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The Christmas Show (Without You)

Updated on November 30, 2014
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CrisSp is your Emergency Specialist at 37 thousand feet. A writer without a niche. Wonderwoman consumed by wanderlust!

What is Christmas?

" It is tenderness for the past, courage for the present, hope for the future. It is a fervent wish that every cup may overflow with blessings rich and eternal and that every path may lead to peace." - Agnes M. Pharo

It is ….

"That magic blanket that wraps itself about us, that something so intangible that it is like a fragrance. It may weave a spell of nostalgia. Christmas may be a day of feasting, or of prayer, but always it will be a day of remembrance--a day in which we think of everything we have ever loved." - Augusta E. Rundel

Fresh Christmas tree all lit up and smelling good. ~
Fresh Christmas tree all lit up and smelling good. ~ | Source

Remembering Christmas times

Spent the previous years

When it was jolly and happy

Filled with Christmas glee.


Now there is emptiness and longing

No twinkling eyes and silly giggles

The tradition’s broken-unbound

No merry family gathering at home.


The Christmas tree is unadorned

No family Christmas picture

But the Christmas show must go on

For those who were left behind.


Put up a smiling face, trek out in the cold

Walk the village hand-in-hand

Climb the snowy blue mountain

Hear the bells swinging above the fields of snow.

Gamut of emotions running down the spine

And etched up in the mountain are faces

Of missing family and friends

And those of we used to know.


Those of we cherish and love

And whose sweet scents of love still lingers

The silent laughter that echoes in the air

The bittersweet memories we play in our heads.


In warding off Christmas emptiness

We light the candles back in the house

Where hopeful souls beg to be renewed

In this winter night and wherever we may be.


Love and light to you all,


Candlelight brightens the room, where hope is reborn for peace and goodwill to men. ~
Candlelight brightens the room, where hope is reborn for peace and goodwill to men. ~ | Source

"Darkness broken only by the faint glimmer of the little lamp." ~

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Christmas indeed is the most wonderful time of the year but while we are all having fun and enjoying the season, we cannot ignore the memories of the past with our loved ones who are no longer with us either demised or simply gone to a different direction in life. It can be painful and so to relieve the grief, why not honor them to beat the Christmas blues away. And, may the spirit of Christmas be always in our hearts.

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Here are some suggestions:

1. Talk about them – while it is sometimes painful to bring up memories of our lost loved ones especially at Christmas, it can also be healing to talk about them and remember the memory of the past holidays when they were still living with us. We all have funny stories about Christmas and bringing up these stories will somehow bring the family closer together again.

2. Cook or bake their favorite dish – what better way to remember them but to smell the familiar aroma of their favorite dish or goodies and perhaps make it a tradition to keep the memory of our loved ones alive every season.

3. Watch a movie – by this, I mean a homemade video of our loved ones. We may not be comfortable to do this in the beginning. However, this is certainly a great way to remember them and to feel them dearly during the holiday season. If you don't have any homemade video then perhaps replay one of their favorite films.

4. Make a donation in their names – Christmas is all about gift giving. So, remember the reason for the season. If our loved ones for example passed away from Cancer, we can make a donation towards that particular charitable institution and make it in their names. Better yet, donate the gift of life. Be a blood donor for example to extend other people's lives. It's a great way to be generous and it doesn't cost a penny.

5. Light a Candle – simply light a candle; we may choose to get their favorite scent and let it linger in the air and perhaps say a little prayer to honor them.

Candlelight brightens the room, where hope is reborn for peace and goodwill to men. ~

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© 2012 CrisSp

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      ahorseback 4 years ago

      Yeeeeaaaa ! Im first , You got it girl ! Awesome stuff ........here's what you do! ...........okay close your eyes mostly , squint at the colored lights and feel the emotions of each of the colors , each one different ! Take my hand if they scare you [you know like the grinch color ]Each one a reminder of a hard candy christmas ! Or someones favorite colors . And then some egg nogg !Leaded not unleaded !.......Merry Christmas !.........Ed

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Great suggestions, Cris! It is hard at this time of year if you have lost someone. I lost my dad forty-five years ago and still feel a longing at this time of year. It never goes away, but we can make it a sweet melancholy.

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      travmaj 4 years ago from australia

      Time passes, oh so quickly. Christmas evokes the pull of the past - memories, childhood, parents, friends, relatives long gone. Children grown now with family of their own - it is certainly a time for reflection.

