Social Issues, and Self Esteem Issues

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   m334aposted 12 years ago

   Are you having trouble socializing with people?
   Do you feel so down about yourself most of the time that you can't present yourself in a social situation, or is it handicaping your life? I am here to help you through it. It doesn't have to be this way.

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      prettydarkhorseposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I am shy with men and sometimes I don'nt know how to react when they asked my name etc.

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   Cagsilposted 12 years ago

   Welcome to HubPages!
   
   You seem to be off to a good start. I do hope you enjoy yourself.
   
   As for having social issue? No. But, if I can ever help, just ask.

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      WryLiltposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I'm a closet narcissist and I'm an opinionated person who never shuts up. Is that a socialising problem? I've worked in retail so I also consider 99% of the population idiots.
      
      That's why I write on hubpages - I generally don't have to put up with people actually telling me what they think of my opinions

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         m334aposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Hi WryLilt!
         
         We all are opinionated to different degrees, and that makes us human and individuals. I personally have worked in retail too, among many other jobs where serving or selling to the public can be a bitch. Sometimes I have lost faith in humanity at times because people that come into your work to buy from you can forget what that sales associates are humans too, and at jobs like that we can be seen as "servants"; does that sound like you could relate to that feeling? lol, it can be a a bitch. Also, dealing with people in retail, you deal with all sorts, and including those who don't give off the most intelligent impressions when coming into that sort of establishment. There's a lot of people we can think of as idiots, and will piss us off, but there are a lot of good people out there too. Thing is, people will come in, people will go, people will piss you off or rub you the wrong way, life goes on.
         
         But in terms of being opinionated, it's only fair to share your true opinions but it doesn't always have to be in the harshest manner. Sometimes being overly opinionated can suggest traits of low self-image and wanted to project your own problems onto others without realizing it; I do it too, and I'm only merely suggesting that might be one reason you feel overly opinionated. Also, jealousy and hurt of the past can cause a passive aggression to make you feel better to not accept others. But people make mistakes, and you do too. We have to remember that sometimes. When I have a bad day and theres a slow person driving in front of me and didn't put on their directional, yeah I'll impulsively shout out, FUCKIN LEARN HOW YOU DRIVE YOU GEEZER...but in the end, express your opinions, but theres the right time and place for everything. I would refrain from expressing an opinion if you felt its only benefit would be to hurt the other person or put them down, being somewhat unnecessary. But if you feel strongly about an opinion, and you feel it would be for the right reasons, then say what your heart feels girl! We just have to balance our filters of what to say and what not to say. Sometimes we forget, and that's ok. But take a minute before opening your mouth to think about what the outcome will be, positive for you and the person listening, or something that will just make you look bad and perhaps you should keep it to yourself, or simply rephrase an opinion to not sound so harsh.
         
         I hope that helps, I'm just trying to state MY opinion simply objectively.

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            WryLiltposted 12 years agoin reply to this

            Haha dare I suggest you put that time and effort into writing some hubs on the topic?

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               m334aposted 12 years agoin reply to this

               I'm just learning how to use this thing, perhaps I shall

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                  WryLiltposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  Well writing a hub on a topic means you can give information to thousands of people without having to writ it thousands of times. Check out the FAQ for a guide.

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                  Cagsilposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                  Here is a list of hubs you might consider reading, to help you move forward.
                  
                  Frogdropping and Darkside, respectively, both great hubbers and writers. Their links are below.
                  
                  http://hubpages.com/hub/Hubpages-Help
                  http://hubpages.com/hub/hubpages-blueprint
                  
                  http://hubpages.com/hub/how
                  http://hubpages.com/hub/capsules
                  http://hubpages.com/hub/howhubworks
                  http://hubpages.com/hub/Hubscore
                  http://hubpages.com/hub/hubpages-works
                  
                  Those will get you started.

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                     Rafiniposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                     Do you have this post saved in your computer files to copy and paste whenever there's a new hubber?       (I just find it interesting is all )

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                        Cagsilposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                        Each link is bookmarked. The post is not saved by itself, if that's what you are trying to get to. I took time to post each link. I happen to think that they are two of the better writers who write about HubPages.
                        
                        With regards to help for new people.

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                           Rafiniposted 12 years agoin reply to this

                           I think you're right.
                           (I just found it interesting how you always post the same thing for new hubbers)

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         Pcunixposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         I am quite sure  you have under-estimated the percentage.

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      m334aposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you, you too. I joined literally a few seconds ago and am already getting welcoming responses. I've always been quite the social butterfly so I thought I'd start a post to help others.

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      starme77posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      cmon cagsil give up your social issue problems

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         Cagsilposted 12 years agoin reply to this

         Hey Starme,
         
         I don't have any social problems to speak of, however, I do realize that millions of others do.

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   Rafiniposted 12 years ago

   Hello.  Welcome.
   
   
   I don't know if anyone would be willing to jump into a conversation with you without first knowing your style and knowledge.  A few helpful hubs with forum participation would do the trick.

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   starme77posted 12 years ago

   now the social issues - I have no prob with - everyone knows I'm nuts and they like me that way

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      m334aposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      theres good nuts then bad nuts....i love being nuts and it makes you alive

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   Michael E. Hortonposted 12 years ago

   I feel great.

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   DaMan92posted 12 years ago

   Why is it that everyone feels the need to smoke Marijuana or drink alcohol to fit in with everyone else. if shouldn't these people accept yo for who you are and not try to influence you to do bad stuff.

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   Mike Lickteigposted 12 years ago

   I am shy by nature but trying to do better.  I have made good strides, and I am a reasonably skilled public speaker.  I am somewhat shy in normal social situations, however.......

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