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   Helen Bea Kirkposted 6 years ago

   If the ocean is literature; in your opinion, where or what is written Porn?

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      Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I heard, it is not the size of the boat, but the motion of the ocean, that counts,

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      Live to Learnposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I would say porn was something like the Gulf Stream.

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         Will Apseposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         Which is hard on Ireland.

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            Live to Learnposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            That was quite good.

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         Helen Bea Kirkposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         Do you think written porn is necessary or important?

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            Will Apseposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            If it is necessary or important to you, then that is the way that it is.
            
            You could explain why, of course. We are are rapt.

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            Live to Learnposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            I've never read porn so I'm shooting in the dark here with the answer but, no, I don't think it is necessary because the mind of the reader will gravitate in that direction by itself if the characters and their relationships are compelling enough.  I think in a lot of ways it could be described as a crutch for the lazy mind, voyeurism even.

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               Helen Bea Kirkposted 6 years agoin reply to this

               You are correct about the human mind; we can take the ball and run with it. This fact technically makes written porn irrelevant. So why has written porn risen in popularity? Writers, particularly Indie authors, have flooded self publishing channels with oodles of five-thousand word porn stories. Is it supply and demand at work here, or what?

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                  Live to Learnposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                  I think the key words there are 'self publishing channels'. That tells me it hasn't necessarily gained in popularity. The term I would use for what these writers are doing isn't acceptable to use in mixed company.

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                     Helen Bea Kirkposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                     Point well made.

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      psycheskinnerposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      Sex is a part of life, so people write about it.  Those who are not interested don't need to take part.

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   Helen Bea Kirkposted 6 years ago

   Very funny.

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      Will Apseposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      You were lucky to get a reply.

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         Helen Bea Kirkposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         Seriously? This is a super important subject with vast numbers of indie authors dabbling in it. I take it you would rather not see a question like this?

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   Helen Bea Kirkposted 6 years ago

   It's the cart and horse thing. Is it the urge to read porn that comes first or the author putting their porn in the face of a  reader? Curious.

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      psycheskinnerposted 6 years agoin reply to this

      I don't see that is matters.  The written word is something one must choose to engage with, and adults do with that what they want.  I both read and write erotica and consider it a healthy and pro-social hobby to help people express and enjoy their sexual identities.
      
      And it is a fairly popular genre, because sexuality is part of many people's identities in a way they are comfortable with exploring.  The last symposium I was at involved sever writers winners awards in erotic genres.  Almost all of us were well-balanced profession women in our middle or later years with an interest in sexuality--not some kind of pervert posse.
      
      Normal sexuality exists in our world as a good thing, and more than anything it is secrecy and shame that allows abusive forms of sexuality to flourish. It makes victims of sex crimes feel ashamed and guilty when they should not and teaches people not to distinguish between healthy sexuality and abusive relationships.
      
      It need not be a particular interest for any given person, but there is nothing at all wrong or abnormal in having an interest in sex, including entertainment that has sexual themes.

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         Helen Bea Kirkposted 6 years agoin reply to this

         If what is written doesn't matter, why do you do it?

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            psycheskinnerposted 6 years agoin reply to this

            I think if you read what i wrote again you will see that I expressed several ways in which it matters, specifically in helping people explore and develop their sexuality, and helping people learn to differentiate between healthy sexuality and disordered sexuality.

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               Helen Bea Kirkposted 6 years agoin reply to this

               Are you a therapist?

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                  Will Apseposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                  I think she just has a torch and enjoys poking around in the dark.

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                     Castlepalomaposted 6 years agoin reply to this

                     Sometimes she sounds like a therapist.
                     She makes many insightful comments, I don't give her enough credit for.
                     
                     Here is to you psycheskinner!

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   Will Apseposted 6 years ago

   A well made point is a thing of beauty.

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   Will Apseposted 6 years ago

   A few of  the characteristics of porn so far unmentioned:
   
   An addictive quality for some
   A continual return to unresolved issues, without any hope of progressing past them for many
   Avoidance of real relationships
   Erectile dysfunction in a notable number of male users
   Feelings of guilt and shame for many
   Energy sunk into an unproductive pursuit
   Unrealistic portrayals of human beings, especially women
   
   Not that have I anything special against porn. Human beings are a funny lot.

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