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Thank you Crisp. As I face another Christmas without my love, at least in the physical sense, I found solace in your lovely hub. Making a donation in their name is a wonderful idea and one that my stepdaughter and I did the first Christmas without my husband/her father - and we felt good about that. I just came in from a walk, and then read your story and so it fit, because as I walked around my neighbourhood and looked at the Christmas lights I remembered other Christmases where my love and I would do just that. This hub is very timely and meant to be. Thanks you once again. Voted up and across - except for funny. Hugs.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Welcome back Ed! Yeah, this time you're the first to arrive--thank you. This means a lot to me considering that this is my 50th hub. You took me back in time with your comments and I enjoyed it very much. Good wishes back to you.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Thank you Bill. Sorry about your dad. I understand how you feel...my dear grandmother who raised me died 2 days before Christmas in 1997 and the saddest part was that I wasn't able to kiss her and pay my last respect . I was trapped in the Mid East then and couldn't fly back home. It hurts a lot.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      @travmaj: I love your comments. It is indeed a time for reflection. Thank you for stopping by.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Welcome back to my hub craiglyn. Always a pleasure to see you. I'm sure you had a good walk because you sound refreshed--I like that zest! I love watching and looking at the neighborhoods' Christmas lights, there's just something in them...

      Merry Christmas craiglyn. Thank you for the vote and all. Hugs back to you.

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      Mark G Weller 4 years ago from Lake Charles, LA.

      Celebrating the birth of Jesus who 33 years later would give his life as Christ. In doing so he gave us (You and I) eternal life in peace if we only let him. You gave some good ideas on how to hold the spirit Cris, May yours be blessed and peaceful.

      Mark

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      Cris....This is so so lovely! I really believe that you are 100% right! Many people try to forget or push away the memory of those absent but often it's the memories we need. The memories bring the healing. Thank you for this beautiful hub! Up++ Merry Christmas! xoxo

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Thank you Mark. Peace and love back to you.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Hello Randi, memory is the only thing that can never die. So, what better way to remember our loved ones but through their memories. It is the most powerful way to keep their spirit alive. And, yes it brings healing, if we only let it be.

      Thank you for stopping by Randi. Wishing you back a very merry Christmas.

      Love from the sky~

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this. My Christmas started in 1972 and ended in 2001. In 2010 I was blessed to relive those wonderful memories.

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      ARUN KANTI CHATTERJEE 4 years ago from KOLKATA

      Thank you for the timely hub. Christmas- time for reflection as yet another year is flying by. Recently I have lost my elder brother, a prodigiously talented person. Sweet memories come pouring in giving us the much needed solace. Merry Christmas.

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      Nithya Venkat 4 years ago from Dubai

      A wonderful and a comforting hub, helps to heal and comfort. Great work. Voted up.

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      Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

      CrisSp. I so enjoyed reading this timely Hub. Thank you for the link, too. It is a hard to get through the holidays after you loose a loved one, but we do have beautiful memories of them.

      My heart is still breaking about the little children who died in Conn, and the grieving parents left behind.

      I voted this UP, and will share.

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      dreamseeker2 4 years ago

      Very beautiful! Loved your hub!! Voted up and awesome, what more can I say. : )

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      Live To Write 4 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Very nice hub crisSp , I love yopur poetry already , and this one is certainly no exception Wow

      Voted way up!!!!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Christmas has sadly become a commercialized season. You've put this across very well here! I am sharing this lovely write, Christina.

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 4 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      Your professional work in the stratosphere allows you to have an other-dimensional perspective of the earth below and the human race that inhabits it. This perspective clearly shows up in your writing, and we who have the privilege of reading it are all the more blessed for having done so. Thank you for sharing this wonderful combination of media. I especially enjoyed reading about the different ways one can pay homage to departed loved ones.

      May you and yours have a wonderful and memorable Christmas and New Year's, my friend.

      A great big islander hug from a Pacific Polar Bear (yeah, that was me in the tv series, "Lost." LOL!)

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      Christmas is a time for reflection and remembrance. It is a holy day that still has great merits. We must keep the spirit of the season, what it truly means. You did a fine job on this piece.

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      Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      This is a really wonderful poem for this time of year, when emotions run the gamut, when the music is sometimes happy (Sleighbells ring, are you listenin'? to wistful, like "I'll be home for Christmas.") This year is even harder thinking about those huge losses in Sandy Hook, Conn. Good suggestions to beat the blues.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Hello Martin, I'm glad you had it relived. Sending you (and Arlene) best wishes on Christmas and always. Happy to see you here.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      @Arun, sorry to hear about the passing of your brother. Although we certainly miss the physical presence of our dearly beloved, it's always comforting to know that they're in good hands and at peace with our creator.

      Thank you for stopping by. Best wishes back to you. Happy Christmas!

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Thank you Vellur!

