hope this forum has helped you.  Who knows?  You may find yourself in the same position the next time you are pregnant.

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    DaisyExpressposted 14 years ago

    Hi there
    
    I just joined Hubpages about three weeks ago.  I stumbled upon Hubpages while sitting in Children's Hospital.  My daughter was born with Down's Syndrome.  The ultrasounds showed no evidence of any forseeable problems and I opted out of the amnio two hours before I was supposed to have the test.  I had decided that I would love my child no matter what.  I had an emergency C-section and found out then.  It has been a rough go but I wouldn't change her in any way.  She is adorable.  She is my one and only child.  I am 45 years old.  She spent just over 6 months in the hospital, 3 of them to be exact, 2 away from where I live.  She has had many complications including a colostomy (which was reversed)and a gastrointestinal tube.
    
    Somehow,m you find the strength to deal with what life throws you.  She has brought a whole lot of love to all those around her. I know she has something great to give the world and she is starting to already.
    
    Be excited about your new little one.  It will all be knew but it will be quite the ride.  Honestly, I didn't enjoy being pregnant that much.  I am self employed, I build furniture.  A little hard to do when you are pregnant. Then of course there is the whole financial issue.  I am working feverishly on that one. Not an easy road but again if you keep your face to the sun things always seem to be brighter.
    
    I wish you so much happiness.  Just take it day by day.  That is what I am doing.  I could write on forever lol....my thoughts are with you....Daisy

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       Greek Oneposted 14 years agoin reply to this

       don't forget that she probably needs extra long super hugs too!

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    BanjDogposted 14 years ago

    But the doctor should have invited you first for an appointment and should have talked to you about it in person and not over the phone.
    Anyway, the test you had wherein they extracted fluid from your womb is called "Amniocentesis" and the fluid is called "amniotic fluid".

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