How to deal with ivf failure

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   milenaamrposted 14 years ago

   I had three unsuccessful IVF's myself and the fourth one (Thanks God )was a success. Now I have a beautiful boy one year old. I gain prior my pregnancy 52 kilos from the medication I was required to take for the IVF procedure. But this is just one of the side effect that I don't really remember anymore. The boy keeps me very busy and happy.
   
   What left as a strong memories is not the injection I had to take everyday and the inconvenience from hormonal dis-balance but the dreadful feeling of IVF implantation failure.
   
   I was wondering what you feel about IVF and how would you deal with IVF failure? I believe that writing about it may help other woman going trough this process.

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      CASE1WORKERposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      difficult to advise but I would glory in your beautiful boy and concentrate on what went right not what went wrong.

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         milenaamrposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Oh yes you are totally right. I am going back only because when I was going trough the process I found tons of information about the actual treatment and so much about -if you fail. I believe that writing more about it may help woman that are going trough this now.

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            milenaamrposted 14 years agoin reply to this

            I mean not so much about -if you fail.

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   sofsposted 14 years ago

   Yup, I would go with caseworker, count your blessings don't dwell on failures.. your difficult period I am sure, has made this baby extra precious and special.. Just throw the bad memories into the trash can!! Don't rake them up!!
   
   Congrats and God bless you and your precious child!! 

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      milenaamrposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks, you are absolutely right. Few implantation failures does make baby extra precious and special. I was wondering woman having conceive naturally does she worries to the same extend for her baby as woman conceived with IVF?

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   sofsposted 14 years ago

   The first pregnancy is a little anxiety producing for most women I guess, the bodily changes, the mood swings due to hormonal changes, the food preferences, the slightest illnesses, the discomfort and the disturbance in sleep, the nausea ...this was a trying thing for me.. I puked till the 7th month during both my pregnancies..
   I guess It may be so for normal pregnancies too.. but the stress level may vary a lot.

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      milenaamrposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I think I am over cautious with my baby and that eventually will effect his independence and from there his personality. I remember even the doctor tell me :"We will go with schedule Cesarean because this baby is very important". 
      
      I guess you are right level of stress is different for all of us.  And then come the mom's personality. I wish I am more relax with him.
      
      Thanks for the conversation and God Bless.

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