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      I am with you Mary. What a tragedy....heartbreaking. Thank you for your readership, voting up and sharing as well as for linking back. Take care.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      @dreamseeker2: Thank you. May all your dreams come true.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      @Laurinzo: Thank you. I love to play with words and I get inspirations from great poets like you and then of course, it all depends on the mood. (:

      Happy to see you here.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Hello Michelle! Thank you so much. I'm keeping it to the minimum this year but will definitely say a prayer for all the departed specially the new angels in heaven from Connecticut. Hark, the herald angels singing!

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      hawaiianodysseus, my friend- it's a pleasure to have you here and thank you for your kindness. I'm glad I didn't fail your expectations. Gotta get back to that classic "Lost".

      Good wishes back to you on Christmas and New Year.

      Love from the sky~

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      aviannovice--thank you.

      May the spirit of Christmas be always in our hearts.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      xstatic: I personally can't get over yet on the Connecticut School shooting. It's just tragic and can't imagine the pain those families have to deal with specially this Christmas time. Sad, really sad.

      Well, thank you for coming by. Merry Christmas to you.

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Oh CrisSp,

      This is so beautiful, and Christmas is all of that no doubt! It does bring on the blues for many, with the memories of those who have gone on. Personally, thinking of those loved ones and remembering and celebrating their lives at Christmas is a precious gift to have even had those persons in our lives.

      That particular Elvis song is perfect.

      Love the image at the end there too.

      "Rejoice, I will say it again, rejoice!"

      Voted up +++ and sharing

      God bless you. Merry Christmas.

      In His Love Always, Faith Reaper

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      Jim Higgins 4 years ago from Eugene, Oregon

      It was my pleasure CrisSp!

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      Gypsy Rose Lee 4 years ago from Riga, Latvia

      This is so wonderful. And Elvis just makes it perfect. Loved this. In the light of all the tragedy your suggestions about beating the blues are great. Hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.Passing this on.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      FaithReaper, thank you for everything. Merry Christmas to you and yours. See you in the hubland when I get back. Love from the sky~

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Thank you Gypsy. Good wishes back to you on Christmas and always.

      Love from the sky~

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Excellent christmas ideas for one or for many. Either way, I'm wishing you a Merry Christmas.

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Thank you sunshine! Good wishes back to you for Christmas and the coming year.

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      Valleypoet 4 years ago

      I have many happy memories of past Christmas's...it is a little sad also to think that some of those who made the memories so special are no longer here, but I still treasure them. Thank you CrisSp for sharing this wonderful hub:-))

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      I guess, that's all we can keep Valleypoet. Memories of our loved ones not only on Christmas but always. Thank you for stopping by. Merry Christmas to you.

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 4 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      What a wonderful Christmas hub.. thank you from the bottom of my heart.. I am linking this to my Christmas hub..

      God Bless you

      Debbie

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Thank you Debbie. I hope you have wonderful Christmas with your family and friends.

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      ahorseback 4 years ago

      Ouch , ChrisSp , 50 th hub ! did you all hear that , where the heck have I been ! oh I know I think I got stuck on the little black dress thingy !Sorry ...I do love your hubs ! I got the hub stutters !....Merry Christmas Chris A Big HUb Hug to ya!..............Ed

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      CrisSp 4 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Hello Ed, I always enjoy your comments *smile*. You're so nice and kind--thank you. I hope you had a great Christmas. Hugs back!

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      Wayne Barrett 3 years ago from Clearwater Florida

      Thank you for sharing this with us Cristina. I hope you have a Merry Christmas.

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      CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Thank you Wayne and good wishes back to you.

      Love from the sky~

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      ologsinquito 3 years ago from USA

      This article will strike a nerve with so many people. Christmas is very difficult, especially the first year or two after losing a loved one.

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      CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      ologsinquito: I know it does and that is kind of sad...thank you for stopping by. Much appreciated.

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      Lisa J Warner 3 years ago from Conneticut, USA

      Wonderful!

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      CraftytotheCore 3 years ago

      Beautiful words. This year is hard for me because I just lost my grandfather (who adopted me). My grandmother passed away just after Christmas seven years ago too. But I do have extraordinary memories of Christmas spent with them when they were here.

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      Word 3 years ago from Chicago

      CrisSp, This is good. At Christmas we must enjoy living from the past, at the present and toward the future with love. Thanks for the good reminders.

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      CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Thank You Lisa Luv!

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      CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      CraftytotheCore: I'm sorry...I wish you well. Thank you for stopping by. Love to you from the sky~

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      CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      word55: Thank you.

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      Very beautiful and helpful I am sure. Sorry I missed it this long. ^

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      CrisSp 3 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      Hello Jackie! Don't be sorry...I'm very much behind my reading too. :) Merry Christmas!

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