I regret having my tubes tied...

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   kmackey32posted 14 years ago

   I would love to have another child.. Can anyone tell me of a good doctor and the cost to have them revearsed....

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      Mark Knowlesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      No offense, but based on the last forum thread you started, I would think seriously about leaving them the way they are. 
      
      http://hubpages.com/forum/topic/48102

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         Joy56posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Mark, you are growing on me, you really are, just read that post, and could not stop laughing at your comment.

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         kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Just because I have problems with one of my children does not mean I shouldnt have anymore children!!!!!!!!!

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            Mark Knowlesposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            No offense meant - honestly. Just the other day you were complaining that you have a pregnant 16 year old daughter, as well as an 11 year old boy that likes to burn people's houses down, plus another two to look after. Seemed sensible advice to stick with your original decision to get your tubes tied to me.

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               kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               I dont know as if I was complaining but I dont think any parent would be happy to have there teen pregnant at 16 but that was her bad decision. I will help for now which honestly I dont mind but thats a child she will be raising till its 18... I do love children.. My son is ADHD and is having this issue addressed by a doctor.

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                  kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  I was also mad at my daughter because she knew eventually I wanted another child and I felt it was selfish of her to have one at this time so I couldnt have one of my own, she doesnt even have a job and no means to support it at this time.

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                     darksideposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     Will you be able to support a child?
                     
                     You're soliciting paypal donations on your profile page.

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                        ryankettposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                        Oh dear   I struggle to understand some people. So far from two threads and a glimse of a profile I have ascertained that Kmackey cannot afford a lawyer, but can afford an operation, can afford to support a child, but requires donations to help support the other three....
                        
                        Kmackey, I have always liked you, but it sounds if you have far too many aspects of your own life to get in order before bringing another life onto this planet.

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                           Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                           Hey Ryan, no offense intended, but when you actually understand "Life", your comprehension/understanding of what other people do isn't actually required, only acceptance of them and the fact that they are only human, just like you.
                           
                           Just a thought.

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                              ryankettposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                              Cagsil, I appear to be not alone in my assessment of this situation. If somebody is asking for money to help their family, then they are not in a position to extend that family. In fact, it is morally wrong to ask for money to help your family and then discuss the possibility of paying substantial money for a non-essential operation. Guess what, I would love to have a child too. That is 10 years away, because I just don't have the money. Unless you want to donate? I will gladly accept Paypal, Western Union, Bank Transfer, Cheque, Cash, or Gold. But, I may spend that on a puppy.

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                              Pandoras Boxposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                              
                              
                              Wow. So the LGBT girl has to straighten up, but the questionable mother gets a pat on the head and total acceptance.
                              
                              Best of luck to you Cags.

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                           kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                           Thank you Cagsil... As I stated before, I am only gathering information, No I cannot afford a child right now as I have a grandchild to raise form awhile and other finances to take care off first.. I am not stupid!!!

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                           kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

                           And Ryan I NEVER said I could afford an operation at this time, I dont even know how much one is.. And I dont know where u come up with donations to support my children!!! I work in a Nursing home there buddy..

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                              ryankettposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                              Well in fairness you could have made that a lot clearer on your profile, since all it said was 'donate'. As mentioned above, I wasn't the only person to gain that impression....

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                                 Mishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                                 At some point early in my internet history I owned a domain pleasehelpmeraisemykids.org. Not that it brought in even a dime, but it was out there asking for donations.

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                              darksideposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                              I guess you deleted that hub then. Just as easily as it was to delete the "donations would be very helpful via paypal at..." from your profile.

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                     prettydarkhorseposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                     kmackey I understand your position, you want to have a child, but at the moment I think you need to wait for some time, let things settle for your children first.
                     
                     Your daughter is only 16 -- things happen and it is already there -- we dont know if she was selfish or no (children specially 15 or 16 are not thinking properly when it comes to their sexuality etc) most of them
                     
                     I hope things will be sorted for your children, and the reason you need to postpone having a child at this time is that you are yourself in emotional turmoil and it will be bad for you and the baby if you become pregnant now,
                     
                     Who knows when you see your grandchild, things may look different, your children needs you at the moment,
                     
                     HUGS!

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            ryankettposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            Is this something which you have been considering for a while? Or is this a spur of the moment decision? I would be wary that you are hurting from the effective 'loss' of your son, and feel some emotional need to 'replace' him. Also, I note that you are not with the father of your children (or at least your son), can I assume therefore that you are currently in a secure and stable relationship with another male? The desire to have a child with your lover or soul mate is a much greater justification than just desiring another child... just some food for thought...

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               kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               yes ryankett, I have finally met someone that I want to spend the rest of my life with and would love more than anything to give him a child. But this time around I wanna do things the right way and beable to spend the time with him...

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                  ryankettposted 14 years agoin reply to this

                  Well in that case I understand why you may wish to have the procedure, I wasn't trying to look for ways to criticise, only seeking further information in order to offer my input... If two adults intend to remain together for the long term, and believe that they can sufficiently support a child themselves, then why not... it is not for others to judge.

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            alternate poetposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            A serious side to this topic is that a child is not something 'for you' it is not a toy or a pet that is great to have around while it gets you attention but later gets out of control and is a problem.
            
            I would seriously consider the life of 'the child' before considering the wanting

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               kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

               Seriously????? lol I am in my 30's and have been raising children for 16 yrs hun.. In no way do I treat them as a toy or a pet... wow

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         kmackey32posted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Mark, I am just trying to gather information on it.. I'm NOT saying I want it done anytime soon. I'm talking down the road when I am financially set and married and my other children arent in such caos... This is something I have wanted for a long time actually

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         Kadmielsposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         gonna have to agree with you on this

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   ryankettposted 14 years ago

   This would be free of charge in the UK.
   
   Can the doctor who tied them not untie them? I don't know too much about the complexity of the procedure, would you ever consider adoption?

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   Joy56posted 14 years ago

   it is possible to reverse the procedure.  What does your own doctor suggest.

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   Mishaposted 14 years ago

   LOL Kristie, you opened a can of worms
   
   For some reason I thought tying tubes is irreversible though. Hope it is not. Kids are a lot of fun late in life.

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   myownworldposted 14 years ago

   I think the best person to guide you would be your GP (who can then refer you to the best ob gyn in your area). Tube reversal is not as uncommon as we think - and is certainly possible but your GP should be the most reliable person to help you with this. Also, it's an expensive procedure, so you might need to consider the cost first. In any case, best of luck with it

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   Pandoras Boxposted 14 years ago

   And to you, too, of course, kmackey.

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