What would you do if you found out the child you or your wife is pregnant with h

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   puddingicecreamposted 13 years ago

   What would you do if you found out the child you or your wife is pregnant with has Down Syndrome?

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   mindyjgirlposted 13 years ago

   its so hard,it depends how far along she is, I would say abortion if there is time. If you both want to keep baby, then start reading about it, there is so much involved. Its like having a baby forever. My girlfriend has a child with down and it is so hard for her to get any free time, living a stressful life. They require tons of patience and care. lots of love to give to this baby. Another friend has it that I know she was teased terribly. she was mistreated, from incompetent parents and siblings. She volunteers and does the special olympics, its a hard life for the child too, many people don't understand or have the patience for them in this big cruel world. She is extremely sensitive too.  Wising all the best.

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   breathe2travelposted 13 years ago

   I have two friends whose amnios showed Downs.  They opted to keep the baby and pray.  Both of their babies were born with ZERO trace of Downs -- their babies are now 12 and 11 -- and quite bright.
   
   Having said that -- I would keep the baby.
   
   I also have a handful of friends with children with Downs.  Although they definitely have faced challenges, all of them have learned not to sweat the little things, to be more grateful for little things, and to find joy in little things -- because of the example set by their "challenged" children.

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   mcrawford76posted 13 years ago

   I would cherish every moment of thier shortened life with them. Spoil them rotten and fill their life with as much love is it could possibly hold.

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   Giselle Maineposted 13 years ago

   We opted NOT to have testing for Downs done when I was pregnant, because we knew we would keep the baby anyway.  In the end it wasn't an issue, we had no Downs syndrome in our children.
   
   So to answer the question, I would keep the baby.  THe only action I might take is to research which pediatrician (or other specialists in the local area) I should see after the baby is born, as I would want the medical professional to have had experience with other Down's syndrome children. So it might change what doctor I bring the child to.

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   lovelife08posted 13 years ago

   I would adjust to having a child with special needs and move on with life.  I would still love that child the same way with Down Syndrome as I would if he/she were "normal", because it's my child.
   
   But what is "normal" anyway?  A person with special needs does not know anything other than what they are, so that is their normal.  They know no other way of life.  How would they know they weren't considered socially "normal" unless someone told them?  (Which would be incredibly cruel.  Also, most likely they wouldn't understand it.)

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   6hotfingers3posted 13 years ago

   At first I believe I would feel a sense of panic and self pity. Then after I got over the news that the baby has Down Syndrome I would pray and ask God to give me the strength and love I need to give this very special gift from him. And  the other side of the coin is, no one knows how they would react until they are faced with the reality of the situation. I pray that I think of the child and not about me if that should happen.

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   jkselectionsposted 13 years ago

   I would obtain all of the information that I could on Down Syndrome so that when the child arrived we would be more prepared.

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